I think Carla from Scrubs said it best when she said, ';There is no Shangri-La ya know. Every relationship is messed up. What makes it perfect is if you still wanna be there when things really suck.';What's the best relationship advice someone has given you?...or can give?
The best thing for any relationship is open, honest communication, right from the start. And when thing get rough, which they inevitably will from time to time, don't automatically give up. Relationships are a lot of work. But the rewards far outweigh the work.What's the best relationship advice someone has given you?...or can give?
dont rush into things, take your time. make sure you can trust them and they are honest with you. certainly dont rush to get married, bcos if it doesnt end well then only have the hazzle of divorce, and it isnt worth it, just make sure you really love that person and they love you back!
My father told me that all men, him included, have something wrong with them. It's up to us women to decide whether we want to overlook it and deal with it or tell the guy to get lost.
the best i can give is be urself..
its old i kno!..but if they liked u before u knew then
they'll still like u if ya'll 2 go out :)
Friday, January 8, 2010
Can anyone give me relationship advice?
I'm a single mother to a 1 year old baby. I've been going out with a guy for just over 3 months who lives in my town and i met on myspace. We met up in person and hit it off straight away, sat chatting for hours and forgot about going to the cinema like we'd planned. He'd stay over2 or 3 nights a week and come round some evenings or I'd meet up with him occasionally. He was quite shy but really keen and would text after we'd met up to say what a nice time he'd had. He came out of a 5 year relationship at Christmas, he's 24 a year younger than me and his ex is 21 now.
Everything was great and things were going brilliantly until he started a new job working 6 til 6 and every saturday morning. I also started working monday evenings. He now babysits for me every Monday, I see him briefly when he arrives and he goes home almost straight away when I'm back. He'll come round on a Tuesday evening but even fell asleep once time he's so tired! He usually goes to friends, car meets or does...Can anyone give me relationship advice?
you both need to sit down and talk there is no need to work so many hours at all remember the old saying you work to live not live to work your relationship is doomed this will rip yous apart get some normality into your lives it is no good for baby at all share life good luck DaveCan anyone give me relationship advice?
next time, if u r still single, keep your legs close
Well, 3 months isn't long. Give him another 3 months and see what happens. You will be able to tell if things are getting better or not by then.
Good luck.
I am more than a little concerned that this man is spending more time alone with your child then with you. Please be careful.
Yes... What are you asking exactly?
How can you see him more often?
You may have to figure into mundane tasks, such as dinner, laundry, grocery shopping, etc.
You could try to line up your schedules and see what would work out best. You are limited by having a baby, so you should try to use what flexibility he has in working things out.
From the added details, it looks like he needs to make more of a commitment to see you more of his off nights.
personally he's a working man from the time that u said on that thing, seems pretty long wouldn't you be tired too? but as far as the ex goes if he's not talking to her that you no of then its all good, if he stills calls you once or twice or his break or on his break or when he gets chance, then it all good. And if he don't then maybe you should request one of the date that he goes to his so called car meets or whatever they are and find a baby sitter and ask him if u can go with him and if he says no then let it go and follow him and or if u know any of his friends number that he goes to the car meet,call his friends and ask him when was there last car meet but find a babysitter and ask him can u go first before u start investigating and that's if u like him that much to do all that or if he has a cell phone then call him the time that he says that he is at his car meeting and ask him whats hes doing where hes at but don't be mean with it just make it sound like u were checking on him to c if things were going ok and tell him u miss him or something. But don't make it obvious and try to listen to his background on the slide.
Congratulations. You're married.
ummm....he is soo busy but where do you fit in? Nowhere, you might as well start dating again I doubt it if he notices.
does what? lol
I'm not sure what you are asking. It sounds like everything is fine between you, you're just going through an adjustment period. If you're not sure, ask him directly. Don't harrass him about being tired but make sure that's all it is. If you are feeling neglected because of his time out with friends, tell him so. The relationship is young, you need to develop strong communication. Good luck to the two of you.
the length of his previous relationship indicates that he is commited and i don't think he would walk away because of pressure , however u both really should cut down work hours u will drift apart if u don't . i think u should both compromise a little too. follow your heart too .
best of luck to u .
You've written a lot here without categorically stating your question.However, for any relationship to work the physical presence of both partners is importan.Both of you have to sit down and work out a routine that will enable both of you to spend more time together.
you should find a man, 10 years is acceptable, 20 + is not.
at least u have sumone... most men knowing that you are a single mother would look at you twice and keep it moving... but you should really tell him how you feel and express that you need him at a moment of time but he rather hang out with his friends... which is crazy if you are tired and all... but jus take sum time off of your own.. and have a girls night out and stop stressing it, he will come around eventually if not you know what you have to do.. and make the right decision.. and i know you will...
You are still in the early stages of the relationship. He needs to be treated more like a boyfriend than a baby sitter. Sounds like he is over worked and probably tired by the time you get there and needs a break. He obviously cares about you and the child or he wouldn't be doing all of this. Try not to ask so much of him and make sure he knows how much you appreciate what he has already done.
Whoa!! I agree with some of the other posts. Way too fast.... and for you to let someone you met on MySpace only 3 months ago, babysit your 1 year old baby is just plain NUTS!!
He's probably feeling the relationship is going to fast also. You've got him watching your baby for goodness sakes. He's not wanting to ';babysit'; someones child. He wants someone he can spend his time with and still have free time for himself.
I'd suggest you find someone else, to watch your child and get to know him better.
I must say that for 3 months, your relationship is going quite fast. You're even letting him baby-sit your baby. I would advise that you slow your relationship down a bit. 3 months isn't quite enough time to trust him completely.
But in reference to your dilemma, I will say that it appears he cares for you. Yet the fact that he leaves immediately is something you should beware of. It's possible he might not be taking the relationship quite as seriously as you. Talk to him. Tell him that you care for him, and would like to see him more often. See how he responds. If it's good, then both of you should make an attempt to see each other by hanging out on Sundays, having dinners together, lunch breaks, etc.. If he isn't looking at your relationship the same as you, then it's best to move on. You have a new baby in your life, that's a priority.
So whats your point? Is this a question or your diary?
Everything was great and things were going brilliantly until he started a new job working 6 til 6 and every saturday morning. I also started working monday evenings. He now babysits for me every Monday, I see him briefly when he arrives and he goes home almost straight away when I'm back. He'll come round on a Tuesday evening but even fell asleep once time he's so tired! He usually goes to friends, car meets or does...Can anyone give me relationship advice?
you both need to sit down and talk there is no need to work so many hours at all remember the old saying you work to live not live to work your relationship is doomed this will rip yous apart get some normality into your lives it is no good for baby at all share life good luck DaveCan anyone give me relationship advice?
next time, if u r still single, keep your legs close
Well, 3 months isn't long. Give him another 3 months and see what happens. You will be able to tell if things are getting better or not by then.
Good luck.
I am more than a little concerned that this man is spending more time alone with your child then with you. Please be careful.
Yes... What are you asking exactly?
How can you see him more often?
You may have to figure into mundane tasks, such as dinner, laundry, grocery shopping, etc.
You could try to line up your schedules and see what would work out best. You are limited by having a baby, so you should try to use what flexibility he has in working things out.
From the added details, it looks like he needs to make more of a commitment to see you more of his off nights.
personally he's a working man from the time that u said on that thing, seems pretty long wouldn't you be tired too? but as far as the ex goes if he's not talking to her that you no of then its all good, if he stills calls you once or twice or his break or on his break or when he gets chance, then it all good. And if he don't then maybe you should request one of the date that he goes to his so called car meets or whatever they are and find a baby sitter and ask him if u can go with him and if he says no then let it go and follow him and or if u know any of his friends number that he goes to the car meet,call his friends and ask him when was there last car meet but find a babysitter and ask him can u go first before u start investigating and that's if u like him that much to do all that or if he has a cell phone then call him the time that he says that he is at his car meeting and ask him whats hes doing where hes at but don't be mean with it just make it sound like u were checking on him to c if things were going ok and tell him u miss him or something. But don't make it obvious and try to listen to his background on the slide.
Congratulations. You're married.
ummm....he is soo busy but where do you fit in? Nowhere, you might as well start dating again I doubt it if he notices.
does what? lol
I'm not sure what you are asking. It sounds like everything is fine between you, you're just going through an adjustment period. If you're not sure, ask him directly. Don't harrass him about being tired but make sure that's all it is. If you are feeling neglected because of his time out with friends, tell him so. The relationship is young, you need to develop strong communication. Good luck to the two of you.
the length of his previous relationship indicates that he is commited and i don't think he would walk away because of pressure , however u both really should cut down work hours u will drift apart if u don't . i think u should both compromise a little too. follow your heart too .
best of luck to u .
You've written a lot here without categorically stating your question.However, for any relationship to work the physical presence of both partners is importan.Both of you have to sit down and work out a routine that will enable both of you to spend more time together.
you should find a man, 10 years is acceptable, 20 + is not.
at least u have sumone... most men knowing that you are a single mother would look at you twice and keep it moving... but you should really tell him how you feel and express that you need him at a moment of time but he rather hang out with his friends... which is crazy if you are tired and all... but jus take sum time off of your own.. and have a girls night out and stop stressing it, he will come around eventually if not you know what you have to do.. and make the right decision.. and i know you will...
You are still in the early stages of the relationship. He needs to be treated more like a boyfriend than a baby sitter. Sounds like he is over worked and probably tired by the time you get there and needs a break. He obviously cares about you and the child or he wouldn't be doing all of this. Try not to ask so much of him and make sure he knows how much you appreciate what he has already done.
Whoa!! I agree with some of the other posts. Way too fast.... and for you to let someone you met on MySpace only 3 months ago, babysit your 1 year old baby is just plain NUTS!!
He's probably feeling the relationship is going to fast also. You've got him watching your baby for goodness sakes. He's not wanting to ';babysit'; someones child. He wants someone he can spend his time with and still have free time for himself.
I'd suggest you find someone else, to watch your child and get to know him better.
I must say that for 3 months, your relationship is going quite fast. You're even letting him baby-sit your baby. I would advise that you slow your relationship down a bit. 3 months isn't quite enough time to trust him completely.
But in reference to your dilemma, I will say that it appears he cares for you. Yet the fact that he leaves immediately is something you should beware of. It's possible he might not be taking the relationship quite as seriously as you. Talk to him. Tell him that you care for him, and would like to see him more often. See how he responds. If it's good, then both of you should make an attempt to see each other by hanging out on Sundays, having dinners together, lunch breaks, etc.. If he isn't looking at your relationship the same as you, then it's best to move on. You have a new baby in your life, that's a priority.
So whats your point? Is this a question or your diary?
I need long distance relationship advice. Thanks!?
I have been dating a guy that I met initially over facebook for a while now. (He and I know a lot of the same people and so I did some checking on him before I started really talking to him...) He and I have talked for a minimum of two hours a day over the phone since we started talking on the phone. We've met a few times in person, but he lives an hour and a half away. I've bought a webcam so now we can see each other there, but I'm having trouble overcoming the distance thing. He should be coming back to school either next semester or next year, but what can I do until then when we can't see each other often? Any help is much appreciated!!! Thanks!I need long distance relationship advice. Thanks!?
If you really like him then you can overcome the distance and make effort to see one another. Perhaps meet eachother in the middle.. that would only take 45 minutes travel for each of you.I need long distance relationship advice. Thanks!?
IT DONT WORK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
You live a hour and a half away? That is my daily commute. Go see him on the weekends.
You call that long distance ????
You make me laugh !
My guy lives 15 hours flying away
from me !
Trust me ! You can work THAT out !
The reason that a guy (or girl) so far away is attarctive is that we tend to fill in all the details we don't know ('cause were not around them) optimistically... in other words, we tend to make them into what we want them to be.
Do yourself a favor and find guys that are closer to you. That doesn't mean you can't still be friends with Mr. too-far-away, just don't convince yourself that he is the only one for you... he's not, I promise.
Just remember that most things look good from a distance...
youre the second person that does, this..1.5 hrs, that';s nothing i drive that far to work every day....c'mon where the heck are you ppl from, so lazy....living nature
If you really like him then you can overcome the distance and make effort to see one another. Perhaps meet eachother in the middle.. that would only take 45 minutes travel for each of you.I need long distance relationship advice. Thanks!?
IT DONT WORK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
You live a hour and a half away? That is my daily commute. Go see him on the weekends.
You call that long distance ????
You make me laugh !
My guy lives 15 hours flying away
from me !
Trust me ! You can work THAT out !
The reason that a guy (or girl) so far away is attarctive is that we tend to fill in all the details we don't know ('cause were not around them) optimistically... in other words, we tend to make them into what we want them to be.
Do yourself a favor and find guys that are closer to you. That doesn't mean you can't still be friends with Mr. too-far-away, just don't convince yourself that he is the only one for you... he's not, I promise.
Just remember that most things look good from a distance...
youre the second person that does, this..1.5 hrs, that';s nothing i drive that far to work every day....c'mon where the heck are you ppl from, so lazy....
Did i give my friend the right relationship advice? was i to pushey? & more questions.
so my friend says to me, i need your advice on this guy. she has been dating this guy for a few weeks and says that he has been talking about wanting to marry her. but she did not know wether or not she was ready for that commitment. here is what i said exzactly,
- well to tell you the truth, you are not. no 16 yr old is. you both have a lot of growing and changeing to do, plus both of you are not ready to support your needs when it comes to buying a place to stay and what f you two decide to have a baby? are you ready for someone to depend on you 247? and what about school? how would you juggle school, trying to live on your own, a job and living expenses? you see what i am saying is that majority of teenage marriges do not last, plus you may think you made a big mistake later on. all i am saying if it was truly ment to be it will last, marriage or not. plus if you were ready you would not be questioning wether you are or not.
-then she says, ok, i do like him tho. even when we split up for a weekend he is the only person i ever wanted to talk to
-then i say back,
ok, well all i am saying is to slow it down and really get to know him on a personal level. ask him about marriage, like if we were married what would we do for jobs, kids, living, school, etc. but do let him know where you stand and where the line is drawn.
its ironic how my friends come to me for relationship advice, when i havent even had my first bf yet. rofl!
was i way to puishey on my opionon that i drounded out her feelings? was i to firm? should i even have said it like that? did i give her the right advice? please tell me what you think.Did i give my friend the right relationship advice? was i to pushey? %26amp; more questions.
you gave her perfect advice! they've only been dating a few weeks and they are 16! it sounds more like they want to play like they are adults instead of acting like them!Did i give my friend the right relationship advice? was i to pushey? %26amp; more questions.
I think you gave her awesome advice - what a great friend! The majority of young marriages don't last. People do change, and then they realize there are thousands of fish in the sea. I think she needs to hear this from you, as well as from other people. That way she will think twice and slow things down.
I think you gave great advice besides the fact you should have questioned why he is talking about marriage so early in the relationship...kinda creepy....but as far as your approach on telling her...it was straight to the point and accurate, most teenage marriages don't work....but at the end of the day its her decision...so if she chooses to be bound by marriage so young...her decision...goodbye freedom and youth hello bills and rent!
- well to tell you the truth, you are not. no 16 yr old is. you both have a lot of growing and changeing to do, plus both of you are not ready to support your needs when it comes to buying a place to stay and what f you two decide to have a baby? are you ready for someone to depend on you 247? and what about school? how would you juggle school, trying to live on your own, a job and living expenses? you see what i am saying is that majority of teenage marriges do not last, plus you may think you made a big mistake later on. all i am saying if it was truly ment to be it will last, marriage or not. plus if you were ready you would not be questioning wether you are or not.
-then she says, ok, i do like him tho. even when we split up for a weekend he is the only person i ever wanted to talk to
-then i say back,
ok, well all i am saying is to slow it down and really get to know him on a personal level. ask him about marriage, like if we were married what would we do for jobs, kids, living, school, etc. but do let him know where you stand and where the line is drawn.
its ironic how my friends come to me for relationship advice, when i havent even had my first bf yet. rofl!
was i way to puishey on my opionon that i drounded out her feelings? was i to firm? should i even have said it like that? did i give her the right advice? please tell me what you think.Did i give my friend the right relationship advice? was i to pushey? %26amp; more questions.
you gave her perfect advice! they've only been dating a few weeks and they are 16! it sounds more like they want to play like they are adults instead of acting like them!Did i give my friend the right relationship advice? was i to pushey? %26amp; more questions.
I think you gave her awesome advice - what a great friend! The majority of young marriages don't last. People do change, and then they realize there are thousands of fish in the sea. I think she needs to hear this from you, as well as from other people. That way she will think twice and slow things down.
I think you gave great advice besides the fact you should have questioned why he is talking about marriage so early in the relationship...kinda creepy....but as far as your approach on telling her...it was straight to the point and accurate, most teenage marriages don't work....but at the end of the day its her decision...so if she chooses to be bound by marriage so young...her decision...goodbye freedom and youth hello bills and rent!
I need long-term relationship advice, please?
I have been dating my boyfriend for 3 years.
I'm 17 years old and I've been dating him since I was 14.
Over the past year or less..things have not been their prime.
I've kissed 2 other guys a long while ago that I won't tell him about..and I keep flirting with other guys. When it comes down to it...I really do love him, and I love his family. I don't want to break up with him, because I feel we are meant to be in for the long run, even though our relationship is not at its most stable right now.
I can't figure out why I'm flirtatious with other guys. In a sense I do feel guilty, in a sense, I don't.
Can someone please analyze me without being rude or ignorant?
Thanks in advance.I need long-term relationship advice, please?
youre young. you wanna have fun. its normal. youve been with this guy since you were 14. you missed part of your adolescense by sticking to one guy when you really should be dating. as much as you love being with him, youre too young to be in a serious relationship. take a break and be single before you end up cheating on him which can lead to terrible heartache for both ends. good luckI need long-term relationship advice, please?
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I'm 17 years old and I've been dating him since I was 14.
Over the past year or less..things have not been their prime.
I've kissed 2 other guys a long while ago that I won't tell him about..and I keep flirting with other guys. When it comes down to it...I really do love him, and I love his family. I don't want to break up with him, because I feel we are meant to be in for the long run, even though our relationship is not at its most stable right now.
I can't figure out why I'm flirtatious with other guys. In a sense I do feel guilty, in a sense, I don't.
Can someone please analyze me without being rude or ignorant?
Thanks in advance.I need long-term relationship advice, please?
youre young. you wanna have fun. its normal. youve been with this guy since you were 14. you missed part of your adolescense by sticking to one guy when you really should be dating. as much as you love being with him, youre too young to be in a serious relationship. take a break and be single before you end up cheating on him which can lead to terrible heartache for both ends. good luckI need long-term relationship advice, please?
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Relationship Advice, Quick Question. Guys and Girls.?
Is saying things like ';Hey baby'; ';Hey cutie'; ';Hey beautiful'; equivalent to saying ';You are so beautiful'; ';I love you, you mean so much to me'; ';I would rather be with no one but you'; ?
What is the difference?Relationship Advice, Quick Question. Guys and Girls.?
The first sound more casual. They're ways of addressing someone....the second is an actual comment. The second probably are more serious though somebody could just be lying.
HarrietRelationship Advice, Quick Question. Guys and Girls.?
Things said such as... Hey baby, Hey cutie, and Hey beautiful, etc. are more focused on outward appearance.
Things such as You are so beautiful, I love you, you mean so much to me, and I would rather be with no one but you, etc. are generally more focused on attraction toward personality.
the difference is hey beautiful is casual.
saying you are beautiful is more serious. huge difference- its like asking is a one night stand equivalent to a relationship
hell no it's not. People say hey cutie all the time, kinda like a courtesy. telling u ';i love u, u mean so much to me'; means just that.
not really,
its like the person saying you are terrific and thinking the person means you are the best in the world.
...
I guess, it's the lazy way of saying how you feel
they are stuff just to make girls feel good about themselves lol
no they are play names for sex.
Not at all. Why would it be?
What is the difference?Relationship Advice, Quick Question. Guys and Girls.?
The first sound more casual. They're ways of addressing someone....the second is an actual comment. The second probably are more serious though somebody could just be lying.
HarrietRelationship Advice, Quick Question. Guys and Girls.?
Things said such as... Hey baby, Hey cutie, and Hey beautiful, etc. are more focused on outward appearance.
Things such as You are so beautiful, I love you, you mean so much to me, and I would rather be with no one but you, etc. are generally more focused on attraction toward personality.
the difference is hey beautiful is casual.
saying you are beautiful is more serious. huge difference- its like asking is a one night stand equivalent to a relationship
hell no it's not. People say hey cutie all the time, kinda like a courtesy. telling u ';i love u, u mean so much to me'; means just that.
not really,
its like the person saying you are terrific and thinking the person means you are the best in the world.
...
I guess, it's the lazy way of saying how you feel
they are stuff just to make girls feel good about themselves lol
no they are play names for sex.
Not at all. Why would it be?
Relationship advice please ladies?
I like this girl, she says she likes me, we fool around when we see each other but she only has about 1 day a week to spend with me, I don't think shes really busy all the time... What should I do? I know my question is lacking details lolRelationship advice please ladies?
If you think she isn't always busy, it could be that she's really not into it. She could be pulling the stereotypical man routine, only coming around because of the sex (or sexual activities). I find that communication is the BEST way. Ask her out; tell her you like her and you want more than just a friends with benefits thing. If she's not interested, then it's up to you to choose what you want. If you're ok with fooling around once a week, then that's ok. If you don't want that, then end it. I hope it works out for you!
Added: If she tells you she's not ready for a relationship, then all she's into is fooling around with you, which goes back to if that's all you want to do with her then that's your choice. If you want more from her, then I'd cut her off! lol No more fooling around for her!Relationship advice please ladies?
Haha it would be better with a bit more details but let's see what I can offer!
I guess you should find out what the heck she does all the other nights of the week. Unless of course you know and just didn't put it in the question lol.
I'd say if you both think it can work than go for it-if it's ment to work then everything will work out and she wont be busy the other nights.
Hope that helped, even just a little.
Good Luck!
i kno how she feels cuz im just like the girl in that,
im sure its not that she doesnt wanna chill with you but shes gotta chill with her girls to probly and she doesnt wanna say no to chillin with her girls to fool around with you cuz that makes her sound bad but if you asked her out it would be easier for her to just say she cant chill with her girls cuz shes chillin with her boyfriend,
atleast thats how i see it i could be wrong on how yur girls feelin
she probably is telling the truth, from person experience ha. thats how i am, im usually always doing something and just have the weekends to chill. i would find a mutual friend and kinda see if they can find out what she thinks. if your planning to ask her out, i would do it when your hanging out and just casually bring it up. whatever you do donnnnt do it over text or phone cause most girls rather it be in person.
she's fishing...i would not fooling around with her...i think she 's busy with other guys on other days...doing the same thin with them that she is doing with you...does she work?...extra school activities...college bound..?..A+ student...if no than you're right she's not that busy she's playing you and it's working for her....
messing around is okay and fun but you need to ask her on a proper date if you like her! and proper does not include movies! how can you get to know eachother and talk while a movie is playing..
tell her you like hanging out and youd like to see more of her, and then ask her when shes free next week. if shes still really busy just suggest doing lunch or bringing her lunch one day..
goodluck!!
if yu can trust her...........
ga aaaaaaaaaa i have trust issues%26gt;
if she said SHE LIKES YU THAN SHE WANTS YU TO ASK HER OUT!
so..
ask her out :)
and put axe on
OHH IT SMEELLS SO GEWD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! its like a drug to me lol!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
to start out dont mess around it ruins relationships
trust me on this i am the queen on ruining relationships
ask her out and stop messing around ok
Ask her if shes serious. be straigh with her.
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I think your girl is already taken. Just be contented on the 1's a week time she give you than nothing at all, or you better let her go.
spend the one day a week with her...get yourself five other girls for the rest of the week.....and rest on Sundays.
well its good to have space in between seeing each other makes that's more intense when you get together.
ask her out,
Then maybe you will see her more, just grow some balls xD jk
I don't know...why can't you just tell her how you feel...it'll be easier in the long run. ask her things like that.
hey im not a lady buddy
ask her what she wants a relationship or being friends
If you think she isn't always busy, it could be that she's really not into it. She could be pulling the stereotypical man routine, only coming around because of the sex (or sexual activities). I find that communication is the BEST way. Ask her out; tell her you like her and you want more than just a friends with benefits thing. If she's not interested, then it's up to you to choose what you want. If you're ok with fooling around once a week, then that's ok. If you don't want that, then end it. I hope it works out for you!
Added: If she tells you she's not ready for a relationship, then all she's into is fooling around with you, which goes back to if that's all you want to do with her then that's your choice. If you want more from her, then I'd cut her off! lol No more fooling around for her!Relationship advice please ladies?
Haha it would be better with a bit more details but let's see what I can offer!
I guess you should find out what the heck she does all the other nights of the week. Unless of course you know and just didn't put it in the question lol.
I'd say if you both think it can work than go for it-if it's ment to work then everything will work out and she wont be busy the other nights.
Hope that helped, even just a little.
Good Luck!
i kno how she feels cuz im just like the girl in that,
im sure its not that she doesnt wanna chill with you but shes gotta chill with her girls to probly and she doesnt wanna say no to chillin with her girls to fool around with you cuz that makes her sound bad but if you asked her out it would be easier for her to just say she cant chill with her girls cuz shes chillin with her boyfriend,
atleast thats how i see it i could be wrong on how yur girls feelin
she probably is telling the truth, from person experience ha. thats how i am, im usually always doing something and just have the weekends to chill. i would find a mutual friend and kinda see if they can find out what she thinks. if your planning to ask her out, i would do it when your hanging out and just casually bring it up. whatever you do donnnnt do it over text or phone cause most girls rather it be in person.
she's fishing...i would not fooling around with her...i think she 's busy with other guys on other days...doing the same thin with them that she is doing with you...does she work?...extra school activities...college bound..?..A+ student...if no than you're right she's not that busy she's playing you and it's working for her....
messing around is okay and fun but you need to ask her on a proper date if you like her! and proper does not include movies! how can you get to know eachother and talk while a movie is playing..
tell her you like hanging out and youd like to see more of her, and then ask her when shes free next week. if shes still really busy just suggest doing lunch or bringing her lunch one day..
goodluck!!
if yu can trust her...........
ga aaaaaaaaaa i have trust issues%26gt;
if she said SHE LIKES YU THAN SHE WANTS YU TO ASK HER OUT!
so..
ask her out :)
and put axe on
OHH IT SMEELLS SO GEWD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! its like a drug to me lol!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
to start out dont mess around it ruins relationships
trust me on this i am the queen on ruining relationships
ask her out and stop messing around ok
Ask her if shes serious. be straigh with her.
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I think your girl is already taken. Just be contented on the 1's a week time she give you than nothing at all, or you better let her go.
spend the one day a week with her...get yourself five other girls for the rest of the week.....and rest on Sundays.
well its good to have space in between seeing each other makes that's more intense when you get together.
ask her out,
Then maybe you will see her more, just grow some balls xD jk
I don't know...why can't you just tell her how you feel...it'll be easier in the long run. ask her things like that.
hey im not a lady buddy
ask her what she wants a relationship or being friends
Relationship advice???? PLZ help 10 points :D?
My grandpa is old fat, lazy and reaks of ginger ale, how do i end this madness?Relationship advice???? PLZ help 10 points :D?
You love your grandpa while you can and accept him for who he is.What a terrible thing to say about your grandpa who probably loves you unconditionally.
You love your grandpa while you can and accept him for who he is.What a terrible thing to say about your grandpa who probably loves you unconditionally.
Relationship advice needed. I'm 20 btw?
I am in a relationship with another girl from my uni who is also 20. Things are going great, we get along really well together. However, i am still a virgin and i know she is not. I guess i don't really know how to break it to her as its not that common here at 20. I doubt she'll care too much as shes pretty relaxed about most things.
Should i even tell her at all? I guess im worried about being terrible and then scaring her offRelationship advice needed. I'm 20 btw?
Be honest with her. Tell her when you're feeling comfortable during a casual chat or something. It's always best to be open and honest in a relationship. It'll be better for your first time as well, that way you won't feel so self conscious about your performance.living nature
Should i even tell her at all? I guess im worried about being terrible and then scaring her offRelationship advice needed. I'm 20 btw?
Be honest with her. Tell her when you're feeling comfortable during a casual chat or something. It's always best to be open and honest in a relationship. It'll be better for your first time as well, that way you won't feel so self conscious about your performance.
Did i give my friend the right relationship advice? was i to pushey? & more questions.
so my friend says to me, i need your advice on this guy. she has been dating this guy for a few weeks and says that he has been talking about wanting to marry her. but she did not know wether or not she was ready for that commitment. here is what i said exzactly,
- well to tell you the truth, you are not. no 16 yr old is. you both have a lot of growing and changeing to do, plus both of you are not ready to support your needs when it comes to buying a place to stay and what f you two decide to have a baby? are you ready for someone to depend on you 247? and what about school? how would you juggle school, trying to live on your own, a job and living expenses? you see what i am saying is that majority of teenage marriges do not last, plus you may think you made a big mistake later on. all i am saying if it was truly ment to be it will last, marriage or not. plus if you were ready you would not be questioning wether you are or not.
-then she says, ok, i do like him tho. even when we split up for a weekend he is the only person i ever wanted to talk to
-then i say back,
ok, well all i am saying is to slow it down and really get to know him on a personal level. ask him about marriage, like if we were married what would we do for jobs, kids, living, school, etc. but do let him know where you stand and where the line is drawn.
its ironic how my friends come to me for relationship advice, when i havent even had my first bf yet. rofl!
was i way to puishey on my opionon that i drounded out her feelings? was i to firm? should i even have said it like that? did i give her the right advice? please tell me what you think.Did i give my friend the right relationship advice? was i to pushey? %26amp; more questions.
Your advice was excellent. You poured a cold dose of reality on her head, which was exactly what she needed.
Did i give my friend the right relationship advice? was i to pushey? %26amp; more questions.
Sounds like you are way more mature than she is. Unfortunately, too many girls think they have to rush into relationships, sex, and marraige. She has a whole life ahead of her. In fact, I don't think ANYONE should get married before they are 25...because as a young adult, there will be MANY changes in your lives.
I think you gave her great advice, it wasn't pushy, but a good reality check for her. I just hopes she takes your advice. And when you fall for your first guy, you remember it too! :0)
I think you gave her great advice. I am so glad you have a good head on your shoulders!
Don't feel bad if she doesn't listen to your advice though....
But who knows how long it will last?
Best advice-If its truly meant to be it will last, marriage or not.
Good for you!
- well to tell you the truth, you are not. no 16 yr old is. you both have a lot of growing and changeing to do, plus both of you are not ready to support your needs when it comes to buying a place to stay and what f you two decide to have a baby? are you ready for someone to depend on you 247? and what about school? how would you juggle school, trying to live on your own, a job and living expenses? you see what i am saying is that majority of teenage marriges do not last, plus you may think you made a big mistake later on. all i am saying if it was truly ment to be it will last, marriage or not. plus if you were ready you would not be questioning wether you are or not.
-then she says, ok, i do like him tho. even when we split up for a weekend he is the only person i ever wanted to talk to
-then i say back,
ok, well all i am saying is to slow it down and really get to know him on a personal level. ask him about marriage, like if we were married what would we do for jobs, kids, living, school, etc. but do let him know where you stand and where the line is drawn.
its ironic how my friends come to me for relationship advice, when i havent even had my first bf yet. rofl!
was i way to puishey on my opionon that i drounded out her feelings? was i to firm? should i even have said it like that? did i give her the right advice? please tell me what you think.Did i give my friend the right relationship advice? was i to pushey? %26amp; more questions.
Your advice was excellent. You poured a cold dose of reality on her head, which was exactly what she needed.
Did i give my friend the right relationship advice? was i to pushey? %26amp; more questions.
Sounds like you are way more mature than she is. Unfortunately, too many girls think they have to rush into relationships, sex, and marraige. She has a whole life ahead of her. In fact, I don't think ANYONE should get married before they are 25...because as a young adult, there will be MANY changes in your lives.
I think you gave her great advice, it wasn't pushy, but a good reality check for her. I just hopes she takes your advice. And when you fall for your first guy, you remember it too! :0)
I think you gave her great advice. I am so glad you have a good head on your shoulders!
Don't feel bad if she doesn't listen to your advice though....
But who knows how long it will last?
Best advice-If its truly meant to be it will last, marriage or not.
Good for you!
My boyfriend's mood is ruining our relationship! Advice?
My boyfriend of almost 3 years has completely changed regarding his attitude. Every time I talk to him about it, he just gets extremely quiet and upset. If I try to push the fact that we need to fix things, he just yells at me that he doesn't want to talk about it because he hates himself and it makes him want to die.
I feel like he is manipulating me to never bring up problems. He won't seek help for hating himself. What should I do? I am on the verge of giving him an ultimatum: either get help or lose me; I don't know if this will make things worse though. I want to help him because I really love him, but he spurns all my efforts and makes me feel like there's no use trying anymore.My boyfriend's mood is ruining our relationship! Advice?
He obviously needs help and you are being the more mature person here wanting to try to talk to him about the problems. Don't EVER think they will just go away...they won't. It will only get worse over time. I myself would just distance myself from him until you see how you two REALLY feel about each other. Don't let someone elses problems bring you down and destroy your happiness. It is no other human beings right to take another humans joy from them and this is exactly what he is doing. He needs help in the form of a pastor, counselor, or someone he can confide in. Please take a long hard look at your relationship. There was nothing ';good'; that you mentioned above. Good luck sweetie. Cut the cord and live a little. After all, you haven't said ';in sickness and in health, til death do us part yet';. I hope you think long and hard about it before you do!
VERY GOOD ANALOGY CHARLES T...YOU HAVE MY VOTE FOR THE BEST ANSWER!!!!My boyfriend's mood is ruining our relationship! Advice?
He hates himself? And no idea why? Something has happened...something he feels very guilty about. It's depressing him severely and has changed his whole attitude.
Since he refuses to tell you what it is......if he won't go get professional help....you have 2 choices.
1) You leave him. Tell him kindly that you know something is terribly wrong and that since he refuses to get help for it, you have to leave the relationship--even though you love him. Your relationship IS broken.
2) You continue the way things are.
I don't suggest #2. That tells him that you are OK with his attitude.....and you aren't. He will just keep treating you like this if you don't stand up for yourself.
I know where you are coming from. I stayed in a relationship like yours and I am sorry but you need to tell him that he has to change and get help and if doesn't you need to leave him. He is obviously not well and no matter how much you love him he is not going to change. I know I was with my now exhusband for 20 years and it is not worth it to give so much of yourself to someone who is not willing to give the same back. This is a big world and you deserve to be happy and he is not going to do this for you. My advise to you is to make a plan to leave him when he is not there because he may get violent with you because he has just lost his control over you. This is the most dangerous time for a woman who is in an unhealthy relationship. Has he ever hit you? My daughter is in a very dangerous situation with a guy who is very controlling and has been abusive not only to her but to their child. I am very scared for her and have given her my support and given her the number to the women's shelter where she lives. I let her know I am here for her and that this relationship is not worth keeping.
Ask yourself these questions: Do I want to be in a relationship where I do not get the respect to be heard and understood? Do I want to stay in a relationship where my partner tries to munipulates me? Why does this question bother him when it shouldn't create this type of reaction? And most important question Am I happy in this relationship?
Cut your losses now so you are not like me where I woke up one morning and realized I have wasted over 20 years of my life with someone who did not respect me or gave me the love I gave him.
Please be careful and have a plan to leave.
I hope this helps you and I know what you are saying right now, but I love him so much and if I do this or I change the way I do that he will change. I have three years invested in this guy that I care about. Move on and you'll be happier for it, not at first but you'll see that this is the best thing to do for you. If you do not put yourself first noone else will.
Good luck
Please try to get him help, whether from his family, friends, other relatives. It's affecting you so much and you don't not want to be stuck like that.
do you have a mutual friend that he can talk to? many times a partner won't listen to their significant other and may need input from someone else.
Well if i was you i would sit him down and try and talk to him. If he starts the hating himself thing just tell him to knock it off and grow up. Tell him that if he doesn't change to the way he used to be you'll leave. And if he don't become nice again leave him. You would be better off without him.
He needs help STAT. Dont feel like its your burden to deal with this. If you are with him just for that reason its not the right reason.
Talk to someone else that may be able to reach him from a different angle than you.. maybe someone he looks up to..like a older brother, parent, cousin or his best friend.
if they cant help him then know one can. only a physician or psychologist.
Good Luck.
Trust your intuition about him, but turn it up five notches on yourself.
Imagine this is an experiment and your boyfriend is Rat A. The experimenter (that's you) watches every day while RAT A can't find the cheese. In frustration, the experimenter gives Rat A a push in the right direction. Rat A immediately rolls over on his side, screeches and bites itself on the leg. After a while, the experimenter only has to come into the room, and Rat A rolls and screeches. Then, only a picture of the Experimenter makes Rat A react negatively. Eventually, any object the size and shape of the picture gets the reaction from the rat.
Sometimes, helping can actually make things worse. Give him miles and miles of room to sort things out.
You never know what's bothering people.
* He could be constipated
* He could be too shy to pass gas around you
* You could remind him of his mother when you try to help
* He could be overwhelmed by your intelligence
* He may hate the word ';No';
* He could be overly tired, because you never leave so he can sleep
* His favorite show could be on, and you hate it
* He could like soap operas, but he's afraid you'll think he's gay if he talks about it
* Maybe he is jealous because you're prettier than he is
* Maybe he thinks he's being mysterious instead of stupid
* He could be playing at being totally stressed out so you'll give him.....................................鈥?lots of attention.
Anyway, give him room. Go home to your own house for a few days. Wait until he seeks you to talk about stuff.
try talking to him, if that doesn't work, then you should talk about this with a psycholigist
I feel like he is manipulating me to never bring up problems. He won't seek help for hating himself. What should I do? I am on the verge of giving him an ultimatum: either get help or lose me; I don't know if this will make things worse though. I want to help him because I really love him, but he spurns all my efforts and makes me feel like there's no use trying anymore.My boyfriend's mood is ruining our relationship! Advice?
He obviously needs help and you are being the more mature person here wanting to try to talk to him about the problems. Don't EVER think they will just go away...they won't. It will only get worse over time. I myself would just distance myself from him until you see how you two REALLY feel about each other. Don't let someone elses problems bring you down and destroy your happiness. It is no other human beings right to take another humans joy from them and this is exactly what he is doing. He needs help in the form of a pastor, counselor, or someone he can confide in. Please take a long hard look at your relationship. There was nothing ';good'; that you mentioned above. Good luck sweetie. Cut the cord and live a little. After all, you haven't said ';in sickness and in health, til death do us part yet';. I hope you think long and hard about it before you do!
VERY GOOD ANALOGY CHARLES T...YOU HAVE MY VOTE FOR THE BEST ANSWER!!!!My boyfriend's mood is ruining our relationship! Advice?
He hates himself? And no idea why? Something has happened...something he feels very guilty about. It's depressing him severely and has changed his whole attitude.
Since he refuses to tell you what it is......if he won't go get professional help....you have 2 choices.
1) You leave him. Tell him kindly that you know something is terribly wrong and that since he refuses to get help for it, you have to leave the relationship--even though you love him. Your relationship IS broken.
2) You continue the way things are.
I don't suggest #2. That tells him that you are OK with his attitude.....and you aren't. He will just keep treating you like this if you don't stand up for yourself.
I know where you are coming from. I stayed in a relationship like yours and I am sorry but you need to tell him that he has to change and get help and if doesn't you need to leave him. He is obviously not well and no matter how much you love him he is not going to change. I know I was with my now exhusband for 20 years and it is not worth it to give so much of yourself to someone who is not willing to give the same back. This is a big world and you deserve to be happy and he is not going to do this for you. My advise to you is to make a plan to leave him when he is not there because he may get violent with you because he has just lost his control over you. This is the most dangerous time for a woman who is in an unhealthy relationship. Has he ever hit you? My daughter is in a very dangerous situation with a guy who is very controlling and has been abusive not only to her but to their child. I am very scared for her and have given her my support and given her the number to the women's shelter where she lives. I let her know I am here for her and that this relationship is not worth keeping.
Ask yourself these questions: Do I want to be in a relationship where I do not get the respect to be heard and understood? Do I want to stay in a relationship where my partner tries to munipulates me? Why does this question bother him when it shouldn't create this type of reaction? And most important question Am I happy in this relationship?
Cut your losses now so you are not like me where I woke up one morning and realized I have wasted over 20 years of my life with someone who did not respect me or gave me the love I gave him.
Please be careful and have a plan to leave.
I hope this helps you and I know what you are saying right now, but I love him so much and if I do this or I change the way I do that he will change. I have three years invested in this guy that I care about. Move on and you'll be happier for it, not at first but you'll see that this is the best thing to do for you. If you do not put yourself first noone else will.
Good luck
Please try to get him help, whether from his family, friends, other relatives. It's affecting you so much and you don't not want to be stuck like that.
do you have a mutual friend that he can talk to? many times a partner won't listen to their significant other and may need input from someone else.
Well if i was you i would sit him down and try and talk to him. If he starts the hating himself thing just tell him to knock it off and grow up. Tell him that if he doesn't change to the way he used to be you'll leave. And if he don't become nice again leave him. You would be better off without him.
He needs help STAT. Dont feel like its your burden to deal with this. If you are with him just for that reason its not the right reason.
Talk to someone else that may be able to reach him from a different angle than you.. maybe someone he looks up to..like a older brother, parent, cousin or his best friend.
if they cant help him then know one can. only a physician or psychologist.
Good Luck.
Trust your intuition about him, but turn it up five notches on yourself.
Imagine this is an experiment and your boyfriend is Rat A. The experimenter (that's you) watches every day while RAT A can't find the cheese. In frustration, the experimenter gives Rat A a push in the right direction. Rat A immediately rolls over on his side, screeches and bites itself on the leg. After a while, the experimenter only has to come into the room, and Rat A rolls and screeches. Then, only a picture of the Experimenter makes Rat A react negatively. Eventually, any object the size and shape of the picture gets the reaction from the rat.
Sometimes, helping can actually make things worse. Give him miles and miles of room to sort things out.
You never know what's bothering people.
* He could be constipated
* He could be too shy to pass gas around you
* You could remind him of his mother when you try to help
* He could be overwhelmed by your intelligence
* He may hate the word ';No';
* He could be overly tired, because you never leave so he can sleep
* His favorite show could be on, and you hate it
* He could like soap operas, but he's afraid you'll think he's gay if he talks about it
* Maybe he is jealous because you're prettier than he is
* Maybe he thinks he's being mysterious instead of stupid
* He could be playing at being totally stressed out so you'll give him.....................................鈥?lots of attention.
Anyway, give him room. Go home to your own house for a few days. Wait until he seeks you to talk about stuff.
try talking to him, if that doesn't work, then you should talk about this with a psycholigist
Relationship advice, help!! I found out my best friend got my mother's uncle's daughter's cousin pregant and
I'm not sure how to tell my mother's uncle's daughter's cousin's mother and father. What should I do I don't have a clue.Relationship advice, help!! I found out my best friend got my mother's uncle's daughter's cousin pregant and
Even though it's not your place to tell your parents about the pregnancy. Tell your sister and your best friend to sit down with your parents and talk about the matter. If you go behind her back it will only make matter worse.Relationship advice, help!! I found out my best friend got my mother's uncle's daughter's cousin pregant and
why bother
I agree with you...You dont have a clue... :)
Life goes on friend.
Are you being serious? How confusing, would have been easier to say :MY mothers cousins other cousin. WHy dont you just SAY it. ?
Even though it's not your place to tell your parents about the pregnancy. Tell your sister and your best friend to sit down with your parents and talk about the matter. If you go behind her back it will only make matter worse.Relationship advice, help!! I found out my best friend got my mother's uncle's daughter's cousin pregant and
why bother
I agree with you...You dont have a clue... :)
Life goes on friend.
Are you being serious? How confusing, would have been easier to say :MY mothers cousins other cousin. WHy dont you just SAY it. ?
Relationship advice for my friend please?!?
Okay so my really good guy friend is having some issues with his girlfriend.
He went on a date with her this past week and he said that they had a great time, but now she is ignoring all of his e-mails, text, etc. and he's not being clingy or anything, he's just being a boyfriend.
Also, They don't go to the same school
Any advice on what he can do?Relationship advice for my friend please?!?
Just let her be she probably don't like him or didn't have a good time so he needs to just move on or wait for her to respond
britastierRelationship advice for my friend please?!?
find a new girl. She obviously doesn't feel the same way he does.
she is too over..find a new girl soon!
she will be jealous soon on your friend!
She's obviously just not that interested in him, or she would be calling.
He might just have to let this one go.
I dunno
WRONG SECTION!!
He is being treated like crap..and the girl is playing with him.
tell him to forget her she obviously not interested in a real relationship
He went on a date with her this past week and he said that they had a great time, but now she is ignoring all of his e-mails, text, etc. and he's not being clingy or anything, he's just being a boyfriend.
Also, They don't go to the same school
Any advice on what he can do?Relationship advice for my friend please?!?
Just let her be she probably don't like him or didn't have a good time so he needs to just move on or wait for her to respond
britastierRelationship advice for my friend please?!?
find a new girl. She obviously doesn't feel the same way he does.
she is too over..find a new girl soon!
she will be jealous soon on your friend!
She's obviously just not that interested in him, or she would be calling.
He might just have to let this one go.
I dunno
WRONG SECTION!!
He is being treated like crap..and the girl is playing with him.
tell him to forget her she obviously not interested in a real relationship
Relationship advice needed. I'm 20 btw?
I am in a relationship with another girl from my uni who is also 20. Things are going great, we get along really well together. However, i am still a virgin and i know she is not. I guess i don't really know how to break it to her as its not that common here at 20. I doubt she'll care too much as shes pretty relaxed about most things.
Should i even tell her at all? I guess im worried about being terrible and then scaring her offRelationship advice needed. I'm 20 btw?
Be honest with her. Tell her when you're feeling comfortable during a casual chat or something. It's always best to be open and honest in a relationship. It'll be better for your first time as well, that way you won't feel so self conscious about your performance.
Should i even tell her at all? I guess im worried about being terrible and then scaring her offRelationship advice needed. I'm 20 btw?
Be honest with her. Tell her when you're feeling comfortable during a casual chat or something. It's always best to be open and honest in a relationship. It'll be better for your first time as well, that way you won't feel so self conscious about your performance.
Did i give my friend the right relationship advice? was i to pushey? & more questions.
so my friend says to me, i need your advice on this guy. she has been dating this guy for a few weeks and says that he has been talking about wanting to marry her. but she did not know wether or not she was ready for that commitment. here is what i said exzactly,
- well to tell you the truth, you are not. no 16 yr old is. you both have a lot of growing and changeing to do, plus both of you are not ready to support your needs when it comes to buying a place to stay and what f you two decide to have a baby? are you ready for someone to depend on you 247? and what about school? how would you juggle school, trying to live on your own, a job and living expenses? you see what i am saying is that majority of teenage marriges do not last, plus you may think you made a big mistake later on. all i am saying if it was truly ment to be it will last, marriage or not. plus if you were ready you would not be questioning wether you are or not.
-then she says, ok, i do like him tho. even when we split up for a weekend he is the only person i ever wanted to talk to
-then i say back,
ok, well all i am saying is to slow it down and really get to know him on a personal level. ask him about marriage, like if we were married what would we do for jobs, kids, living, school, etc. but do let him know where you stand and where the line is drawn.
its ironic how my friends come to me for relationship advice, when i havent even had my first bf yet. rofl!
was i way to puishey on my opionon that i drounded out her feelings? was i to firm? should i even have said it like that? did i give her the right advice? please tell me what you think.Did i give my friend the right relationship advice? was i to pushey? %26amp; more questions.
Your advice was excellent. You poured a cold dose of reality on her head, which was exactly what she needed.
Did i give my friend the right relationship advice? was i to pushey? %26amp; more questions.
Sounds like you are way more mature than she is. Unfortunately, too many girls think they have to rush into relationships, sex, and marraige. She has a whole life ahead of her. In fact, I don't think ANYONE should get married before they are 25...because as a young adult, there will be MANY changes in your lives.
I think you gave her great advice, it wasn't pushy, but a good reality check for her. I just hopes she takes your advice. And when you fall for your first guy, you remember it too! :0)
I think you gave her great advice. I am so glad you have a good head on your shoulders!
Don't feel bad if she doesn't listen to your advice though....
But who knows how long it will last?
Best advice-If its truly meant to be it will last, marriage or not.
Good for you!living nature
- well to tell you the truth, you are not. no 16 yr old is. you both have a lot of growing and changeing to do, plus both of you are not ready to support your needs when it comes to buying a place to stay and what f you two decide to have a baby? are you ready for someone to depend on you 247? and what about school? how would you juggle school, trying to live on your own, a job and living expenses? you see what i am saying is that majority of teenage marriges do not last, plus you may think you made a big mistake later on. all i am saying if it was truly ment to be it will last, marriage or not. plus if you were ready you would not be questioning wether you are or not.
-then she says, ok, i do like him tho. even when we split up for a weekend he is the only person i ever wanted to talk to
-then i say back,
ok, well all i am saying is to slow it down and really get to know him on a personal level. ask him about marriage, like if we were married what would we do for jobs, kids, living, school, etc. but do let him know where you stand and where the line is drawn.
its ironic how my friends come to me for relationship advice, when i havent even had my first bf yet. rofl!
was i way to puishey on my opionon that i drounded out her feelings? was i to firm? should i even have said it like that? did i give her the right advice? please tell me what you think.Did i give my friend the right relationship advice? was i to pushey? %26amp; more questions.
Your advice was excellent. You poured a cold dose of reality on her head, which was exactly what she needed.
Did i give my friend the right relationship advice? was i to pushey? %26amp; more questions.
Sounds like you are way more mature than she is. Unfortunately, too many girls think they have to rush into relationships, sex, and marraige. She has a whole life ahead of her. In fact, I don't think ANYONE should get married before they are 25...because as a young adult, there will be MANY changes in your lives.
I think you gave her great advice, it wasn't pushy, but a good reality check for her. I just hopes she takes your advice. And when you fall for your first guy, you remember it too! :0)
I think you gave her great advice. I am so glad you have a good head on your shoulders!
Don't feel bad if she doesn't listen to your advice though....
But who knows how long it will last?
Best advice-If its truly meant to be it will last, marriage or not.
Good for you!
My boyfriend's mood is ruining our relationship! Advice?
My boyfriend of almost 3 years has completely changed regarding his attitude. Every time I talk to him about it, he just gets extremely quiet and upset. If I try to push the fact that we need to fix things, he just yells at me that he doesn't want to talk about it because he hates himself and it makes him want to die.
I feel like he is manipulating me to never bring up problems. He won't seek help for hating himself. What should I do? I am on the verge of giving him an ultimatum: either get help or lose me; I don't know if this will make things worse though. I want to help him because I really love him, but he spurns all my efforts and makes me feel like there's no use trying anymore.My boyfriend's mood is ruining our relationship! Advice?
He obviously needs help and you are being the more mature person here wanting to try to talk to him about the problems. Don't EVER think they will just go away...they won't. It will only get worse over time. I myself would just distance myself from him until you see how you two REALLY feel about each other. Don't let someone elses problems bring you down and destroy your happiness. It is no other human beings right to take another humans joy from them and this is exactly what he is doing. He needs help in the form of a pastor, counselor, or someone he can confide in. Please take a long hard look at your relationship. There was nothing ';good'; that you mentioned above. Good luck sweetie. Cut the cord and live a little. After all, you haven't said ';in sickness and in health, til death do us part yet';. I hope you think long and hard about it before you do!
VERY GOOD ANALOGY CHARLES T...YOU HAVE MY VOTE FOR THE BEST ANSWER!!!!My boyfriend's mood is ruining our relationship! Advice?
He hates himself? And no idea why? Something has happened...something he feels very guilty about. It's depressing him severely and has changed his whole attitude.
Since he refuses to tell you what it is......if he won't go get professional help....you have 2 choices.
1) You leave him. Tell him kindly that you know something is terribly wrong and that since he refuses to get help for it, you have to leave the relationship--even though you love him. Your relationship IS broken.
2) You continue the way things are.
I don't suggest #2. That tells him that you are OK with his attitude.....and you aren't. He will just keep treating you like this if you don't stand up for yourself.
I know where you are coming from. I stayed in a relationship like yours and I am sorry but you need to tell him that he has to change and get help and if doesn't you need to leave him. He is obviously not well and no matter how much you love him he is not going to change. I know I was with my now exhusband for 20 years and it is not worth it to give so much of yourself to someone who is not willing to give the same back. This is a big world and you deserve to be happy and he is not going to do this for you. My advise to you is to make a plan to leave him when he is not there because he may get violent with you because he has just lost his control over you. This is the most dangerous time for a woman who is in an unhealthy relationship. Has he ever hit you? My daughter is in a very dangerous situation with a guy who is very controlling and has been abusive not only to her but to their child. I am very scared for her and have given her my support and given her the number to the women's shelter where she lives. I let her know I am here for her and that this relationship is not worth keeping.
Ask yourself these questions: Do I want to be in a relationship where I do not get the respect to be heard and understood? Do I want to stay in a relationship where my partner tries to munipulates me? Why does this question bother him when it shouldn't create this type of reaction? And most important question Am I happy in this relationship?
Cut your losses now so you are not like me where I woke up one morning and realized I have wasted over 20 years of my life with someone who did not respect me or gave me the love I gave him.
Please be careful and have a plan to leave.
I hope this helps you and I know what you are saying right now, but I love him so much and if I do this or I change the way I do that he will change. I have three years invested in this guy that I care about. Move on and you'll be happier for it, not at first but you'll see that this is the best thing to do for you. If you do not put yourself first noone else will.
Good luck
Please try to get him help, whether from his family, friends, other relatives. It's affecting you so much and you don't not want to be stuck like that.
do you have a mutual friend that he can talk to? many times a partner won't listen to their significant other and may need input from someone else.
Well if i was you i would sit him down and try and talk to him. If he starts the hating himself thing just tell him to knock it off and grow up. Tell him that if he doesn't change to the way he used to be you'll leave. And if he don't become nice again leave him. You would be better off without him.
He needs help STAT. Dont feel like its your burden to deal with this. If you are with him just for that reason its not the right reason.
Talk to someone else that may be able to reach him from a different angle than you.. maybe someone he looks up to..like a older brother, parent, cousin or his best friend.
if they cant help him then know one can. only a physician or psychologist.
Good Luck.
Trust your intuition about him, but turn it up five notches on yourself.
Imagine this is an experiment and your boyfriend is Rat A. The experimenter (that's you) watches every day while RAT A can't find the cheese. In frustration, the experimenter gives Rat A a push in the right direction. Rat A immediately rolls over on his side, screeches and bites itself on the leg. After a while, the experimenter only has to come into the room, and Rat A rolls and screeches. Then, only a picture of the Experimenter makes Rat A react negatively. Eventually, any object the size and shape of the picture gets the reaction from the rat.
Sometimes, helping can actually make things worse. Give him miles and miles of room to sort things out.
You never know what's bothering people.
* He could be constipated
* He could be too shy to pass gas around you
* You could remind him of his mother when you try to help
* He could be overwhelmed by your intelligence
* He may hate the word ';No';
* He could be overly tired, because you never leave so he can sleep
* His favorite show could be on, and you hate it
* He could like soap operas, but he's afraid you'll think he's gay if he talks about it
* Maybe he is jealous because you're prettier than he is
* Maybe he thinks he's being mysterious instead of stupid
* He could be playing at being totally stressed out so you'll give him.....................................鈥?lots of attention.
Anyway, give him room. Go home to your own house for a few days. Wait until he seeks you to talk about stuff.
try talking to him, if that doesn't work, then you should talk about this with a psycholigist
I feel like he is manipulating me to never bring up problems. He won't seek help for hating himself. What should I do? I am on the verge of giving him an ultimatum: either get help or lose me; I don't know if this will make things worse though. I want to help him because I really love him, but he spurns all my efforts and makes me feel like there's no use trying anymore.My boyfriend's mood is ruining our relationship! Advice?
He obviously needs help and you are being the more mature person here wanting to try to talk to him about the problems. Don't EVER think they will just go away...they won't. It will only get worse over time. I myself would just distance myself from him until you see how you two REALLY feel about each other. Don't let someone elses problems bring you down and destroy your happiness. It is no other human beings right to take another humans joy from them and this is exactly what he is doing. He needs help in the form of a pastor, counselor, or someone he can confide in. Please take a long hard look at your relationship. There was nothing ';good'; that you mentioned above. Good luck sweetie. Cut the cord and live a little. After all, you haven't said ';in sickness and in health, til death do us part yet';. I hope you think long and hard about it before you do!
VERY GOOD ANALOGY CHARLES T...YOU HAVE MY VOTE FOR THE BEST ANSWER!!!!My boyfriend's mood is ruining our relationship! Advice?
He hates himself? And no idea why? Something has happened...something he feels very guilty about. It's depressing him severely and has changed his whole attitude.
Since he refuses to tell you what it is......if he won't go get professional help....you have 2 choices.
1) You leave him. Tell him kindly that you know something is terribly wrong and that since he refuses to get help for it, you have to leave the relationship--even though you love him. Your relationship IS broken.
2) You continue the way things are.
I don't suggest #2. That tells him that you are OK with his attitude.....and you aren't. He will just keep treating you like this if you don't stand up for yourself.
I know where you are coming from. I stayed in a relationship like yours and I am sorry but you need to tell him that he has to change and get help and if doesn't you need to leave him. He is obviously not well and no matter how much you love him he is not going to change. I know I was with my now exhusband for 20 years and it is not worth it to give so much of yourself to someone who is not willing to give the same back. This is a big world and you deserve to be happy and he is not going to do this for you. My advise to you is to make a plan to leave him when he is not there because he may get violent with you because he has just lost his control over you. This is the most dangerous time for a woman who is in an unhealthy relationship. Has he ever hit you? My daughter is in a very dangerous situation with a guy who is very controlling and has been abusive not only to her but to their child. I am very scared for her and have given her my support and given her the number to the women's shelter where she lives. I let her know I am here for her and that this relationship is not worth keeping.
Ask yourself these questions: Do I want to be in a relationship where I do not get the respect to be heard and understood? Do I want to stay in a relationship where my partner tries to munipulates me? Why does this question bother him when it shouldn't create this type of reaction? And most important question Am I happy in this relationship?
Cut your losses now so you are not like me where I woke up one morning and realized I have wasted over 20 years of my life with someone who did not respect me or gave me the love I gave him.
Please be careful and have a plan to leave.
I hope this helps you and I know what you are saying right now, but I love him so much and if I do this or I change the way I do that he will change. I have three years invested in this guy that I care about. Move on and you'll be happier for it, not at first but you'll see that this is the best thing to do for you. If you do not put yourself first noone else will.
Good luck
Please try to get him help, whether from his family, friends, other relatives. It's affecting you so much and you don't not want to be stuck like that.
do you have a mutual friend that he can talk to? many times a partner won't listen to their significant other and may need input from someone else.
Well if i was you i would sit him down and try and talk to him. If he starts the hating himself thing just tell him to knock it off and grow up. Tell him that if he doesn't change to the way he used to be you'll leave. And if he don't become nice again leave him. You would be better off without him.
He needs help STAT. Dont feel like its your burden to deal with this. If you are with him just for that reason its not the right reason.
Talk to someone else that may be able to reach him from a different angle than you.. maybe someone he looks up to..like a older brother, parent, cousin or his best friend.
if they cant help him then know one can. only a physician or psychologist.
Good Luck.
Trust your intuition about him, but turn it up five notches on yourself.
Imagine this is an experiment and your boyfriend is Rat A. The experimenter (that's you) watches every day while RAT A can't find the cheese. In frustration, the experimenter gives Rat A a push in the right direction. Rat A immediately rolls over on his side, screeches and bites itself on the leg. After a while, the experimenter only has to come into the room, and Rat A rolls and screeches. Then, only a picture of the Experimenter makes Rat A react negatively. Eventually, any object the size and shape of the picture gets the reaction from the rat.
Sometimes, helping can actually make things worse. Give him miles and miles of room to sort things out.
You never know what's bothering people.
* He could be constipated
* He could be too shy to pass gas around you
* You could remind him of his mother when you try to help
* He could be overwhelmed by your intelligence
* He may hate the word ';No';
* He could be overly tired, because you never leave so he can sleep
* His favorite show could be on, and you hate it
* He could like soap operas, but he's afraid you'll think he's gay if he talks about it
* Maybe he is jealous because you're prettier than he is
* Maybe he thinks he's being mysterious instead of stupid
* He could be playing at being totally stressed out so you'll give him.....................................鈥?lots of attention.
Anyway, give him room. Go home to your own house for a few days. Wait until he seeks you to talk about stuff.
try talking to him, if that doesn't work, then you should talk about this with a psycholigist
Relationship advice, help!! I found out my best friend got my mother's uncle's daughter's cousin pregant and
I'm not sure how to tell my mother's uncle's daughter's cousin's mother and father. What should I do I don't have a clue.Relationship advice, help!! I found out my best friend got my mother's uncle's daughter's cousin pregant and
Even though it's not your place to tell your parents about the pregnancy. Tell your sister and your best friend to sit down with your parents and talk about the matter. If you go behind her back it will only make matter worse.Relationship advice, help!! I found out my best friend got my mother's uncle's daughter's cousin pregant and
why bother
I agree with you...You dont have a clue... :)
Life goes on friend.
Are you being serious? How confusing, would have been easier to say :MY mothers cousins other cousin. WHy dont you just SAY it. ?
Even though it's not your place to tell your parents about the pregnancy. Tell your sister and your best friend to sit down with your parents and talk about the matter. If you go behind her back it will only make matter worse.Relationship advice, help!! I found out my best friend got my mother's uncle's daughter's cousin pregant and
why bother
I agree with you...You dont have a clue... :)
Life goes on friend.
Are you being serious? How confusing, would have been easier to say :MY mothers cousins other cousin. WHy dont you just SAY it. ?
Relationship advice for my friend please?!?
Okay so my really good guy friend is having some issues with his girlfriend.
He went on a date with her this past week and he said that they had a great time, but now she is ignoring all of his e-mails, text, etc. and he's not being clingy or anything, he's just being a boyfriend.
Also, They don't go to the same school
Any advice on what he can do?Relationship advice for my friend please?!?
find a new girl. She obviously doesn't feel the same way he does.Relationship advice for my friend please?!?
WRONG SECTION!!
I dunno
He is being treated like crap..and the girl is playing with him.
tell him to forget her she obviously not interested in a real relationship
Just let her be she probably don't like him or didn't have a good time so he needs to just move on or wait for her to respond
britastier
she is too over..find a new girl soon!
she will be jealous soon on your friend!
She's obviously just not that interested in him, or she would be calling.
He might just have to let this one go.
He went on a date with her this past week and he said that they had a great time, but now she is ignoring all of his e-mails, text, etc. and he's not being clingy or anything, he's just being a boyfriend.
Also, They don't go to the same school
Any advice on what he can do?Relationship advice for my friend please?!?
find a new girl. She obviously doesn't feel the same way he does.Relationship advice for my friend please?!?
WRONG SECTION!!
I dunno
He is being treated like crap..and the girl is playing with him.
tell him to forget her she obviously not interested in a real relationship
Just let her be she probably don't like him or didn't have a good time so he needs to just move on or wait for her to respond
britastier
she is too over..find a new girl soon!
she will be jealous soon on your friend!
She's obviously just not that interested in him, or she would be calling.
He might just have to let this one go.
Advice for a young cancer and young scorpio relationship?
how should I go about things. what to be careful for? anything is greatAdvice for a young cancer and young scorpio relationship?
';Here is an ideal hook up. Both will understand one another before their first date. Both are water signs and extremely compatible in their approaches to love. When Cancer gets moody, Scorpio will withdraw and seem selfish. The more Cancer clings to Scorpio, the worse it gets. Scorpio needs to understand that Cancer is more sensitive than they appear and Cancer needs to know that Scorpio is faithful but will need occasional privacy. Cancer must not mistake this for a sign of rejection. Take trips together. They will look physically more attractive together than when apart. Scorpio will make Cancer feel loved like never before and Cancer will give Scorpio all the love they crave.'; From http://www.sexualastrology.com/sexual_co鈥?/a>Advice for a young cancer and young scorpio relationship?
Advice: Stop believing in bullsh*t.
don't go by that crap, its proven wrong in my book. and many others.
Do people still take stock in this ';sign'; stuff. Just pretend like there are no signes and have your relationship
scorpios are really horny and cancers are really cocky, they clash.
umm...like anyone else...just be happy, don't fight, and enjoy each other
Two water signs should be very compatible. The Scorpio will be more passionate and possibly, more of a flirt. The Cancer is known for being possessive and domestic. Although you two get along marvelously, Scorpio may have a flirtatious eye that he/she cannot keep under control. If Cancer recognizes that Scorpio is a passionate person who has a need to flirt, everything should be fine...as long as you set down rules for Scorpio. Scorpio should realize that Cancer may be a bit controlling...Cancer needs to keep the control freak under control.
Honestly, does your star sign really matter?
The cosmos didn't choose when you would be born, your parents decided when they conceived you.
If your with someone and you don't have enough feelings for them and your wanting advice according to stars, then you shouldn't be in that relationship at all.
Its not about if you match up, or if there's something you should be careful for, because realistically you should be looking for people, not for matching astronomy signs.
oh, you should totally break up because you two weren't born on the same month...-_-
What a perfect pair ..Hang on and enjoy the best ride you'll ever have
Scorpio always wants better . and tends to leave. BUT when it comes to an end a friend ship continues .
my advice: don't believe in horiscopes
whats a scorpio
-unknown
As far as my opinion, i'm a cancer and i have dated a scorpio and we've had our good and bad moments but, you have your good and bad moments with any anybody whether their a scorpio or not One thing i can say about scorpio's that they are abunch of freaks that's for sure...lol
cure the cancer as soon as possible. ; )
Y'all are suppose to be naturally attracted to each other. It's one of the perfect matches for the Cancer, I am one. Haha y'all balance each other. I don't think there is a bad way to approach it.. unless you start talking about having kids or getting married..
';Here is an ideal hook up. Both will understand one another before their first date. Both are water signs and extremely compatible in their approaches to love. When Cancer gets moody, Scorpio will withdraw and seem selfish. The more Cancer clings to Scorpio, the worse it gets. Scorpio needs to understand that Cancer is more sensitive than they appear and Cancer needs to know that Scorpio is faithful but will need occasional privacy. Cancer must not mistake this for a sign of rejection. Take trips together. They will look physically more attractive together than when apart. Scorpio will make Cancer feel loved like never before and Cancer will give Scorpio all the love they crave.'; From http://www.sexualastrology.com/sexual_co鈥?/a>Advice for a young cancer and young scorpio relationship?
Advice: Stop believing in bullsh*t.
don't go by that crap, its proven wrong in my book. and many others.
Do people still take stock in this ';sign'; stuff. Just pretend like there are no signes and have your relationship
scorpios are really horny and cancers are really cocky, they clash.
umm...like anyone else...just be happy, don't fight, and enjoy each other
Two water signs should be very compatible. The Scorpio will be more passionate and possibly, more of a flirt. The Cancer is known for being possessive and domestic. Although you two get along marvelously, Scorpio may have a flirtatious eye that he/she cannot keep under control. If Cancer recognizes that Scorpio is a passionate person who has a need to flirt, everything should be fine...as long as you set down rules for Scorpio. Scorpio should realize that Cancer may be a bit controlling...Cancer needs to keep the control freak under control.
Honestly, does your star sign really matter?
The cosmos didn't choose when you would be born, your parents decided when they conceived you.
If your with someone and you don't have enough feelings for them and your wanting advice according to stars, then you shouldn't be in that relationship at all.
Its not about if you match up, or if there's something you should be careful for, because realistically you should be looking for people, not for matching astronomy signs.
oh, you should totally break up because you two weren't born on the same month...-_-
What a perfect pair ..Hang on and enjoy the best ride you'll ever have
Scorpio always wants better . and tends to leave. BUT when it comes to an end a friend ship continues .
my advice: don't believe in horiscopes
whats a scorpio
-unknown
As far as my opinion, i'm a cancer and i have dated a scorpio and we've had our good and bad moments but, you have your good and bad moments with any anybody whether their a scorpio or not One thing i can say about scorpio's that they are abunch of freaks that's for sure...lol
cure the cancer as soon as possible. ; )
Y'all are suppose to be naturally attracted to each other. It's one of the perfect matches for the Cancer, I am one. Haha y'all balance each other. I don't think there is a bad way to approach it.. unless you start talking about having kids or getting married..
Relationship advice about my date... Can anyone help?
Okay, well I'm in love with my girlfriend, she does everything in the world for me and I don't know what I would do without her.
Lately though, with school, finances, and family issues, I've been not so happy around her and over-controlling. I don't mean to be like this. What should I do? I don't want to lose her, but feel I've messed up so bad already that maybe I should just walk away.
I appreciate any help.
Thanks,
ChrisRelationship advice about my date... Can anyone help?
well apparently you didn't mess up too bad or she woulda just walked away. so what do you do?
number 1. stop making excuses for you recent behavior. it is what it is, and if you dont want to make a habit of it, then you need to drop the excuses and work on it.
number 2 you need to figure out what is important, you said in your explanation that ';well I'm in love with my girlfriend, she does everything in the world for me and I don't know what I would do without her.'; to me(on the outside looking in) that implies that you love her because she does things for you... so you dont want her, you need her. Thats what i've drawn from your question... so decide what you really want/need. you dont want to be with someone just because that are handy to have around, you want someone to be a partner with you in this world!
GL to you, you've got a lot of thinking to do, and some decisions to makeRelationship advice about my date... Can anyone help?
Explain everything to her and say that you're really really sorry. Be nice and honest, and don't be too vague. Good luck.
Answer mine?
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20090516003557AAngvV1
talk to her, if you trust her then tel her whats happening in your life an i guarentee that she will understand an it will not only help your freidnship but it will help you with things too. good luck
Lately though, with school, finances, and family issues, I've been not so happy around her and over-controlling. I don't mean to be like this. What should I do? I don't want to lose her, but feel I've messed up so bad already that maybe I should just walk away.
I appreciate any help.
Thanks,
ChrisRelationship advice about my date... Can anyone help?
well apparently you didn't mess up too bad or she woulda just walked away. so what do you do?
number 1. stop making excuses for you recent behavior. it is what it is, and if you dont want to make a habit of it, then you need to drop the excuses and work on it.
number 2 you need to figure out what is important, you said in your explanation that ';well I'm in love with my girlfriend, she does everything in the world for me and I don't know what I would do without her.'; to me(on the outside looking in) that implies that you love her because she does things for you... so you dont want her, you need her. Thats what i've drawn from your question... so decide what you really want/need. you dont want to be with someone just because that are handy to have around, you want someone to be a partner with you in this world!
GL to you, you've got a lot of thinking to do, and some decisions to makeRelationship advice about my date... Can anyone help?
Explain everything to her and say that you're really really sorry. Be nice and honest, and don't be too vague. Good luck.
Answer mine?
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20090516003557AAngvV1
talk to her, if you trust her then tel her whats happening in your life an i guarentee that she will understand an it will not only help your freidnship but it will help you with things too. good luck
Whats your best relationship advice?
on how to make a good thing last?Whats your best relationship advice?
Remember it's a partnership and a good relationship requires both parties to contribute equally. Communication is important, and owning your emotions is key. In an argument or moments of frustration, use ';I'; rather than ';You make me mad!'; Ex. '; I become upset when I feel un-important when my thought or concerns are not taken seriously.';
Also, remember everyone makes mistakes, work through them as best. Do not harbor resentment and bring up the past. Address issues when they arise, then put them behind you.
Compliment your partner, remind them why they are important to you and traits you like about them.
Don't over-think, over analyze the small things.Whats your best relationship advice?
love them like theres no tomorrow. tell them everyday, because you never know when you wont get to say it again for a while.
treat them like gold and let them know that they are the most important and special person in your life.
drop some subtle hints every once in a while so you dont seem so overbearing.
If you feel things changing between you...try to remember what it was like when you were first dating and bring some of those things back.
Surprise each other once in a while.
Talk about all of your problems...but don't dwell on them.
Do your best to steer clear of any temptations...like other people that might interfere with your relationship.
Treat the other like a piece of glass, you can do exciting and dangerous things while holding onto it, but know the rough areas of where to stay away from, where it could break away from your hands.
COMPROMISE! A relationship is give and take. if you take too much, the other is unhappy. if you give too much, then you are unhappy. it has to work both ways.
go into a relationship with honesty and be open to listen to the other persons wants and needs. Verball communication is sooo important along with respect.
Keep thing fresh and don't do the same thing everyday and every year. People are strange so you always have to work at your relationship.
chill out!
like i find that with alot of my friends, relationships fail because they make a big deal out of really un-important things. Also dont over analyze everything your guy says or does, most of the time its nothing
this website...seriously...
http://www.relationship-institute.com/fr鈥?/a>
i've been with my guy for over two years thanks for this website.
J.D., I guess that with a recent screwed-up relationship on my hands, I'm the last person to advise you on this. I should just read all the other answers you get. Good luck, girl.
always be friends first, then the rest will fall into place. being a good friend means, trust, caring, and overlooking the annoying details. Always communicate.
Does it exsists in our generation? Seems like we are all doomed. Try to keep the fire lit and woman STOP trying to change your man. We WON'T so if you can handle it than move on.
well in this world if u want a good relationship u should have 4 things and u will be good
LOVE
TRUST
FORGIVNESS
AND
UNESTY
well take it slow, dont rush into things such as sex.
as the old saying goes
';a girl worth kissing, is not easily kissed';
=)
be sincere. do not expect too much and do not blame. keep on doing selfless service and love unconditionally..
trust, communication, honesty
be yourself!!!!!!!
Listen, learn, and for love's sake, be honest.
Treat your partner as you would like to be treated.
Trust, be honest to each other all the time.
communicate.
just talking with someone trust honesty being there when they are down making them feel better
lower your expectations
don't fake it!
Loyalty, Trust.
if you ask me just be yourself and trust! ohhh...and never let him think your too up tight.
Trust
by doing only good things
dont screwww up.
and listen.
put pressure on the base, and it will last longereye color
Remember it's a partnership and a good relationship requires both parties to contribute equally. Communication is important, and owning your emotions is key. In an argument or moments of frustration, use ';I'; rather than ';You make me mad!'; Ex. '; I become upset when I feel un-important when my thought or concerns are not taken seriously.';
Also, remember everyone makes mistakes, work through them as best. Do not harbor resentment and bring up the past. Address issues when they arise, then put them behind you.
Compliment your partner, remind them why they are important to you and traits you like about them.
Don't over-think, over analyze the small things.Whats your best relationship advice?
love them like theres no tomorrow. tell them everyday, because you never know when you wont get to say it again for a while.
treat them like gold and let them know that they are the most important and special person in your life.
drop some subtle hints every once in a while so you dont seem so overbearing.
If you feel things changing between you...try to remember what it was like when you were first dating and bring some of those things back.
Surprise each other once in a while.
Talk about all of your problems...but don't dwell on them.
Do your best to steer clear of any temptations...like other people that might interfere with your relationship.
Treat the other like a piece of glass, you can do exciting and dangerous things while holding onto it, but know the rough areas of where to stay away from, where it could break away from your hands.
COMPROMISE! A relationship is give and take. if you take too much, the other is unhappy. if you give too much, then you are unhappy. it has to work both ways.
go into a relationship with honesty and be open to listen to the other persons wants and needs. Verball communication is sooo important along with respect.
Keep thing fresh and don't do the same thing everyday and every year. People are strange so you always have to work at your relationship.
chill out!
like i find that with alot of my friends, relationships fail because they make a big deal out of really un-important things. Also dont over analyze everything your guy says or does, most of the time its nothing
this website...seriously...
http://www.relationship-institute.com/fr鈥?/a>
i've been with my guy for over two years thanks for this website.
J.D., I guess that with a recent screwed-up relationship on my hands, I'm the last person to advise you on this. I should just read all the other answers you get. Good luck, girl.
always be friends first, then the rest will fall into place. being a good friend means, trust, caring, and overlooking the annoying details. Always communicate.
Does it exsists in our generation? Seems like we are all doomed. Try to keep the fire lit and woman STOP trying to change your man. We WON'T so if you can handle it than move on.
well in this world if u want a good relationship u should have 4 things and u will be good
LOVE
TRUST
FORGIVNESS
AND
UNESTY
well take it slow, dont rush into things such as sex.
as the old saying goes
';a girl worth kissing, is not easily kissed';
=)
be sincere. do not expect too much and do not blame. keep on doing selfless service and love unconditionally..
trust, communication, honesty
be yourself!!!!!!!
Listen, learn, and for love's sake, be honest.
Treat your partner as you would like to be treated.
Trust, be honest to each other all the time.
communicate.
just talking with someone trust honesty being there when they are down making them feel better
lower your expectations
don't fake it!
Loyalty, Trust.
if you ask me just be yourself and trust! ohhh...and never let him think your too up tight.
Trust
by doing only good things
dont screwww up.
and listen.
put pressure on the base, and it will last longer
What is good relationship advice?
if you like this guy but he have a girlfriend and you have a boyfriend
what would you most likely do to try to win his heart overWhat is good relationship advice?
I'm kind of in the same situation. Except I don't have a girl friend (I'm a guy). I like this girl who has (or until recently had) a boyfriend. For you I would say loose your boyfriend first. If your dating and you found you like someone else then your current relationship is not working. You need to end it, it's only fair. he does not need to be lead on.
Next, there is not much you can do except wait it out. If you try to break them up neither will be too happy with you. I also suggest that you get an Idea of what their relationship is. Is it something that is going to last, or at least last longer than you plan on waiting. If so then move on, it will only hurt waiting for something to end that is only growing stronger, or has no apparent end in sight. No of this sounds prabably like what you want to hear, but it's reality.
I'm going through something simular, and it tears at the heart. I hope you can find a way to navigate through this so that you can find some happiness. Best of luck!
what would you most likely do to try to win his heart overWhat is good relationship advice?
I'm kind of in the same situation. Except I don't have a girl friend (I'm a guy). I like this girl who has (or until recently had) a boyfriend. For you I would say loose your boyfriend first. If your dating and you found you like someone else then your current relationship is not working. You need to end it, it's only fair. he does not need to be lead on.
Next, there is not much you can do except wait it out. If you try to break them up neither will be too happy with you. I also suggest that you get an Idea of what their relationship is. Is it something that is going to last, or at least last longer than you plan on waiting. If so then move on, it will only hurt waiting for something to end that is only growing stronger, or has no apparent end in sight. No of this sounds prabably like what you want to hear, but it's reality.
I'm going through something simular, and it tears at the heart. I hope you can find a way to navigate through this so that you can find some happiness. Best of luck!
I need some relationship advice concerning my girlfriend?
im in need of some serious advice. i have been with my girlfriend for over a year and a half now and we have seemed to enter a fork in the road. shes a senior in high school and im 2 years older than her and falling into a job that im making some serious money at. we have had a serious communication break down due to both of us being busy. i see her once a week and talk to her on the phone for maybe 2 or 3 minutes the days i dont see her. honestly im not satisfied with this and have let it be know but she doesnt seem to show the same concerns that i do and i feel this is a major problem. i do care about her and love her deeply which makes this that much harder. another thing is shes going to school in la next fall and im settled in boston in a new apartment and with a good job so i really dont know what to do. any advice or suggestions would be greatly appreciatted.I need some relationship advice concerning my girlfriend?
I know it's sad but you have probably grown apart and she just doesn't know what to say to you, which means she does not mean to hurt you. I dated the same boy all four years of high school. I was a yr younger so he waited for me and then the weekend that I graduated, we left town and started at the same college. By that time I had already started detaching from him but it was just too difficult to own up to. We lasted two semesters then he wanted to go on to another college and I stayed back. Funny thing, a couple of months ago we ran into eachother in a shop and decided to stop for coffee and talk. Although he was having a hard time with a divorce, we could agree that everything happens for a reason. We all grow and grow apart... it's just part of the process. Good luck to you.I need some relationship advice concerning my girlfriend?
well,have you thought about marriage?i know she is going to school in la but it sounds like its not going to work if she isnt going to stay around you. so if she cant make a change 4 u then pick up and move on u cant stop your life to wait on someone who isnt as serious about you as you r them. rember she IS younger. good luck. .
talk to her on the day you see her and ask her if she's willing to make it work and continue. ask her if she wants to keep the relationship going while shes in la so then you know how far to keep your hopes up and knows what is going to happen. Straight up talk to her and dont beat around the bush since it will only make things worse. Hopefully, she'll answer you truthfully. Good luck! Hope I helped!
~SmS~
My advice to you is to stay in Boston in your new apartment and good job, let her go to LA, and move on with your lives. You are too young to settle down or make a lifelong committment, and it doesn't sound like you have much of a relationship anyway.
the communication thing sounds just like what my bf and i are doing now. I wouldn't fret that too much though. It's what makes that one day you all see each other during the week that more special. You have the remember, it's not like you two don't want to see each other. You really can't b/c you are both busy working on your goals trying make a living - nothing wrong with that.
What I would mull over is the fact that she is moving so far away? Do you both want to do a long distance relationship? If you can't handle seeing each other only once a week then maybe her being in l.a. and you in boston won't work out. That is your big issue you both need to decide. Once you decide that then everything else will fall into place.
ok look you really love her so you dont wanna let her go but then again you cant be selffish you have to look at it from her point of veiw to what if shes not talkin to you or seeing as much as you would like for a reason did you ever wonder if she likes someone more tell her how you feel and see how she reacts if shes going to LA and your stayin in Boston then maybe you should break it off cause you dont wanna be to far away from eachother and make it more harder on both of you so tell her how you feel and see where it goes from there
I know it's sad but you have probably grown apart and she just doesn't know what to say to you, which means she does not mean to hurt you. I dated the same boy all four years of high school. I was a yr younger so he waited for me and then the weekend that I graduated, we left town and started at the same college. By that time I had already started detaching from him but it was just too difficult to own up to. We lasted two semesters then he wanted to go on to another college and I stayed back. Funny thing, a couple of months ago we ran into eachother in a shop and decided to stop for coffee and talk. Although he was having a hard time with a divorce, we could agree that everything happens for a reason. We all grow and grow apart... it's just part of the process. Good luck to you.I need some relationship advice concerning my girlfriend?
well,have you thought about marriage?i know she is going to school in la but it sounds like its not going to work if she isnt going to stay around you. so if she cant make a change 4 u then pick up and move on u cant stop your life to wait on someone who isnt as serious about you as you r them. rember she IS younger. good luck. .
talk to her on the day you see her and ask her if she's willing to make it work and continue. ask her if she wants to keep the relationship going while shes in la so then you know how far to keep your hopes up and knows what is going to happen. Straight up talk to her and dont beat around the bush since it will only make things worse. Hopefully, she'll answer you truthfully. Good luck! Hope I helped!
~SmS~
My advice to you is to stay in Boston in your new apartment and good job, let her go to LA, and move on with your lives. You are too young to settle down or make a lifelong committment, and it doesn't sound like you have much of a relationship anyway.
the communication thing sounds just like what my bf and i are doing now. I wouldn't fret that too much though. It's what makes that one day you all see each other during the week that more special. You have the remember, it's not like you two don't want to see each other. You really can't b/c you are both busy working on your goals trying make a living - nothing wrong with that.
What I would mull over is the fact that she is moving so far away? Do you both want to do a long distance relationship? If you can't handle seeing each other only once a week then maybe her being in l.a. and you in boston won't work out. That is your big issue you both need to decide. Once you decide that then everything else will fall into place.
ok look you really love her so you dont wanna let her go but then again you cant be selffish you have to look at it from her point of veiw to what if shes not talkin to you or seeing as much as you would like for a reason did you ever wonder if she likes someone more tell her how you feel and see how she reacts if shes going to LA and your stayin in Boston then maybe you should break it off cause you dont wanna be to far away from eachother and make it more harder on both of you so tell her how you feel and see where it goes from there
Need good relationship advice?
I have been dating someone for over a year. Things always seemed very good, and we never had a fight. Just last weekend we had been out with a couple of friends and we were all drinking and at the end of the night we (my gf and I) got into an argument over something stupid, and I left her apt.
I called her the next morning to apologize and she said she was sorry as well. I thought things were ok after this but later realized they are not.
We already had plans later that day to go somewhere together and we did that and then after we got back we both went home and I left it open for her to come over later and us to just hang out. She sent an email to me later saying she's going to just stay in and she's a little uncomfortable with things at the moment.
Not sure what's going on here, any advice?Need good relationship advice?
Take it easy mate its seem she need little time to get over that incident. Give her some space and try to be nice to her. Every relationship has ups and down and issues very few are perfect. Goodluck!!! SpartanNeed good relationship advice?
just give her a day or so and give her space. then call her and try and talk about what happened and ask her if she sure that she is okay with everything, etc.
tell her you are sorry and stuff and that it was stupid to be fighting over whatever you were fighting about.
you should send her flowers or something. even though it was just a stupid fight.
The first argument always seems bad. Give her a call and take her out for a meal or something, maybe a bunch of flowers or chocolates would help. Either way you need to sit down and sort things out with her.
You need to get together, somewhere quiet and relaxing and have an honest talk over the argument. No matter how small and insignificant it might be, you wont get anywhere without resolving this issue.
good luck, and be patient, it will all work out if its meant to.
Talk to her, everyone has arguments and falls out, its normal.
maybe it was something you said so put your brain on search, or it could have been something that happend that night thats upset her.
She is feeling hurt and insecure you really made her rethink your relationship. Anything could happen be prepared for any possibility. You really need to let her know exactly how you honestly feel and be prepared to hear how she honestly feels.
hey a man without a problem isn't a man at all just go with the flow why do you have to think too much?
shes not happy with the way things went with that fight. talk to her and tell her u want to talk things out. make it better!
well, things like that happens.. just give her time and space for a while.. it's just like a person drinking alcohol.. they have a hang over.. =)
but don't make things complicated..
and try going out a lot and be romantic with each other..
good luck =)
I called her the next morning to apologize and she said she was sorry as well. I thought things were ok after this but later realized they are not.
We already had plans later that day to go somewhere together and we did that and then after we got back we both went home and I left it open for her to come over later and us to just hang out. She sent an email to me later saying she's going to just stay in and she's a little uncomfortable with things at the moment.
Not sure what's going on here, any advice?Need good relationship advice?
Take it easy mate its seem she need little time to get over that incident. Give her some space and try to be nice to her. Every relationship has ups and down and issues very few are perfect. Goodluck!!! SpartanNeed good relationship advice?
just give her a day or so and give her space. then call her and try and talk about what happened and ask her if she sure that she is okay with everything, etc.
tell her you are sorry and stuff and that it was stupid to be fighting over whatever you were fighting about.
you should send her flowers or something. even though it was just a stupid fight.
The first argument always seems bad. Give her a call and take her out for a meal or something, maybe a bunch of flowers or chocolates would help. Either way you need to sit down and sort things out with her.
You need to get together, somewhere quiet and relaxing and have an honest talk over the argument. No matter how small and insignificant it might be, you wont get anywhere without resolving this issue.
good luck, and be patient, it will all work out if its meant to.
Talk to her, everyone has arguments and falls out, its normal.
maybe it was something you said so put your brain on search, or it could have been something that happend that night thats upset her.
She is feeling hurt and insecure you really made her rethink your relationship. Anything could happen be prepared for any possibility. You really need to let her know exactly how you honestly feel and be prepared to hear how she honestly feels.
hey a man without a problem isn't a man at all just go with the flow why do you have to think too much?
shes not happy with the way things went with that fight. talk to her and tell her u want to talk things out. make it better!
well, things like that happens.. just give her time and space for a while.. it's just like a person drinking alcohol.. they have a hang over.. =)
but don't make things complicated..
and try going out a lot and be romantic with each other..
good luck =)
Starting a relationship advice?
There's a guy I have feelings for (I'm 15, he's 17) and I can tell he has feelings for me. He's so much fun to be around, is social, yet he's somewhat introverted and shy when it comes to deeper feelings and meaningful discussions. His faith is amazing and I'm very faith-driven myself. We haven't been able to have any really meaningful discussions, but I can tell he's looking for someone who'd love to do that.
He doesn't know I have feelings for him. I'm not looking to just ';hook-up';, I want to develop a meaningful, strong relationship. Maybe we'll have a good relationship, maybe not, but I think it could be great.
How do I show him I care without actually telling him? (I have a feeling if I just come out and tell him then that will push him away)
Any beginning a relationship advice?
Thanks.Starting a relationship advice?
A meaningful strong relationship is important. I see kids that dont care about each other getting into relationships, and it doesnt work. A deep bond is the most important and fulfilling thing. Get to know the guy and if you have a good relationship then you could both see when the time comes to take that step. Lustful relationships have no links at all to meaningful ones, they are both different and have different purpose.Starting a relationship advice?
Take your time and don't push the communication thing or anything serious. Above all have fun and things will work themselves out.
His lack of communication is not about you, men are terrible about discussing feelings, etc., whereas women are not.
Be patient.
He doesn't know I have feelings for him. I'm not looking to just ';hook-up';, I want to develop a meaningful, strong relationship. Maybe we'll have a good relationship, maybe not, but I think it could be great.
How do I show him I care without actually telling him? (I have a feeling if I just come out and tell him then that will push him away)
Any beginning a relationship advice?
Thanks.Starting a relationship advice?
A meaningful strong relationship is important. I see kids that dont care about each other getting into relationships, and it doesnt work. A deep bond is the most important and fulfilling thing. Get to know the guy and if you have a good relationship then you could both see when the time comes to take that step. Lustful relationships have no links at all to meaningful ones, they are both different and have different purpose.Starting a relationship advice?
Take your time and don't push the communication thing or anything serious. Above all have fun and things will work themselves out.
His lack of communication is not about you, men are terrible about discussing feelings, etc., whereas women are not.
Be patient.
Long distance relationship advice?
What is your opinion of trying to keep a long distance relationship with a boyfriend when we are at colleges a little over an hour away from each other?
We are currently at the same university, but I'm considering nursing, which would require me to transfer to a campus about an hour and twenty minutes away. We will both be juniors next year (when I would transfer).
My concern is that the distance would put quite a bit of stress on our relationship just from being apart and trying to see each other as often as possible. I'm not worried about unfaithfulness or anything.
Anyone who has tried something like this, do you have any advice?
We live six hours apart during the summer, and have already done the long distance thing during then.Long distance relationship advice?
well if yall already done the long distance before..then an hour and half away is nothin compared to 6 hrs. Long distance relationships are based on commitment trust and communication (huge part) those are the type of risk u have to take in the relationship because u never know it might not be as scary as u think. Alot of ppl might say hell no..its not gonna work..but theres many ppl that have long distance and its worked out for the best. The best thing yall can do is talk about how often yall can see each other..maybe every weekend. At my school alot of girls would spend every weekend or other weekend wit their bf or vice versaLong distance relationship advice?
I woulkd say an hour is doable, especially if you've done the 6 hour thing.
Plus you're a nurse, that's alaways hot for a guy, so he'll try harder :)
We are currently at the same university, but I'm considering nursing, which would require me to transfer to a campus about an hour and twenty minutes away. We will both be juniors next year (when I would transfer).
My concern is that the distance would put quite a bit of stress on our relationship just from being apart and trying to see each other as often as possible. I'm not worried about unfaithfulness or anything.
Anyone who has tried something like this, do you have any advice?
We live six hours apart during the summer, and have already done the long distance thing during then.Long distance relationship advice?
well if yall already done the long distance before..then an hour and half away is nothin compared to 6 hrs. Long distance relationships are based on commitment trust and communication (huge part) those are the type of risk u have to take in the relationship because u never know it might not be as scary as u think. Alot of ppl might say hell no..its not gonna work..but theres many ppl that have long distance and its worked out for the best. The best thing yall can do is talk about how often yall can see each other..maybe every weekend. At my school alot of girls would spend every weekend or other weekend wit their bf or vice versaLong distance relationship advice?
I woulkd say an hour is doable, especially if you've done the 6 hour thing.
Plus you're a nurse, that's alaways hot for a guy, so he'll try harder :)
Can someone give me advice about mixing politics and a relationship.?
My boyfriend is a big Republican and I like Obama. Is this going to be a big problem in our relationship? He is active in political things and I am too, but not as much as he is. We both work but he makes more money than I do. His friends are for Mccain and mine are for Obama. Not sure if any of this info is important but I thought I'd throw it in. How do I handle this??Can someone give me advice about mixing politics and a relationship.?
I'm in a ';mixed'; marriage. We deal with it by not talking politics, but we aren't very ';active.'; My husband less so. We had a bad confrontation when I responded to his ';Defeat Bush'; sticker with a ';W'; one.
Ultimately, politics isn't going to be the problem. It's the very different world views that ultimately may hasten a demise to the relationship.Can someone give me advice about mixing politics and a relationship.?
Um...well my parents are complete opposites, and they get into HUUUUGE arguments ALL the time...my mom calls Bush stupid and my dad gets mad and calls him 'the greatest man on earth'....theyre a little bit extreme but I think you and him might have some problems if you talk about it...but if you avoid the subject it'll work!
Hmm, it's disappointing... But it's not politics that affect relationship, it's about whether you two have the same frequency and channel.
It shouldnt be. Relationships are about two individuals coming together. It doesnt mean losing ur opinion or beliefs. If that becomes a problem...move on. You need to remain an individual. By the way, love Obama myself !!! Good luck !eye color
I'm in a ';mixed'; marriage. We deal with it by not talking politics, but we aren't very ';active.'; My husband less so. We had a bad confrontation when I responded to his ';Defeat Bush'; sticker with a ';W'; one.
Ultimately, politics isn't going to be the problem. It's the very different world views that ultimately may hasten a demise to the relationship.Can someone give me advice about mixing politics and a relationship.?
Um...well my parents are complete opposites, and they get into HUUUUGE arguments ALL the time...my mom calls Bush stupid and my dad gets mad and calls him 'the greatest man on earth'....theyre a little bit extreme but I think you and him might have some problems if you talk about it...but if you avoid the subject it'll work!
Hmm, it's disappointing... But it's not politics that affect relationship, it's about whether you two have the same frequency and channel.
It shouldnt be. Relationships are about two individuals coming together. It doesnt mean losing ur opinion or beliefs. If that becomes a problem...move on. You need to remain an individual. By the way, love Obama myself !!! Good luck !
I need relationship advice from Christians about this issue?
My boyfriend and I, both 19 years old, have dated for 1.5 years and are going to get married in the future. This decision was brought on by a LOT of prayer from us and our church leaders. We have always tried to the best of our ability to include God in every aspect of our courtship, and it's gone great so far. The problem is, we are both college students and a part of our first year dating took away from sister-sister relationships and brother-brother relationships, because we were with each other a lot. This year, our leaders told us that this was something that we were missing out on, that we weren't building the same-gender relationships God provided for us, and that we should pray about taking a break in the relationship. So we prayed and it didn't seem like the right thing to do, so we are still dating, still very loving, etc... Now we are trying to hang out more with our own genders and developing those relationships. I agree that this is the best route.I need relationship advice from Christians about this issue?
Listen, you do what feels right for you. It's OK to listen to a suggestion and to pray about it, but YOU decide.
I don't care if they are church elders or leaders or whatever. The relationship that matters most is the one between you and God and if you need to break up with this boy, trust me HE will let you know.
As for the additional details, that would make him acting like what he is, a 19 year old kid. You're not married yet, remember that. He needs his space and time, as do you.
Be blessed.I need relationship advice from Christians about this issue?
Just keep on praying %26amp; be thankful of the times you do spend together.Its hard enough being in college, then add a relationship.I do agree that each one should spend time with thier own gender.GOD BLESS YOU BOTH %26amp; GOOD LUCK.
could the guys and the girls arrange to do some stuff together some of the time? Also remember if you are getting married you will spend the rest of your lives together so dont worry too much there is plenty of time. God Bless the both of you
change which church you go to.
your leaders sound very strange.
find a good Bible
believing/preaching/teaching Church
as soon as possible.
So they think you're relationship is too intense, you're too young and you're not seeing other friends?
Why don't you just see your friends one day a week? Or why don't you go out in groups. Why must it be the same gender? You just need to balance it out.
If you want to be married, you should spend more time TOGETHER. ';For a man will leave his mother and father, and a woman leave her home, and the two will become one flesh.'; I expect that this applies to brothers, sisters and friends as well. ';What God has joined together, let no man put asunder.';
Admittedly I am only getting for now, 'your side' of the story. What someone is getting at with 'same sex' get togethers I must admit, right now, I do not understand the point, even intuititively.
I am not saying 'blow that opinion off' right now, but something really sounds odd somewhere; but I am not there in person to see what the 'oddity' is.
Having been a church leader and pastor my guess would be that the leaders in your church see something in the relationship bewteen you an your boyfriend that is not ';healthy';. There suggestion is probably a tactful way of saying you are hanging out too much, or maybe all over each other too much. The best advice I could give is for each one of you to have a straight forward talk with your parents. In the Bible they are your authority directly under God and you should neither bypass them and go directly to God nor circumvent them by going to the church leaders.
I cannot offer you the correct advice, but I do wish you the best of luck. You seem very sincere, and that goes a good way in this world.
If you feel you got an answer from God, why are you here?
Listen, you do what feels right for you. It's OK to listen to a suggestion and to pray about it, but YOU decide.
I don't care if they are church elders or leaders or whatever. The relationship that matters most is the one between you and God and if you need to break up with this boy, trust me HE will let you know.
As for the additional details, that would make him acting like what he is, a 19 year old kid. You're not married yet, remember that. He needs his space and time, as do you.
Be blessed.I need relationship advice from Christians about this issue?
Just keep on praying %26amp; be thankful of the times you do spend together.Its hard enough being in college, then add a relationship.I do agree that each one should spend time with thier own gender.GOD BLESS YOU BOTH %26amp; GOOD LUCK.
could the guys and the girls arrange to do some stuff together some of the time? Also remember if you are getting married you will spend the rest of your lives together so dont worry too much there is plenty of time. God Bless the both of you
change which church you go to.
your leaders sound very strange.
find a good Bible
believing/preaching/teaching Church
as soon as possible.
So they think you're relationship is too intense, you're too young and you're not seeing other friends?
Why don't you just see your friends one day a week? Or why don't you go out in groups. Why must it be the same gender? You just need to balance it out.
If you want to be married, you should spend more time TOGETHER. ';For a man will leave his mother and father, and a woman leave her home, and the two will become one flesh.'; I expect that this applies to brothers, sisters and friends as well. ';What God has joined together, let no man put asunder.';
Admittedly I am only getting for now, 'your side' of the story. What someone is getting at with 'same sex' get togethers I must admit, right now, I do not understand the point, even intuititively.
I am not saying 'blow that opinion off' right now, but something really sounds odd somewhere; but I am not there in person to see what the 'oddity' is.
Having been a church leader and pastor my guess would be that the leaders in your church see something in the relationship bewteen you an your boyfriend that is not ';healthy';. There suggestion is probably a tactful way of saying you are hanging out too much, or maybe all over each other too much. The best advice I could give is for each one of you to have a straight forward talk with your parents. In the Bible they are your authority directly under God and you should neither bypass them and go directly to God nor circumvent them by going to the church leaders.
I cannot offer you the correct advice, but I do wish you the best of luck. You seem very sincere, and that goes a good way in this world.
If you feel you got an answer from God, why are you here?
I need a lot of relationship advice right now..........?
My boyfriend's last email to me told me that he was p***ed off and he mentioned quitting his job and I don't know, maybe I'm overreacting. But he's never like that unless something big happened. I don't know if its work or what. My friend wants to yell at him for doing this. Anyone have any advice???I need a lot of relationship advice right now..........?
If he didn't say that he was p***ed off at you, then you don't have anything to worry about. It sounds like he had a bad day at work and is just venting to someone who actually listens to what he has to say (i.e:you). Something probably happened at work to make him really upset and he needed to talk to someone about it even if it was just to say that he's mad. All you can do is be supportive of what he chooses to do. You can write him back saying ';sounds like a bad day, wanna talk about it'; and see where he goes from there. Good luck, and again it sounds like you and him are fine if he still feels good enough to write you about what he's feeling.I need a lot of relationship advice right now..........?
Well did he say he was pissed at you? If not then don't worry about it being something you did wrong. Just ask if he wants to talk about it, if he does then just hear him out, if he doesn't don't insist and give him is space to feel better, he should talk whenever he is ready to do so
everyones not going to be happy all the time...just be there to comfort him, and tell him, that he should'nt quit his job, and that no matter what you will be there for him.
Everyone has bad days at work. I feel like quitting my job all the time but it doesn't mean I'm going to do it.
Just relax and talk to him about it later.
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******* runn!!!
there after usss!!!! woahhhhhhhhhhh
Talk to him. Tell him jobs are hard to come by in these times.
he is probably just having a bad day.
just give him some time and then talk to him about it
everything will be okay :)
just talk to him about it. ask him why he feels that way
If he didn't say that he was p***ed off at you, then you don't have anything to worry about. It sounds like he had a bad day at work and is just venting to someone who actually listens to what he has to say (i.e:you). Something probably happened at work to make him really upset and he needed to talk to someone about it even if it was just to say that he's mad. All you can do is be supportive of what he chooses to do. You can write him back saying ';sounds like a bad day, wanna talk about it'; and see where he goes from there. Good luck, and again it sounds like you and him are fine if he still feels good enough to write you about what he's feeling.I need a lot of relationship advice right now..........?
Well did he say he was pissed at you? If not then don't worry about it being something you did wrong. Just ask if he wants to talk about it, if he does then just hear him out, if he doesn't don't insist and give him is space to feel better, he should talk whenever he is ready to do so
everyones not going to be happy all the time...just be there to comfort him, and tell him, that he should'nt quit his job, and that no matter what you will be there for him.
Everyone has bad days at work. I feel like quitting my job all the time but it doesn't mean I'm going to do it.
Just relax and talk to him about it later.
derka derkaaaa alaaa
******* runn!!!
there after usss!!!! woahhhhhhhhhhh
Talk to him. Tell him jobs are hard to come by in these times.
he is probably just having a bad day.
just give him some time and then talk to him about it
everything will be okay :)
just talk to him about it. ask him why he feels that way
Interracial relationship advice please! Help! I'm black, I love my Mexican Boyfriend so much?
He is very demanding, wants sex all the time. He does not like me talking to my roommate very much, he is a guy. I love him very much and like giving him sex when he wants it. He is very demanding and hardheaded though, I hope that this does not spell trouble down the road. We are bestfriends.Interracial relationship advice please! Help! I'm black, I love my Mexican Boyfriend so much?
Dump him he is proably a illegal immiagent anyway in mexico like most of the world women are 2nd class people.Interracial relationship advice please! Help! I'm black, I love my Mexican Boyfriend so much?
Any man that demands sex all the time and tries to control you in any shape, way, or form is just insecure with themselves. Their worried that if you talk to someone else that person may take you away from them. When they demand that you do things (sex, chores, whatever) they're just trying to make themselves feel like a man. They know that in the real world they don't have it in them to be assertive and stand up for themselves so they control their relationships. In their mind you're inferior to them so they have every right to control you. How long are you together? If he's doing this now it will progressively get worse. He needs to want to change. No one else can change him.
U need to tell him to cool it on the sex..u dont want ur relationship based on sex...if fine if u want to please him when he wants too but not constantly then it seems like hes only using for sex. U need to straight up tell him u dont want hime to constantly demanding sex..if he gets defensive or upset over that..that should make u think twice bout this relationship
Dump him he is proably a illegal immiagent anyway in mexico like most of the world women are 2nd class people.Interracial relationship advice please! Help! I'm black, I love my Mexican Boyfriend so much?
Any man that demands sex all the time and tries to control you in any shape, way, or form is just insecure with themselves. Their worried that if you talk to someone else that person may take you away from them. When they demand that you do things (sex, chores, whatever) they're just trying to make themselves feel like a man. They know that in the real world they don't have it in them to be assertive and stand up for themselves so they control their relationships. In their mind you're inferior to them so they have every right to control you. How long are you together? If he's doing this now it will progressively get worse. He needs to want to change. No one else can change him.
U need to tell him to cool it on the sex..u dont want ur relationship based on sex...if fine if u want to please him when he wants too but not constantly then it seems like hes only using for sex. U need to straight up tell him u dont want hime to constantly demanding sex..if he gets defensive or upset over that..that should make u think twice bout this relationship
Teen Relationship advice please?
I like this girl, but she is year younger than me (im a sophomore, shes a freshmen, we are both in high school). We txt each other and say hi in hallway but thats it. I need some ideas on how to ask her out and get closer to herTeen Relationship advice please?
Strike up a conversation with her at lunch...start hanging out with her in the mornings, at lunch, afterschool. Introduce yourself to her friends. Talk online, or call each other. When you guys are closer friends, start asking her questions like: Is it possible that you would ever like me more than a friend?
If so, ask her out. If not, move on. (:Teen Relationship advice please?
Well, you need to get to know her before you consider dating. Ask her some questions on her favorite things to do. Maybe you should walk her to one of her classes, or to her locker. Say more than hi in person, if you only talk over text, it'll make you seem fake. Age is only a number, it doesn't matter about that,
Flirt with her and say cute things. It will steal her heart. Also ask her to hangout once you get to know each other better, like a movie date. Once you guys get closer and more comfortable ask her out. Do it in person, not over text message or online.
Just talk to her, simple as that. I think its best that you try chatting her up, before you ask her out. Just try talking to her at school whenever you get the chance, or texting her casually. Or online chatting is always good.
Good luck!
When you're texting her, ask her if she wants to chill and go to the movies. Try giving her a friendly hug in the hallway, maybe that will work!
Just text her and ask if she has a boyfriend. That should break the ice. Don't talk about previous relationships, and just generally have fun :)
Send her a text telling her that you want to hang out for real and choose a place and time...and there you go! =D
Strike up a conversation with her at lunch...start hanging out with her in the mornings, at lunch, afterschool. Introduce yourself to her friends. Talk online, or call each other. When you guys are closer friends, start asking her questions like: Is it possible that you would ever like me more than a friend?
If so, ask her out. If not, move on. (:Teen Relationship advice please?
Well, you need to get to know her before you consider dating. Ask her some questions on her favorite things to do. Maybe you should walk her to one of her classes, or to her locker. Say more than hi in person, if you only talk over text, it'll make you seem fake. Age is only a number, it doesn't matter about that,
Flirt with her and say cute things. It will steal her heart. Also ask her to hangout once you get to know each other better, like a movie date. Once you guys get closer and more comfortable ask her out. Do it in person, not over text message or online.
Just talk to her, simple as that. I think its best that you try chatting her up, before you ask her out. Just try talking to her at school whenever you get the chance, or texting her casually. Or online chatting is always good.
Good luck!
When you're texting her, ask her if she wants to chill and go to the movies. Try giving her a friendly hug in the hallway, maybe that will work!
Just text her and ask if she has a boyfriend. That should break the ice. Don't talk about previous relationships, and just generally have fun :)
Send her a text telling her that you want to hang out for real and choose a place and time...and there you go! =D
NEED ADVICE ON LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP?
i have just met this girl online and i want to be with her, but we don't even live in the same state. what should i do?NEED ADVICE ON LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP?
WELL get to no that girl and talk to her and tell her about it i bet she will go for it NEED ADVICE ON LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP?
go for it~! nuthins lost~! but get to know her better~!who knows u might meet one day~!
WELL get to no that girl and talk to her and tell her about it i bet she will go for it NEED ADVICE ON LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP?
go for it~! nuthins lost~! but get to know her better~!who knows u might meet one day~!
What is the best relationship advice anyone ever gave you her on Answers? and did you take it?
i have recently recieved some amazing advice on yahoo! answers and even though i may have not listened in the beginning, it's suprising how much knowledge and truth can come from the experiences of others. i love yahoo! answers, has helped me during some hard times!eye color
Relationship advice please?
I am about to be a senior and i want it to be the best year of my life. I met this guy in February and we started getting intimate in june and I told him when we started liking each other that i didn't want a boyfriend. He was ok with that and now i kind of want him to be my boyfriend,but at the same time i don't want the only thing i remember about my senior year to be my boyfriend. He recently told me that now he does not want a girlfriend and we should just be ';fun buddies';
what should i do?
HELP!Relationship advice please?
Tell at first you didn't want a boyfriend, because you weren't ready, but now you i ready to be in a relationship, or whatever that is you want. then tell him that you understand he wants to be buddies, but that you also want it to be something more. say what you want and leave the ball in his court.Relationship advice please?
well if u just wanna mess around with someone then that for u
maybe ask honesty is the best policy
what should i do?
HELP!Relationship advice please?
Tell at first you didn't want a boyfriend, because you weren't ready, but now you i ready to be in a relationship, or whatever that is you want. then tell him that you understand he wants to be buddies, but that you also want it to be something more. say what you want and leave the ball in his court.Relationship advice please?
well if u just wanna mess around with someone then that for u
maybe ask honesty is the best policy
Relationship advice(girls only please?
There is this girl i really like.she doesnt know that yet,we have been friends for sometime now. i want to tell her how i feel but i am not going to see her until next week (friday).now i want to know if its a good idea to tell her how i feel over the phone or just wait till i see her.
and i feel like i need to talk to her Asap.lolRelationship advice(girls only please?
ok, well if u rly like her than i think you should jst tell her as soon as u can, so ovr the phone might make it less awkward and its better in case of rejection itll b easier, and if it works out, which i hope it does^^, than u can b like i was nervous, rejection in skool might b hard, and when u ask her ovr the phone, if thats wat u chose to do, u an b like sorry im not doing thins in person, but im a lil nervous, so i jst want u to no i like you, or w.e u wanna say, girls thinks its cute when guys r nervous, and dnt worry if she says no, it jst means shes not good enough fr u and im sure u can do better, ok well i hope this helps and that everything works out fr u, good luck^^Relationship advice(girls only please?
It is best if you wait because on the phone you might not know what to say and it is quite difficult to speak about what you want to say
but still it is a long time to wait to see her
But still if you wait until you see her on Friday you would have thought up of what you are going to say and how you feel about her
okay heres what you do, you call her to tell her okay i want to see you when you get back and if you think that she might like you back and you really care about her then on the day you get back plan something for her, like diner or a movie at your house and then tell her how you feel... :)
this shows her that you really do care about her and that she means alot if you would do all of that for her :)
good luck
Well on the phone is kind of lame but if you really want to talk to her ASAP then talk on the phone but be sweet %26amp;%26amp; stuff =]
I would wait to tell her face to face.
do it in person, you'll seem more confident
maybe see if you can see her sometime soon like in the next couple of days
and i feel like i need to talk to her Asap.lolRelationship advice(girls only please?
ok, well if u rly like her than i think you should jst tell her as soon as u can, so ovr the phone might make it less awkward and its better in case of rejection itll b easier, and if it works out, which i hope it does^^, than u can b like i was nervous, rejection in skool might b hard, and when u ask her ovr the phone, if thats wat u chose to do, u an b like sorry im not doing thins in person, but im a lil nervous, so i jst want u to no i like you, or w.e u wanna say, girls thinks its cute when guys r nervous, and dnt worry if she says no, it jst means shes not good enough fr u and im sure u can do better, ok well i hope this helps and that everything works out fr u, good luck^^Relationship advice(girls only please?
It is best if you wait because on the phone you might not know what to say and it is quite difficult to speak about what you want to say
but still it is a long time to wait to see her
But still if you wait until you see her on Friday you would have thought up of what you are going to say and how you feel about her
okay heres what you do, you call her to tell her okay i want to see you when you get back and if you think that she might like you back and you really care about her then on the day you get back plan something for her, like diner or a movie at your house and then tell her how you feel... :)
this shows her that you really do care about her and that she means alot if you would do all of that for her :)
good luck
Well on the phone is kind of lame but if you really want to talk to her ASAP then talk on the phone but be sweet %26amp;%26amp; stuff =]
I would wait to tell her face to face.
do it in person, you'll seem more confident
maybe see if you can see her sometime soon like in the next couple of days
Why do people come on here for relationship advice and then choose the answer they want to hear?
It makes no sense! If you want advice then take it, don't just choose the answer you most want to hear. You may as well not bother and just do what you were going to do anyway and don't waste other people's time.Why do people come on here for relationship advice and then choose the answer they want to hear?
Because they want to know that someone out there has the same idea as them. It helps to reassure them that they aren't doing something completely insane. I know because people always ask me for advice in their own lives and, even though what I'm telling them really is the best course of action, they still end up doing what they want to do.
People just want someone to agree with them so that they don't feel like a complete idiot when things go wrong and they can simply blame the people on Yahoo for giving them bad advice!Why do people come on here for relationship advice and then choose the answer they want to hear?
giving advice
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i think thats a BRILLIANT QUESTION..they dont wanna be hurt by an answer thats right but sad i guess
mob mentality, group mind, herd behavior, sheeple.
';Not knowing which of several options is best, a person may use others' choices as clues as to how to behave. While this can be reasonable, this behavior leaves open the possibility of random influences on choices.';
I agree. I got a thumbs down on one of my answers, even though there wasn't anything wrong with what I said.Sometimes people aren't going to be happy unless they hear what they want to hear.
Some folk need to be told what think and how to behave.
they just want something to reinforce what they already think in their head... someone to agree
Because the other answers are just plain crap.I get stuff like 'go with your heart'and 'Jesus saves' and things like that.
People just want reassurance in there life much as I'm sure you do at times but won't admit to it.
Because they want to know that someone out there has the same idea as them. It helps to reassure them that they aren't doing something completely insane. I know because people always ask me for advice in their own lives and, even though what I'm telling them really is the best course of action, they still end up doing what they want to do.
People just want someone to agree with them so that they don't feel like a complete idiot when things go wrong and they can simply blame the people on Yahoo for giving them bad advice!Why do people come on here for relationship advice and then choose the answer they want to hear?
giving advice
doesn't
obligate
the asker
--i never
waste time
i think thats a BRILLIANT QUESTION..they dont wanna be hurt by an answer thats right but sad i guess
mob mentality, group mind, herd behavior, sheeple.
';Not knowing which of several options is best, a person may use others' choices as clues as to how to behave. While this can be reasonable, this behavior leaves open the possibility of random influences on choices.';
I agree. I got a thumbs down on one of my answers, even though there wasn't anything wrong with what I said.Sometimes people aren't going to be happy unless they hear what they want to hear.
Some folk need to be told what think and how to behave.
they just want something to reinforce what they already think in their head... someone to agree
Because the other answers are just plain crap.I get stuff like 'go with your heart'and 'Jesus saves' and things like that.
People just want reassurance in there life much as I'm sure you do at times but won't admit to it.
Relationship advice needed, please help?
please give tips on flirting, kissing, hed, and a hj, thankss!!!Relationship advice needed, please help?
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Relationship advice .. what's wrong with me?
I'm 23 years old and haven't had a boyfriend for 5 years now. I subconsciously push guys away and I have no idea why! I've noticed that I'll like somebody a lot until they start telling me that they like me also and start getting close to me, and then I back away and lose interest. What is this about?! It's very frustrating and is the reason why I don't have a boyfriend I think! Help!Relationship advice .. what's wrong with me?
Truthfully, i dont think it's you alone. Alot of ppl go through this. The problem could be that you meet someone and like them at face value. It's nice to feel wanted. But as things progress and get more serious you find it hard to make it into something more serious, because truthfully you probably dont want it to be.....You just havent met that special someone yet....Relationship advice .. what's wrong with me?
You are obv scared of getting in to a relationship...Were you hurt in past relationships because this is a comman after effect that happens to women who have been cheated on or hurt by there past partners.
Maybe for a while you should just have a fling and see how that goes then if that goes well then maybe go for a decent guy...
You like being chased and once they have you its no longer fun and interesting for you so you move on to the next guy that will chase you. Sometimes you think that the grass in greener on the other side but sometimes its not. Stick with one for awhile and see how it goes.
Truthfully, i dont think it's you alone. Alot of ppl go through this. The problem could be that you meet someone and like them at face value. It's nice to feel wanted. But as things progress and get more serious you find it hard to make it into something more serious, because truthfully you probably dont want it to be.....You just havent met that special someone yet....Relationship advice .. what's wrong with me?
You are obv scared of getting in to a relationship...Were you hurt in past relationships because this is a comman after effect that happens to women who have been cheated on or hurt by there past partners.
Maybe for a while you should just have a fling and see how that goes then if that goes well then maybe go for a decent guy...
You like being chased and once they have you its no longer fun and interesting for you so you move on to the next guy that will chase you. Sometimes you think that the grass in greener on the other side but sometimes its not. Stick with one for awhile and see how it goes.
Relationship advice, please.?
My boyfriend and I made plans to spend Saturday alone together. We have been planning this since last Sunday. Well, tonight, his friends invited him to hang out Saturday night with them, and he is actually thinking about blowing me off for them. I mean, don't get me wrong, friends are very important as well, but he had made plans with me first, and I don't believe that is right to blow me off. Opinions, please?Relationship advice, please.?
Your boyfriend %26amp; you made plans first, so that should be first.
If it's possible, you could hang out with your boyfriend during the day %26amp; he could hang with his friends during the night %26amp; maybe you could catch up with your friends while he's hanging out with his.
Or you could tag along with him %26amp; his friends.Relationship advice, please.?
Yea if I were you I would be pretty pissed! I also understand that friends are an important part of life but to blow you off just to simply hang with friends, that is wrong. If something huge were to come up and he were to sit and talk to you about it, that would be one thing. To me it shows the level of priority you are to him. Talk to him and tell him how you feel!
Compromise. its not the end of the world that a guy wants to hang with his friends. I can't get my bf to go hang out with his friends without me. it annoys me. So spend some time alone and then let him go to hang out. make sure he knows that this behavior is not ok and it upsets you but your willing to compromise if he is. Thats what relationships are all about. Learn that there will be disappointments in a realtionship but working through it is a key. do the grown up thing and work it out like adults.
Well its hard for him to decide too so remeber he has feelings too. He's probably thinking if he doesnt go they might get angry or pissed but hes probably thinking the same about you. Bit if it were me i'd go with you because it seems like the right thing and if were a good guy he'd know what he'd have to do
Friends are important true. Plans are plans though. I understand where you are coming from. I would say you should def. talk to him about it and tell him how you feel! Duhh! Realtionships are based on communication... Not saying that I am perfect at it, but I would talk to him... And well dont you have friends too? Can you not make plans to go out and have fun yourself with your friends?
nope dats isnt right for him to do dat! guys just dont get how sensitive girls can be. if my boyfriend did dat i would be upset for lyk 3 days. you should talk to him be like we've been planning for like a week you cant just do dat or let him and then do it to him to see if he likes it
The way I look at it is he made plans with you first and blowing you off for friends is not the right thing to do. It shows he doesn't do what he says
just don't let it bother you
this has happend to me before don't let it bother you or you could lose him.
im telling you the truth don't get mad or he'll make it a big deal and it'll end!
please take this advise!
His first committed to you and he needs to uphold that. His friends are not going anywhere, and he has next Sat to go hang out with them.
well you should ask him to hang out with you 4 a little bit then tell him he can go hang out with his friends. take your plans and make them at different timing
He made plans with you first, he should keep them.eye color
Your boyfriend %26amp; you made plans first, so that should be first.
If it's possible, you could hang out with your boyfriend during the day %26amp; he could hang with his friends during the night %26amp; maybe you could catch up with your friends while he's hanging out with his.
Or you could tag along with him %26amp; his friends.Relationship advice, please.?
Yea if I were you I would be pretty pissed! I also understand that friends are an important part of life but to blow you off just to simply hang with friends, that is wrong. If something huge were to come up and he were to sit and talk to you about it, that would be one thing. To me it shows the level of priority you are to him. Talk to him and tell him how you feel!
Compromise. its not the end of the world that a guy wants to hang with his friends. I can't get my bf to go hang out with his friends without me. it annoys me. So spend some time alone and then let him go to hang out. make sure he knows that this behavior is not ok and it upsets you but your willing to compromise if he is. Thats what relationships are all about. Learn that there will be disappointments in a realtionship but working through it is a key. do the grown up thing and work it out like adults.
Well its hard for him to decide too so remeber he has feelings too. He's probably thinking if he doesnt go they might get angry or pissed but hes probably thinking the same about you. Bit if it were me i'd go with you because it seems like the right thing and if were a good guy he'd know what he'd have to do
Friends are important true. Plans are plans though. I understand where you are coming from. I would say you should def. talk to him about it and tell him how you feel! Duhh! Realtionships are based on communication... Not saying that I am perfect at it, but I would talk to him... And well dont you have friends too? Can you not make plans to go out and have fun yourself with your friends?
nope dats isnt right for him to do dat! guys just dont get how sensitive girls can be. if my boyfriend did dat i would be upset for lyk 3 days. you should talk to him be like we've been planning for like a week you cant just do dat or let him and then do it to him to see if he likes it
The way I look at it is he made plans with you first and blowing you off for friends is not the right thing to do. It shows he doesn't do what he says
just don't let it bother you
this has happend to me before don't let it bother you or you could lose him.
im telling you the truth don't get mad or he'll make it a big deal and it'll end!
please take this advise!
His first committed to you and he needs to uphold that. His friends are not going anywhere, and he has next Sat to go hang out with them.
well you should ask him to hang out with you 4 a little bit then tell him he can go hang out with his friends. take your plans and make them at different timing
He made plans with you first, he should keep them.
I need relationship advice.i need a ';men's'; perspective.?
okay to make this short and fast,my boyfriend said he was going to come to my house,but every time he was on his way he had to go back to work or his brothers tire popped that's his excuse for not showing up.Our relationship as been really complicated,i can tell his not happy and neither am i his always making me cry its like i cant be myself around him.every time i try to call him he starts yelling and he always hangs up on me.should i leave him?I need relationship advice.i need a ';men's'; perspective.?
Leave him. He does not love you. You are not good for each other. This is what my husband said.I need relationship advice.i need a ';men's'; perspective.?
He is propably not interested any more .
Leave him. He does not love you. You are not good for each other. This is what my husband said.I need relationship advice.i need a ';men's'; perspective.?
He is propably not interested any more .
I need some relationship advice?
how do i get to the next level physically in a relationship. i am tryna take it slow but how to i convince her to take the next step after making out and stuff.I need some relationship advice?
You won't want to hear this as an answer, but don't convince her. If she's not ready, she's not ready and it would just be a jerk thing to do to trick her into thinking she's ready.
If you're not sure if she's ready, maybe just hint at things. Like slowly start putting your hand up her shirt (just on her belly or something) and ask her if that's ok with her. If she says yes, then you know she's comfortable with it.
You won't want to hear this as an answer, but don't convince her. If she's not ready, she's not ready and it would just be a jerk thing to do to trick her into thinking she's ready.
If you're not sure if she's ready, maybe just hint at things. Like slowly start putting your hand up her shirt (just on her belly or something) and ask her if that's ok with her. If she says yes, then you know she's comfortable with it.
Need help with relationship advice please?
We have been dating for 8 months and love eachother a lot and have talked about the future. What is a good time to wait to get engaged and how long would you wait? I need opnions. Thanks.Need help with relationship advice please?
if you know its right then go for it... there really isn't a time limit on love. But I strongly suggest being engaged for at least 6 months!Need help with relationship advice please?
Be engaged for a year. Once you get serious and start talking about the future odd things come up that you would never have thought of... I was engaged recently and we were engaged for 7 months then we were talking about some things in the future (kids, living location, religion etc.) and realized that we want two totally different things out of life and that we weren't meant for eachother even though we were sooooooo in love. Hope this helps and Congrats! Best of luck for you two!
Try reading this free e-book called 97 steps to a happy relationship. I've read it (a while ago) and I still think about the advice given in it.
if you know its right then go for it... there really isn't a time limit on love. But I strongly suggest being engaged for at least 6 months!Need help with relationship advice please?
Be engaged for a year. Once you get serious and start talking about the future odd things come up that you would never have thought of... I was engaged recently and we were engaged for 7 months then we were talking about some things in the future (kids, living location, religion etc.) and realized that we want two totally different things out of life and that we weren't meant for eachother even though we were sooooooo in love. Hope this helps and Congrats! Best of luck for you two!
Try reading this free e-book called 97 steps to a happy relationship. I've read it (a while ago) and I still think about the advice given in it.
Who gives better relationship advice?
Do women give better advice about how to get/keep a girlfriend or do men? Please...let's try to keep the man/woman bashing to a minimum. I was just wondering who you thought was more knowledgeable about relationships, and why.Who gives better relationship advice?
Both. At least in some aspects (like asking a guy about how to deal with guys). You wouldn't be qualified on how to give perform surgery if you weren't a surgeon. The same thing applies here: you're not qualified to give advice on guys unless you're a guy. (same thing for girls about girls)Who gives better relationship advice?
I think it's a tie really. Women are more perceptive in regard to the emotional aspects of relationships, while men tend to be more logical. I think both points of view should be considered when seeking advice.
Both. At least in some aspects (like asking a guy about how to deal with guys). You wouldn't be qualified on how to give perform surgery if you weren't a surgeon. The same thing applies here: you're not qualified to give advice on guys unless you're a guy. (same thing for girls about girls)Who gives better relationship advice?
I think it's a tie really. Women are more perceptive in regard to the emotional aspects of relationships, while men tend to be more logical. I think both points of view should be considered when seeking advice.
Relationship advice about my date... Can anyone help?
Okay, well I'm in love with my girlfriend, she does everything in the world for me and I don't know what I would do without her.
Lately though, with school, finances, and family issues, I've been not so happy around her and over-controlling. I don't mean to be like this. What should I do? I don't want to lose her, but feel I've messed up so bad already that maybe I should just walk away.
I appreciate any help.
Thanks,
ChrisRelationship advice about my date... Can anyone help?
well apparently you didn't mess up too bad or she woulda just walked away. so what do you do?
number 1. stop making excuses for you recent behavior. it is what it is, and if you dont want to make a habit of it, then you need to drop the excuses and work on it.
number 2 you need to figure out what is important, you said in your explanation that ';well I'm in love with my girlfriend, she does everything in the world for me and I don't know what I would do without her.'; to me(on the outside looking in) that implies that you love her because she does things for you... so you dont want her, you need her. Thats what i've drawn from your question... so decide what you really want/need. you dont want to be with someone just because that are handy to have around, you want someone to be a partner with you in this world!
GL to you, you've got a lot of thinking to do, and some decisions to makeRelationship advice about my date... Can anyone help?
Explain everything to her and say that you're really really sorry. Be nice and honest, and don't be too vague. Good luck.
Answer mine?
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20090516003557AAngvV1
talk to her, if you trust her then tel her whats happening in your life an i guarentee that she will understand an it will not only help your freidnship but it will help you with things too. good luck
Lately though, with school, finances, and family issues, I've been not so happy around her and over-controlling. I don't mean to be like this. What should I do? I don't want to lose her, but feel I've messed up so bad already that maybe I should just walk away.
I appreciate any help.
Thanks,
ChrisRelationship advice about my date... Can anyone help?
well apparently you didn't mess up too bad or she woulda just walked away. so what do you do?
number 1. stop making excuses for you recent behavior. it is what it is, and if you dont want to make a habit of it, then you need to drop the excuses and work on it.
number 2 you need to figure out what is important, you said in your explanation that ';well I'm in love with my girlfriend, she does everything in the world for me and I don't know what I would do without her.'; to me(on the outside looking in) that implies that you love her because she does things for you... so you dont want her, you need her. Thats what i've drawn from your question... so decide what you really want/need. you dont want to be with someone just because that are handy to have around, you want someone to be a partner with you in this world!
GL to you, you've got a lot of thinking to do, and some decisions to makeRelationship advice about my date... Can anyone help?
Explain everything to her and say that you're really really sorry. Be nice and honest, and don't be too vague. Good luck.
Answer mine?
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20090516003557AAngvV1
talk to her, if you trust her then tel her whats happening in your life an i guarentee that she will understand an it will not only help your freidnship but it will help you with things too. good luck
Whats your best relationship advice?
on how to make a good thing last?Whats your best relationship advice?
Remember it's a partnership and a good relationship requires both parties to contribute equally. Communication is important, and owning your emotions is key. In an argument or moments of frustration, use ';I'; rather than ';You make me mad!'; Ex. '; I become upset when I feel un-important when my thought or concerns are not taken seriously.';
Also, remember everyone makes mistakes, work through them as best. Do not harbor resentment and bring up the past. Address issues when they arise, then put them behind you.
Compliment your partner, remind them why they are important to you and traits you like about them.
Don't over-think, over analyze the small things.Whats your best relationship advice?
love them like theres no tomorrow. tell them everyday, because you never know when you wont get to say it again for a while.
treat them like gold and let them know that they are the most important and special person in your life.
drop some subtle hints every once in a while so you dont seem so overbearing.
If you feel things changing between you...try to remember what it was like when you were first dating and bring some of those things back.
Surprise each other once in a while.
Talk about all of your problems...but don't dwell on them.
Do your best to steer clear of any temptations...like other people that might interfere with your relationship.
Treat the other like a piece of glass, you can do exciting and dangerous things while holding onto it, but know the rough areas of where to stay away from, where it could break away from your hands.
COMPROMISE! A relationship is give and take. if you take too much, the other is unhappy. if you give too much, then you are unhappy. it has to work both ways.
go into a relationship with honesty and be open to listen to the other persons wants and needs. Verball communication is sooo important along with respect.
Keep thing fresh and don't do the same thing everyday and every year. People are strange so you always have to work at your relationship.
chill out!
like i find that with alot of my friends, relationships fail because they make a big deal out of really un-important things. Also dont over analyze everything your guy says or does, most of the time its nothing
this website...seriously...
http://www.relationship-institute.com/fr鈥?/a>
i've been with my guy for over two years thanks for this website.
J.D., I guess that with a recent screwed-up relationship on my hands, I'm the last person to advise you on this. I should just read all the other answers you get. Good luck, girl.
always be friends first, then the rest will fall into place. being a good friend means, trust, caring, and overlooking the annoying details. Always communicate.
Does it exsists in our generation? Seems like we are all doomed. Try to keep the fire lit and woman STOP trying to change your man. We WON'T so if you can handle it than move on.
well in this world if u want a good relationship u should have 4 things and u will be good
LOVE
TRUST
FORGIVNESS
AND
UNESTY
well take it slow, dont rush into things such as sex.
as the old saying goes
';a girl worth kissing, is not easily kissed';
=)
be sincere. do not expect too much and do not blame. keep on doing selfless service and love unconditionally..
trust, communication, honesty
be yourself!!!!!!!
Listen, learn, and for love's sake, be honest.
Treat your partner as you would like to be treated.
Trust, be honest to each other all the time.
communicate.
just talking with someone trust honesty being there when they are down making them feel better
lower your expectations
don't fake it!
Loyalty, Trust.
if you ask me just be yourself and trust! ohhh...and never let him think your too up tight.
Trust
by doing only good things
dont screwww up.
and listen.
put pressure on the base, and it will last longereye color
Remember it's a partnership and a good relationship requires both parties to contribute equally. Communication is important, and owning your emotions is key. In an argument or moments of frustration, use ';I'; rather than ';You make me mad!'; Ex. '; I become upset when I feel un-important when my thought or concerns are not taken seriously.';
Also, remember everyone makes mistakes, work through them as best. Do not harbor resentment and bring up the past. Address issues when they arise, then put them behind you.
Compliment your partner, remind them why they are important to you and traits you like about them.
Don't over-think, over analyze the small things.Whats your best relationship advice?
love them like theres no tomorrow. tell them everyday, because you never know when you wont get to say it again for a while.
treat them like gold and let them know that they are the most important and special person in your life.
drop some subtle hints every once in a while so you dont seem so overbearing.
If you feel things changing between you...try to remember what it was like when you were first dating and bring some of those things back.
Surprise each other once in a while.
Talk about all of your problems...but don't dwell on them.
Do your best to steer clear of any temptations...like other people that might interfere with your relationship.
Treat the other like a piece of glass, you can do exciting and dangerous things while holding onto it, but know the rough areas of where to stay away from, where it could break away from your hands.
COMPROMISE! A relationship is give and take. if you take too much, the other is unhappy. if you give too much, then you are unhappy. it has to work both ways.
go into a relationship with honesty and be open to listen to the other persons wants and needs. Verball communication is sooo important along with respect.
Keep thing fresh and don't do the same thing everyday and every year. People are strange so you always have to work at your relationship.
chill out!
like i find that with alot of my friends, relationships fail because they make a big deal out of really un-important things. Also dont over analyze everything your guy says or does, most of the time its nothing
this website...seriously...
http://www.relationship-institute.com/fr鈥?/a>
i've been with my guy for over two years thanks for this website.
J.D., I guess that with a recent screwed-up relationship on my hands, I'm the last person to advise you on this. I should just read all the other answers you get. Good luck, girl.
always be friends first, then the rest will fall into place. being a good friend means, trust, caring, and overlooking the annoying details. Always communicate.
Does it exsists in our generation? Seems like we are all doomed. Try to keep the fire lit and woman STOP trying to change your man. We WON'T so if you can handle it than move on.
well in this world if u want a good relationship u should have 4 things and u will be good
LOVE
TRUST
FORGIVNESS
AND
UNESTY
well take it slow, dont rush into things such as sex.
as the old saying goes
';a girl worth kissing, is not easily kissed';
=)
be sincere. do not expect too much and do not blame. keep on doing selfless service and love unconditionally..
trust, communication, honesty
be yourself!!!!!!!
Listen, learn, and for love's sake, be honest.
Treat your partner as you would like to be treated.
Trust, be honest to each other all the time.
communicate.
just talking with someone trust honesty being there when they are down making them feel better
lower your expectations
don't fake it!
Loyalty, Trust.
if you ask me just be yourself and trust! ohhh...and never let him think your too up tight.
Trust
by doing only good things
dont screwww up.
and listen.
put pressure on the base, and it will last longer
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