Can anyone give me relationship advice?

I'm a single mother to a 1 year old baby. I've been going out with a guy for just over 3 months who lives in my town and i met on myspace. We met up in person and hit it off straight away, sat chatting for hours and forgot about going to the cinema like we'd planned. He'd stay over2 or 3 nights a week and come round some evenings or I'd meet up with him occasionally. He was quite shy but really keen and would text after we'd met up to say what a nice time he'd had. He came out of a 5 year relationship at Christmas, he's 24 a year younger than me and his ex is 21 now.





Everything was great and things were going brilliantly until he started a new job working 6 til 6 and every saturday morning. I also started working monday evenings. He now babysits for me every Monday, I see him briefly when he arrives and he goes home almost straight away when I'm back. He'll come round on a Tuesday evening but even fell asleep once time he's so tired! He usually goes to friends, car meets or does...Can anyone give me relationship advice?
you both need to sit down and talk there is no need to work so many hours at all remember the old saying you work to live not live to work your relationship is doomed this will rip yous apart get some normality into your lives it is no good for baby at all share life good luck DaveCan anyone give me relationship advice?
next time, if u r still single, keep your legs close
Well, 3 months isn't long. Give him another 3 months and see what happens. You will be able to tell if things are getting better or not by then.


Good luck.
I am more than a little concerned that this man is spending more time alone with your child then with you. Please be careful.
Yes... What are you asking exactly?





How can you see him more often?


You may have to figure into mundane tasks, such as dinner, laundry, grocery shopping, etc.


You could try to line up your schedules and see what would work out best. You are limited by having a baby, so you should try to use what flexibility he has in working things out.





From the added details, it looks like he needs to make more of a commitment to see you more of his off nights.
personally he's a working man from the time that u said on that thing, seems pretty long wouldn't you be tired too? but as far as the ex goes if he's not talking to her that you no of then its all good, if he stills calls you once or twice or his break or on his break or when he gets chance, then it all good. And if he don't then maybe you should request one of the date that he goes to his so called car meets or whatever they are and find a baby sitter and ask him if u can go with him and if he says no then let it go and follow him and or if u know any of his friends number that he goes to the car meet,call his friends and ask him when was there last car meet but find a babysitter and ask him can u go first before u start investigating and that's if u like him that much to do all that or if he has a cell phone then call him the time that he says that he is at his car meeting and ask him whats hes doing where hes at but don't be mean with it just make it sound like u were checking on him to c if things were going ok and tell him u miss him or something. But don't make it obvious and try to listen to his background on the slide.
Congratulations. You're married.
ummm....he is soo busy but where do you fit in? Nowhere, you might as well start dating again I doubt it if he notices.
does what? lol
I'm not sure what you are asking. It sounds like everything is fine between you, you're just going through an adjustment period. If you're not sure, ask him directly. Don't harrass him about being tired but make sure that's all it is. If you are feeling neglected because of his time out with friends, tell him so. The relationship is young, you need to develop strong communication. Good luck to the two of you.
the length of his previous relationship indicates that he is commited and i don't think he would walk away because of pressure , however u both really should cut down work hours u will drift apart if u don't . i think u should both compromise a little too. follow your heart too .





best of luck to u .
You've written a lot here without categorically stating your question.However, for any relationship to work the physical presence of both partners is importan.Both of you have to sit down and work out a routine that will enable both of you to spend more time together.
you should find a man, 10 years is acceptable, 20 + is not.
at least u have sumone... most men knowing that you are a single mother would look at you twice and keep it moving... but you should really tell him how you feel and express that you need him at a moment of time but he rather hang out with his friends... which is crazy if you are tired and all... but jus take sum time off of your own.. and have a girls night out and stop stressing it, he will come around eventually if not you know what you have to do.. and make the right decision.. and i know you will...
You are still in the early stages of the relationship. He needs to be treated more like a boyfriend than a baby sitter. Sounds like he is over worked and probably tired by the time you get there and needs a break. He obviously cares about you and the child or he wouldn't be doing all of this. Try not to ask so much of him and make sure he knows how much you appreciate what he has already done.
Whoa!! I agree with some of the other posts. Way too fast.... and for you to let someone you met on MySpace only 3 months ago, babysit your 1 year old baby is just plain NUTS!!





He's probably feeling the relationship is going to fast also. You've got him watching your baby for goodness sakes. He's not wanting to ';babysit'; someones child. He wants someone he can spend his time with and still have free time for himself.





I'd suggest you find someone else, to watch your child and get to know him better.
I must say that for 3 months, your relationship is going quite fast. You're even letting him baby-sit your baby. I would advise that you slow your relationship down a bit. 3 months isn't quite enough time to trust him completely.





But in reference to your dilemma, I will say that it appears he cares for you. Yet the fact that he leaves immediately is something you should beware of. It's possible he might not be taking the relationship quite as seriously as you. Talk to him. Tell him that you care for him, and would like to see him more often. See how he responds. If it's good, then both of you should make an attempt to see each other by hanging out on Sundays, having dinners together, lunch breaks, etc.. If he isn't looking at your relationship the same as you, then it's best to move on. You have a new baby in your life, that's a priority.
So whats your point? Is this a question or your diary?