im in need of some serious advice. i have been with my girlfriend for over a year and a half now and we have seemed to enter a fork in the road. shes a senior in high school and im 2 years older than her and falling into a job that im making some serious money at. we have had a serious communication break down due to both of us being busy. i see her once a week and talk to her on the phone for maybe 2 or 3 minutes the days i dont see her. honestly im not satisfied with this and have let it be know but she doesnt seem to show the same concerns that i do and i feel this is a major problem. i do care about her and love her deeply which makes this that much harder. another thing is shes going to school in la next fall and im settled in boston in a new apartment and with a good job so i really dont know what to do. any advice or suggestions would be greatly appreciatted.I need some relationship advice concerning my girlfriend?
I know it's sad but you have probably grown apart and she just doesn't know what to say to you, which means she does not mean to hurt you. I dated the same boy all four years of high school. I was a yr younger so he waited for me and then the weekend that I graduated, we left town and started at the same college. By that time I had already started detaching from him but it was just too difficult to own up to. We lasted two semesters then he wanted to go on to another college and I stayed back. Funny thing, a couple of months ago we ran into eachother in a shop and decided to stop for coffee and talk. Although he was having a hard time with a divorce, we could agree that everything happens for a reason. We all grow and grow apart... it's just part of the process. Good luck to you.I need some relationship advice concerning my girlfriend?
well,have you thought about marriage?i know she is going to school in la but it sounds like its not going to work if she isnt going to stay around you. so if she cant make a change 4 u then pick up and move on u cant stop your life to wait on someone who isnt as serious about you as you r them. rember she IS younger. good luck. .
talk to her on the day you see her and ask her if she's willing to make it work and continue. ask her if she wants to keep the relationship going while shes in la so then you know how far to keep your hopes up and knows what is going to happen. Straight up talk to her and dont beat around the bush since it will only make things worse. Hopefully, she'll answer you truthfully. Good luck! Hope I helped!
~SmS~
My advice to you is to stay in Boston in your new apartment and good job, let her go to LA, and move on with your lives. You are too young to settle down or make a lifelong committment, and it doesn't sound like you have much of a relationship anyway.
the communication thing sounds just like what my bf and i are doing now. I wouldn't fret that too much though. It's what makes that one day you all see each other during the week that more special. You have the remember, it's not like you two don't want to see each other. You really can't b/c you are both busy working on your goals trying make a living - nothing wrong with that.
What I would mull over is the fact that she is moving so far away? Do you both want to do a long distance relationship? If you can't handle seeing each other only once a week then maybe her being in l.a. and you in boston won't work out. That is your big issue you both need to decide. Once you decide that then everything else will fall into place.
ok look you really love her so you dont wanna let her go but then again you cant be selffish you have to look at it from her point of veiw to what if shes not talkin to you or seeing as much as you would like for a reason did you ever wonder if she likes someone more tell her how you feel and see how she reacts if shes going to LA and your stayin in Boston then maybe you should break it off cause you dont wanna be to far away from eachother and make it more harder on both of you so tell her how you feel and see where it goes from there
Thursday, December 31, 2009
Who has good relationship advice?!?
My boyfriend is in the Airforce and has to go to japan for 2 years and iraq for 6 months what do i do? I wont let him go but we cant get married seeing as im underage.
dont go into the its illegal thing. because i know that and so does he and were not doing anything illegal but I need advice on how to help make our relationship work the next three years.Who has good relationship advice?!?
It is definitely going to be tough. I'm in a long distance relationship. He lives in a different state. But it's not the same as what you'll be going through.
If you both honestly love each other then make sure you two stay committed to making it work, focus on the positive like ';only bla bla bla months/days until i see him'; and stay in contact.
Or maybe you could both agree to stay together but have an open relationship if that's the kind of thing you're into? I'm not, but it was just a suggestion. =]
Make sure you both trust each other two.
As for the whole marraige thing... Wait until he comes back. =]
Goodluck. =] You'll need support from family and friends.
dont go into the its illegal thing. because i know that and so does he and were not doing anything illegal but I need advice on how to help make our relationship work the next three years.Who has good relationship advice?!?
It is definitely going to be tough. I'm in a long distance relationship. He lives in a different state. But it's not the same as what you'll be going through.
If you both honestly love each other then make sure you two stay committed to making it work, focus on the positive like ';only bla bla bla months/days until i see him'; and stay in contact.
Or maybe you could both agree to stay together but have an open relationship if that's the kind of thing you're into? I'm not, but it was just a suggestion. =]
Make sure you both trust each other two.
As for the whole marraige thing... Wait until he comes back. =]
Goodluck. =] You'll need support from family and friends.
What should I do? I need relationship advice?
My ex fiance left me and came back when I was with another person. When he came back I was hurt and devestated and also moving. I tried to hook up him and my best friend because they both seemed to like eachother (yes I'm aware that this a BIG mistake). He rejected all her advances. I love this guy and he loves me. He hasn't been with anyone else since we've parted, and my best friend says she understands and supports us but she's become kinda bitter about it. What can I do to fix this. She's been my best friend for 11 years, and I can't imagine life without my ex.What should I do? I need relationship advice?
Ok, you already know that you made a mistake with your ex and best friend. Apparently though, your best friend got her hopes up and your ex was not interested. Now your friend has to observe someone she likes,(your ex) go after HER best friend,( you). The roles are somewhat reversed. Have you decided to get back with your ex? Maybe your ex and best friend was a way to keep them both near you while still being with your new beau.Time itself can fix things.If she is your friend she will continue to support you and him. There is not irrepairable damage here.What should I do? I need relationship advice?
They never even had a romantic relationship.You did. You're obviously a big hearted person.
He doesn't like her. He likes you. You like him. You have history together. They don't.
If she has a problem with that...she needs to grow up.
Best of luck to you.
Stay away from him gf! If it didnt work once it wont work again and as for your bestie, she should stay away too you both gotta let go and move on its the only way you will all be happy! Never look back
then give him 1 last try,follow your heart,and those who are truely your friends will stick by you and support u!
Move ahead with your ex. It sounds like your friend supports you. In time, especially when she finds that someone special she will get over it.
first of all.......if he left u......he doesnt deserve u.....he just came back n realized what he left behind......but the truth is that he's not worth u ruining a good relationship with a current huby.........what u should do is walk around like he isnt important to u becuz u have a life without him n he has to deal with it whether he likes it or not.....but if u love him enough take the chance because u never know............he probably came back just for u n is sorry for acting so stupid for leaving u............but think about this as u make ur decision.......what proof do u have that he hasnt been with anyone?how will u know that he wont hurt u again n leave hanging?
The only thing you can do is what makes you happy if your happy then nothing else matters. I know this is kinda a modest approach but you cant please everyone if you do still love your ex fiance then i say give it a chance i dont know the reasons for leaving him and maybe thats why the friend is kinda upset that your parting with him. But if he did nothing wrong and you broke up mutually then i dont see whats wrong with you giving him the chance he deserves. Your friend isnt truly your friend if she cant accept the fact that you are in love with your fiance everyone in life deserves a chance spend some time apart from both of them and figure out what you want to do and know truly in your heart what matters more your friendship or being with the one you love. Even though your friend should get over it with time.
First of all it depends on some of the parameters. If you are 18-20 I would advise spending a long time thinking about it before you do anything on impulse, as many young marriages end in divorce (not meaning to be gloom, but factual).
Also, the fact you need to look at is the cheat factor. If you two broke up because one of you slept with someone else and/or constantly lied to the other, you need to ask yourself if you would be ok living like this the rest of your life for love.
If this was not the case of the breakup, then there may be hope.
If the breakup is because of issues such as - abuse, alcoholism, drug abuse etc.. there is professional counseling that can mend these problems to prevent further bumps in the road of life, and I would advise it.
I guess the main point I am getting at is that a solid foundation of a relationship is hard work, period. Even the ';happy'; couples have struggled to build a solid form of communication and trust through tense, and even angry moments with eachother, but this anger is a form of direct communication, and is actually much more progressive than lying to eachother and saying ';everything's fine...'; when it's not.
My advice is to ask yourself if you are ready to take a huge step in the direction of being extremely serious, and if he is also, and if so, I'd go for what your heart feels the most.
Why did he leave you?
Your friend should stay away from him!
If you want to be with him and he's made it clear to her he doesnt want your friend.....
She should stay away from him and has no right to be bitter. it s her problem, not yours.
If you knew that you still had feelings for him why would you even attempt to hook him up with your best friend.
I don't know what you could do to possibly fix this one, you have hurt your friend badly by setting her up to be rejected and then your wanting the ex back.
I'm really sorry but this has made you out to be the bad person, I know you may not really be a bad person but you need to take a walk in your friends shoes.
you have to talk to him and figured it out between each other now i think you should really think what you want and need.. and then make a decision.
youll figure it out...if its meant to be well youll find out.
i do nt see what and where
or how?
Why would your friend be bitter? Just give it some time, and let things sort it self out.
Ok, you already know that you made a mistake with your ex and best friend. Apparently though, your best friend got her hopes up and your ex was not interested. Now your friend has to observe someone she likes,(your ex) go after HER best friend,( you). The roles are somewhat reversed. Have you decided to get back with your ex? Maybe your ex and best friend was a way to keep them both near you while still being with your new beau.Time itself can fix things.If she is your friend she will continue to support you and him. There is not irrepairable damage here.What should I do? I need relationship advice?
They never even had a romantic relationship.You did. You're obviously a big hearted person.
He doesn't like her. He likes you. You like him. You have history together. They don't.
If she has a problem with that...she needs to grow up.
Best of luck to you.
Stay away from him gf! If it didnt work once it wont work again and as for your bestie, she should stay away too you both gotta let go and move on its the only way you will all be happy! Never look back
then give him 1 last try,follow your heart,and those who are truely your friends will stick by you and support u!
Move ahead with your ex. It sounds like your friend supports you. In time, especially when she finds that someone special she will get over it.
first of all.......if he left u......he doesnt deserve u.....he just came back n realized what he left behind......but the truth is that he's not worth u ruining a good relationship with a current huby.........what u should do is walk around like he isnt important to u becuz u have a life without him n he has to deal with it whether he likes it or not.....but if u love him enough take the chance because u never know............he probably came back just for u n is sorry for acting so stupid for leaving u............but think about this as u make ur decision.......what proof do u have that he hasnt been with anyone?how will u know that he wont hurt u again n leave hanging?
The only thing you can do is what makes you happy if your happy then nothing else matters. I know this is kinda a modest approach but you cant please everyone if you do still love your ex fiance then i say give it a chance i dont know the reasons for leaving him and maybe thats why the friend is kinda upset that your parting with him. But if he did nothing wrong and you broke up mutually then i dont see whats wrong with you giving him the chance he deserves. Your friend isnt truly your friend if she cant accept the fact that you are in love with your fiance everyone in life deserves a chance spend some time apart from both of them and figure out what you want to do and know truly in your heart what matters more your friendship or being with the one you love. Even though your friend should get over it with time.
First of all it depends on some of the parameters. If you are 18-20 I would advise spending a long time thinking about it before you do anything on impulse, as many young marriages end in divorce (not meaning to be gloom, but factual).
Also, the fact you need to look at is the cheat factor. If you two broke up because one of you slept with someone else and/or constantly lied to the other, you need to ask yourself if you would be ok living like this the rest of your life for love.
If this was not the case of the breakup, then there may be hope.
If the breakup is because of issues such as - abuse, alcoholism, drug abuse etc.. there is professional counseling that can mend these problems to prevent further bumps in the road of life, and I would advise it.
I guess the main point I am getting at is that a solid foundation of a relationship is hard work, period. Even the ';happy'; couples have struggled to build a solid form of communication and trust through tense, and even angry moments with eachother, but this anger is a form of direct communication, and is actually much more progressive than lying to eachother and saying ';everything's fine...'; when it's not.
My advice is to ask yourself if you are ready to take a huge step in the direction of being extremely serious, and if he is also, and if so, I'd go for what your heart feels the most.
Why did he leave you?
Your friend should stay away from him!
If you want to be with him and he's made it clear to her he doesnt want your friend.....
She should stay away from him and has no right to be bitter. it s her problem, not yours.
If you knew that you still had feelings for him why would you even attempt to hook him up with your best friend.
I don't know what you could do to possibly fix this one, you have hurt your friend badly by setting her up to be rejected and then your wanting the ex back.
I'm really sorry but this has made you out to be the bad person, I know you may not really be a bad person but you need to take a walk in your friends shoes.
you have to talk to him and figured it out between each other now i think you should really think what you want and need.. and then make a decision.
youll figure it out...if its meant to be well youll find out.
i do nt see what and where
or how?
Why would your friend be bitter? Just give it some time, and let things sort it self out.
Where can I go to get relationship advice?
Send an email to relationshipadvice@yahoo.comWhere can I go to get relationship advice?
a therapistWhere can I go to get relationship advice?
your on one of the best places to get advice.... here
we are people who dont personaly know you or the person you are with and you get so many differnt answers to u really have like 20 differnt peoples advice but hey email me anytime if you would like advice xox_summer_xox@hotmail.com
dr phil.. or perhaps on here.. im in need of some too myself
a therapistWhere can I go to get relationship advice?
your on one of the best places to get advice.... here
we are people who dont personaly know you or the person you are with and you get so many differnt answers to u really have like 20 differnt peoples advice but hey email me anytime if you would like advice xox_summer_xox@hotmail.com
dr phil.. or perhaps on here.. im in need of some too myself
What advice would you give someone who has been broken harted and is not getting out a new relationship?Advice
Advice please
state you're mind please
thanksWhat advice would you give someone who has been broken harted and is not getting out a new relationship?Advice
relationships are like buses. you missed out on one so have a seat. another one is on its way.What advice would you give someone who has been broken harted and is not getting out a new relationship?Advice
don't get into a new relationship yet. Have fun, date. Get secure with yourself first before you bring someone else into the picture. Its hard because people get adapted to having someone but you have to be careful.
well you still have life to live and you should start playing guitar or something that way you have something else to concentrate oneye color
state you're mind please
thanksWhat advice would you give someone who has been broken harted and is not getting out a new relationship?Advice
relationships are like buses. you missed out on one so have a seat. another one is on its way.What advice would you give someone who has been broken harted and is not getting out a new relationship?Advice
don't get into a new relationship yet. Have fun, date. Get secure with yourself first before you bring someone else into the picture. Its hard because people get adapted to having someone but you have to be careful.
well you still have life to live and you should start playing guitar or something that way you have something else to concentrate on
Long distance relationship advice?
my boyfriend lives in a different state to me, but luckily it's on the same side of the country. i get to see him soon, but its in about 20 or so days. its getting really hard for both of us, but i love him so theres no way in hell im ending it.
does anyone have any ideas how we can survive the last few days, and the time after that?
my parents dont know yet, so he cant come stay or anything.....Long distance relationship advice?
being in the military, i've learned to do the long distance thing, as much as it sucks...
you gotta be realistic about it first of all... you can't expect too much and don't get your hopes up on your ';future'; with that person... just go with the flow. if it's meant to be, it'll happen.. with work of course, but that doesn't at all mean you have to force it.
contact every day, even if it's once a day really helps... webcam or phone where you can see each other or hear each other's voices. txts and emails in between are good too. (of course, in the military, that's not always possible)
it's also good for both of you to have something of each other or something meaningful to the relationship, or that simply reminds each of you of the other..
enjoy every second you have together and make the best of it always... try reeeeally hard not to fight, especially over the petty stuff, it's just not worth it. you want to have a good time so you have that to think about and the next visit to motivate you until the next one.
i think the biggest thing would be not to lose yourself and not to revolve your life around the calls and visits... keep busy between visits and focus on yourself. it helps time fly and it keeps you grounded, as well as satisfied with your life so that the other person is a bonus, and makes it better rather than BEING your life (and it being miserable when you're apart) it also makes it easier to let go once it's time, if that happens.Long distance relationship advice?
faith is everything and by the looks of it you have a lot of it. i just hope your boyfriend has the same. if you both love each other and keep in touch on the phone it will go well. you can also use this program skype.com which helps you talk to them and look at them at the same time. I been through a relationship like yours expect my girl was in Europe and it was much harder believe me. you have to trust and believe, and in time it will only get better.
My girlfriend's been in Hawaii over the holidays and we're both going CRAZY. We've been IMing for hours at a time every day but it's really not the same. I suggest that you both get a webcam. They're not expensive and you can download and use Skype for free video chat.
does anyone have any ideas how we can survive the last few days, and the time after that?
my parents dont know yet, so he cant come stay or anything.....Long distance relationship advice?
being in the military, i've learned to do the long distance thing, as much as it sucks...
you gotta be realistic about it first of all... you can't expect too much and don't get your hopes up on your ';future'; with that person... just go with the flow. if it's meant to be, it'll happen.. with work of course, but that doesn't at all mean you have to force it.
contact every day, even if it's once a day really helps... webcam or phone where you can see each other or hear each other's voices. txts and emails in between are good too. (of course, in the military, that's not always possible)
it's also good for both of you to have something of each other or something meaningful to the relationship, or that simply reminds each of you of the other..
enjoy every second you have together and make the best of it always... try reeeeally hard not to fight, especially over the petty stuff, it's just not worth it. you want to have a good time so you have that to think about and the next visit to motivate you until the next one.
i think the biggest thing would be not to lose yourself and not to revolve your life around the calls and visits... keep busy between visits and focus on yourself. it helps time fly and it keeps you grounded, as well as satisfied with your life so that the other person is a bonus, and makes it better rather than BEING your life (and it being miserable when you're apart) it also makes it easier to let go once it's time, if that happens.Long distance relationship advice?
faith is everything and by the looks of it you have a lot of it. i just hope your boyfriend has the same. if you both love each other and keep in touch on the phone it will go well. you can also use this program skype.com which helps you talk to them and look at them at the same time. I been through a relationship like yours expect my girl was in Europe and it was much harder believe me. you have to trust and believe, and in time it will only get better.
My girlfriend's been in Hawaii over the holidays and we're both going CRAZY. We've been IMing for hours at a time every day but it's really not the same. I suggest that you both get a webcam. They're not expensive and you can download and use Skype for free video chat.
Need good relationship advice?
I have been dating someone for over a year. Things always seemed very good, and we never had a fight. Just last weekend we had been out with a couple of friends and we were all drinking and at the end of the night we (my gf and I) got into an argument over something stupid, and I left her apt.
I called her the next morning to apologize and she said she was sorry as well. I thought things were ok after this but later realized they are not.
We already had plans later that day to go somewhere together and we did that and then after we got back we both went home and I left it open for her to come over later and us to just hang out. She sent an email to me later saying she's going to just stay in and she's a little uncomfortable with things at the moment.
Not sure what's going on here, any advice?Need good relationship advice?
Take it easy mate its seem she need little time to get over that incident. Give her some space and try to be nice to her. Every relationship has ups and down and issues very few are perfect. Goodluck!!! SpartanNeed good relationship advice?
just give her a day or so and give her space. then call her and try and talk about what happened and ask her if she sure that she is okay with everything, etc.
tell her you are sorry and stuff and that it was stupid to be fighting over whatever you were fighting about.
you should send her flowers or something. even though it was just a stupid fight.
The first argument always seems bad. Give her a call and take her out for a meal or something, maybe a bunch of flowers or chocolates would help. Either way you need to sit down and sort things out with her.
You need to get together, somewhere quiet and relaxing and have an honest talk over the argument. No matter how small and insignificant it might be, you wont get anywhere without resolving this issue.
good luck, and be patient, it will all work out if its meant to.
Talk to her, everyone has arguments and falls out, its normal.
maybe it was something you said so put your brain on search, or it could have been something that happend that night thats upset her.
She is feeling hurt and insecure you really made her rethink your relationship. Anything could happen be prepared for any possibility. You really need to let her know exactly how you honestly feel and be prepared to hear how she honestly feels.
hey a man without a problem isn't a man at all just go with the flow why do you have to think too much?
shes not happy with the way things went with that fight. talk to her and tell her u want to talk things out. make it better!
well, things like that happens.. just give her time and space for a while.. it's just like a person drinking alcohol.. they have a hang over.. =)
but don't make things complicated..
and try going out a lot and be romantic with each other..
good luck =)
I called her the next morning to apologize and she said she was sorry as well. I thought things were ok after this but later realized they are not.
We already had plans later that day to go somewhere together and we did that and then after we got back we both went home and I left it open for her to come over later and us to just hang out. She sent an email to me later saying she's going to just stay in and she's a little uncomfortable with things at the moment.
Not sure what's going on here, any advice?Need good relationship advice?
Take it easy mate its seem she need little time to get over that incident. Give her some space and try to be nice to her. Every relationship has ups and down and issues very few are perfect. Goodluck!!! SpartanNeed good relationship advice?
just give her a day or so and give her space. then call her and try and talk about what happened and ask her if she sure that she is okay with everything, etc.
tell her you are sorry and stuff and that it was stupid to be fighting over whatever you were fighting about.
you should send her flowers or something. even though it was just a stupid fight.
The first argument always seems bad. Give her a call and take her out for a meal or something, maybe a bunch of flowers or chocolates would help. Either way you need to sit down and sort things out with her.
You need to get together, somewhere quiet and relaxing and have an honest talk over the argument. No matter how small and insignificant it might be, you wont get anywhere without resolving this issue.
good luck, and be patient, it will all work out if its meant to.
Talk to her, everyone has arguments and falls out, its normal.
maybe it was something you said so put your brain on search, or it could have been something that happend that night thats upset her.
She is feeling hurt and insecure you really made her rethink your relationship. Anything could happen be prepared for any possibility. You really need to let her know exactly how you honestly feel and be prepared to hear how she honestly feels.
hey a man without a problem isn't a man at all just go with the flow why do you have to think too much?
shes not happy with the way things went with that fight. talk to her and tell her u want to talk things out. make it better!
well, things like that happens.. just give her time and space for a while.. it's just like a person drinking alcohol.. they have a hang over.. =)
but don't make things complicated..
and try going out a lot and be romantic with each other..
good luck =)
Why do people come on here for relationship advice and then choose the answer they want to hear?
It makes no sense! If you want advice then take it, don't just choose the answer you most want to hear. You may as well not bother and just do what you were going to do anyway and don't waste other people's time.Why do people come on here for relationship advice and then choose the answer they want to hear?
Because they want to know that someone out there has the same idea as them. It helps to reassure them that they aren't doing something completely insane. I know because people always ask me for advice in their own lives and, even though what I'm telling them really is the best course of action, they still end up doing what they want to do.
People just want someone to agree with them so that they don't feel like a complete idiot when things go wrong and they can simply blame the people on Yahoo for giving them bad advice!Why do people come on here for relationship advice and then choose the answer they want to hear?
giving advice
doesn't
obligate
the asker
--i never
waste time
i think thats a BRILLIANT QUESTION..they dont wanna be hurt by an answer thats right but sad i guess
mob mentality, group mind, herd behavior, sheeple.
';Not knowing which of several options is best, a person may use others' choices as clues as to how to behave. While this can be reasonable, this behavior leaves open the possibility of random influences on choices.';
I agree. I got a thumbs down on one of my answers, even though there wasn't anything wrong with what I said.Sometimes people aren't going to be happy unless they hear what they want to hear.
Some folk need to be told what think and how to behave.
they just want something to reinforce what they already think in their head... someone to agree
Because the other answers are just plain crap.I get stuff like 'go with your heart'and 'Jesus saves' and things like that.
People just want reassurance in there life much as I'm sure you do at times but won't admit to it.
Because they want to know that someone out there has the same idea as them. It helps to reassure them that they aren't doing something completely insane. I know because people always ask me for advice in their own lives and, even though what I'm telling them really is the best course of action, they still end up doing what they want to do.
People just want someone to agree with them so that they don't feel like a complete idiot when things go wrong and they can simply blame the people on Yahoo for giving them bad advice!Why do people come on here for relationship advice and then choose the answer they want to hear?
giving advice
doesn't
obligate
the asker
--i never
waste time
i think thats a BRILLIANT QUESTION..they dont wanna be hurt by an answer thats right but sad i guess
mob mentality, group mind, herd behavior, sheeple.
';Not knowing which of several options is best, a person may use others' choices as clues as to how to behave. While this can be reasonable, this behavior leaves open the possibility of random influences on choices.';
I agree. I got a thumbs down on one of my answers, even though there wasn't anything wrong with what I said.Sometimes people aren't going to be happy unless they hear what they want to hear.
Some folk need to be told what think and how to behave.
they just want something to reinforce what they already think in their head... someone to agree
Because the other answers are just plain crap.I get stuff like 'go with your heart'and 'Jesus saves' and things like that.
People just want reassurance in there life much as I'm sure you do at times but won't admit to it.
Relationship advice needed, please help?
please give tips on flirting, kissing, hed, and a hj, thankss!!!Relationship advice needed, please help?
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Relationship advice .. what's wrong with me?
I'm 23 years old and haven't had a boyfriend for 5 years now. I subconsciously push guys away and I have no idea why! I've noticed that I'll like somebody a lot until they start telling me that they like me also and start getting close to me, and then I back away and lose interest. What is this about?! It's very frustrating and is the reason why I don't have a boyfriend I think! Help!Relationship advice .. what's wrong with me?
Truthfully, i dont think it's you alone. Alot of ppl go through this. The problem could be that you meet someone and like them at face value. It's nice to feel wanted. But as things progress and get more serious you find it hard to make it into something more serious, because truthfully you probably dont want it to be.....You just havent met that special someone yet....Relationship advice .. what's wrong with me?
You are obv scared of getting in to a relationship...Were you hurt in past relationships because this is a comman after effect that happens to women who have been cheated on or hurt by there past partners.
Maybe for a while you should just have a fling and see how that goes then if that goes well then maybe go for a decent guy...
You like being chased and once they have you its no longer fun and interesting for you so you move on to the next guy that will chase you. Sometimes you think that the grass in greener on the other side but sometimes its not. Stick with one for awhile and see how it goes.
Truthfully, i dont think it's you alone. Alot of ppl go through this. The problem could be that you meet someone and like them at face value. It's nice to feel wanted. But as things progress and get more serious you find it hard to make it into something more serious, because truthfully you probably dont want it to be.....You just havent met that special someone yet....Relationship advice .. what's wrong with me?
You are obv scared of getting in to a relationship...Were you hurt in past relationships because this is a comman after effect that happens to women who have been cheated on or hurt by there past partners.
Maybe for a while you should just have a fling and see how that goes then if that goes well then maybe go for a decent guy...
You like being chased and once they have you its no longer fun and interesting for you so you move on to the next guy that will chase you. Sometimes you think that the grass in greener on the other side but sometimes its not. Stick with one for awhile and see how it goes.
Relationship advice, please.?
My boyfriend and I made plans to spend Saturday alone together. We have been planning this since last Sunday. Well, tonight, his friends invited him to hang out Saturday night with them, and he is actually thinking about blowing me off for them. I mean, don't get me wrong, friends are very important as well, but he had made plans with me first, and I don't believe that is right to blow me off. Opinions, please?Relationship advice, please.?
Your boyfriend %26amp; you made plans first, so that should be first.
If it's possible, you could hang out with your boyfriend during the day %26amp; he could hang with his friends during the night %26amp; maybe you could catch up with your friends while he's hanging out with his.
Or you could tag along with him %26amp; his friends.Relationship advice, please.?
Yea if I were you I would be pretty pissed! I also understand that friends are an important part of life but to blow you off just to simply hang with friends, that is wrong. If something huge were to come up and he were to sit and talk to you about it, that would be one thing. To me it shows the level of priority you are to him. Talk to him and tell him how you feel!
Compromise. its not the end of the world that a guy wants to hang with his friends. I can't get my bf to go hang out with his friends without me. it annoys me. So spend some time alone and then let him go to hang out. make sure he knows that this behavior is not ok and it upsets you but your willing to compromise if he is. Thats what relationships are all about. Learn that there will be disappointments in a realtionship but working through it is a key. do the grown up thing and work it out like adults.
Well its hard for him to decide too so remeber he has feelings too. He's probably thinking if he doesnt go they might get angry or pissed but hes probably thinking the same about you. Bit if it were me i'd go with you because it seems like the right thing and if were a good guy he'd know what he'd have to do
Friends are important true. Plans are plans though. I understand where you are coming from. I would say you should def. talk to him about it and tell him how you feel! Duhh! Realtionships are based on communication... Not saying that I am perfect at it, but I would talk to him... And well dont you have friends too? Can you not make plans to go out and have fun yourself with your friends?
nope dats isnt right for him to do dat! guys just dont get how sensitive girls can be. if my boyfriend did dat i would be upset for lyk 3 days. you should talk to him be like we've been planning for like a week you cant just do dat or let him and then do it to him to see if he likes it
The way I look at it is he made plans with you first and blowing you off for friends is not the right thing to do. It shows he doesn't do what he says
just don't let it bother you
this has happend to me before don't let it bother you or you could lose him.
im telling you the truth don't get mad or he'll make it a big deal and it'll end!
please take this advise!
His first committed to you and he needs to uphold that. His friends are not going anywhere, and he has next Sat to go hang out with them.
well you should ask him to hang out with you 4 a little bit then tell him he can go hang out with his friends. take your plans and make them at different timing
He made plans with you first, he should keep them.eye color
Your boyfriend %26amp; you made plans first, so that should be first.
If it's possible, you could hang out with your boyfriend during the day %26amp; he could hang with his friends during the night %26amp; maybe you could catch up with your friends while he's hanging out with his.
Or you could tag along with him %26amp; his friends.Relationship advice, please.?
Yea if I were you I would be pretty pissed! I also understand that friends are an important part of life but to blow you off just to simply hang with friends, that is wrong. If something huge were to come up and he were to sit and talk to you about it, that would be one thing. To me it shows the level of priority you are to him. Talk to him and tell him how you feel!
Compromise. its not the end of the world that a guy wants to hang with his friends. I can't get my bf to go hang out with his friends without me. it annoys me. So spend some time alone and then let him go to hang out. make sure he knows that this behavior is not ok and it upsets you but your willing to compromise if he is. Thats what relationships are all about. Learn that there will be disappointments in a realtionship but working through it is a key. do the grown up thing and work it out like adults.
Well its hard for him to decide too so remeber he has feelings too. He's probably thinking if he doesnt go they might get angry or pissed but hes probably thinking the same about you. Bit if it were me i'd go with you because it seems like the right thing and if were a good guy he'd know what he'd have to do
Friends are important true. Plans are plans though. I understand where you are coming from. I would say you should def. talk to him about it and tell him how you feel! Duhh! Realtionships are based on communication... Not saying that I am perfect at it, but I would talk to him... And well dont you have friends too? Can you not make plans to go out and have fun yourself with your friends?
nope dats isnt right for him to do dat! guys just dont get how sensitive girls can be. if my boyfriend did dat i would be upset for lyk 3 days. you should talk to him be like we've been planning for like a week you cant just do dat or let him and then do it to him to see if he likes it
The way I look at it is he made plans with you first and blowing you off for friends is not the right thing to do. It shows he doesn't do what he says
just don't let it bother you
this has happend to me before don't let it bother you or you could lose him.
im telling you the truth don't get mad or he'll make it a big deal and it'll end!
please take this advise!
His first committed to you and he needs to uphold that. His friends are not going anywhere, and he has next Sat to go hang out with them.
well you should ask him to hang out with you 4 a little bit then tell him he can go hang out with his friends. take your plans and make them at different timing
He made plans with you first, he should keep them.
I need relationship advice.i need a ';men's'; perspective.?
okay to make this short and fast,my boyfriend said he was going to come to my house,but every time he was on his way he had to go back to work or his brothers tire popped that's his excuse for not showing up.Our relationship as been really complicated,i can tell his not happy and neither am i his always making me cry its like i cant be myself around him.every time i try to call him he starts yelling and he always hangs up on me.should i leave him?I need relationship advice.i need a ';men's'; perspective.?
Leave him. He does not love you. You are not good for each other. This is what my husband said.I need relationship advice.i need a ';men's'; perspective.?
He is propably not interested any more .
Leave him. He does not love you. You are not good for each other. This is what my husband said.I need relationship advice.i need a ';men's'; perspective.?
He is propably not interested any more .
I need some relationship advice?
how do i get to the next level physically in a relationship. i am tryna take it slow but how to i convince her to take the next step after making out and stuff.I need some relationship advice?
You won't want to hear this as an answer, but don't convince her. If she's not ready, she's not ready and it would just be a jerk thing to do to trick her into thinking she's ready.
If you're not sure if she's ready, maybe just hint at things. Like slowly start putting your hand up her shirt (just on her belly or something) and ask her if that's ok with her. If she says yes, then you know she's comfortable with it.
You won't want to hear this as an answer, but don't convince her. If she's not ready, she's not ready and it would just be a jerk thing to do to trick her into thinking she's ready.
If you're not sure if she's ready, maybe just hint at things. Like slowly start putting your hand up her shirt (just on her belly or something) and ask her if that's ok with her. If she says yes, then you know she's comfortable with it.
Need help with relationship advice please?
We have been dating for 8 months and love eachother a lot and have talked about the future. What is a good time to wait to get engaged and how long would you wait? I need opnions. Thanks.Need help with relationship advice please?
Be engaged for a year. Once you get serious and start talking about the future odd things come up that you would never have thought of... I was engaged recently and we were engaged for 7 months then we were talking about some things in the future (kids, living location, religion etc.) and realized that we want two totally different things out of life and that we weren't meant for eachother even though we were sooooooo in love. Hope this helps and Congrats! Best of luck for you two!Need help with relationship advice please?
Try reading this free e-book called 97 steps to a happy relationship. I've read it (a while ago) and I still think about the advice given in it.
if you know its right then go for it... there really isn't a time limit on love. But I strongly suggest being engaged for at least 6 months!
Be engaged for a year. Once you get serious and start talking about the future odd things come up that you would never have thought of... I was engaged recently and we were engaged for 7 months then we were talking about some things in the future (kids, living location, religion etc.) and realized that we want two totally different things out of life and that we weren't meant for eachother even though we were sooooooo in love. Hope this helps and Congrats! Best of luck for you two!Need help with relationship advice please?
Try reading this free e-book called 97 steps to a happy relationship. I've read it (a while ago) and I still think about the advice given in it.
if you know its right then go for it... there really isn't a time limit on love. But I strongly suggest being engaged for at least 6 months!
Who gives better relationship advice?
Do women give better advice about how to get/keep a girlfriend or do men? Please...let's try to keep the man/woman bashing to a minimum. I was just wondering who you thought was more knowledgeable about relationships, and why.Who gives better relationship advice?
Both. At least in some aspects (like asking a guy about how to deal with guys). You wouldn't be qualified on how to give perform surgery if you weren't a surgeon. The same thing applies here: you're not qualified to give advice on guys unless you're a guy. (same thing for girls about girls)Who gives better relationship advice?
I think it's a tie really. Women are more perceptive in regard to the emotional aspects of relationships, while men tend to be more logical. I think both points of view should be considered when seeking advice.
Both. At least in some aspects (like asking a guy about how to deal with guys). You wouldn't be qualified on how to give perform surgery if you weren't a surgeon. The same thing applies here: you're not qualified to give advice on guys unless you're a guy. (same thing for girls about girls)Who gives better relationship advice?
I think it's a tie really. Women are more perceptive in regard to the emotional aspects of relationships, while men tend to be more logical. I think both points of view should be considered when seeking advice.
Do you have relationship advice?
i have two guys that i like a whole lot. one i have never dated but i have gone out on dates with him and the other i dated for alomost 2 years i cant stop thinking about both of them and i love one and i really like the other i dont know who to choose help!!Do you have relationship advice?
go for the one that makes you feel good, that makes you feel you can do anything and everything. The one that is three when you are having a bad day and talks to you, and gives you shoulder to cry on. The one you feel normal when you around him. Do you have relationship advice?
Have a friend write one name on one piece of paper and the other name on another piece. Have her chuck them at you then which ever you catch you date!
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go for the one that makes you feel good, that makes you feel you can do anything and everything. The one that is three when you are having a bad day and talks to you, and gives you shoulder to cry on. The one you feel normal when you around him. Do you have relationship advice?
Have a friend write one name on one piece of paper and the other name on another piece. Have her chuck them at you then which ever you catch you date!
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Whats are some good books on relationship advice?
some that could boost your self esteem?Whats are some good books on relationship advice?
Check out this free E-book on how to achieve and happy and healthy relationship. It really helped me when I had some problems in my relationship.
Check out this free E-book on how to achieve and happy and healthy relationship. It really helped me when I had some problems in my relationship.
Relationship confusion stressing me out any advice?
I have been with my bf for over 3 years and the thought of getting to 4 years is kind of freaking me out (were both 19)
He means loads to me but there is also another guy i keep thinking about... I keep worrying about what im meant to do
anyone have any helpful advice?Relationship confusion stressing me out any advice?
As far as I am concerned you are too young to finalize your life so young without more life experiences. If you are seriously looking at or considering someone else then you need to finish that urge before you move too much farther. If your current BF is it then work on the relationship. But based on what you say in this question you are not sure. So how do you find out. This you will have to tread very lightly because once you start the path it may or could create a reaction that you will not be able to come back from with your current BF. I wish you the best of luck as you think this through.Relationship confusion stressing me out any advice?
See, that's a tricky one, because on the one hand you really care for him and you sound like you're happy together.
But on the other hand, you're 19 and have SO much life and living ahead of you - so many experiences you'll have and people you'll meet, and you have the rest of your life to be ';settled down.';
I think you honestly need to ask yourself if you want history over mystery, or vice versa. We live in a culture that values the 'bigger faster stronger better'; all the time. So often we feel like we have to get the new, when what we already have is pretty good. :-)
So my advice is, do some soul searching and ask yourself if you're ready to be this committed at 19. Make a list of the pros and cons, and be honest with yourself.
Good luck sweetie!
remember that old fable with the dog and the bone !
look fact is you have to ask your self are you in love with the guy that you are with and how much is worth to you
Make a boyfriend list and another guy list. Write down what you like about them and what you don't like about them. Compare and make a decision.
You aren't meant to do anything. Stop screwing around and make a decision. Stop being so emotional. Spare the guy you're dating if you aren't sure. With my wife and I,l we were sure. If you aren't sure you should end it, especially after so long.
Well you obviously wont feel happy in this relationship for any longer and this will affect you and your partner.
So go for the other dude.
dating for 5 years at 19 is too long get out and try new guys
He means loads to me but there is also another guy i keep thinking about... I keep worrying about what im meant to do
anyone have any helpful advice?Relationship confusion stressing me out any advice?
As far as I am concerned you are too young to finalize your life so young without more life experiences. If you are seriously looking at or considering someone else then you need to finish that urge before you move too much farther. If your current BF is it then work on the relationship. But based on what you say in this question you are not sure. So how do you find out. This you will have to tread very lightly because once you start the path it may or could create a reaction that you will not be able to come back from with your current BF. I wish you the best of luck as you think this through.Relationship confusion stressing me out any advice?
See, that's a tricky one, because on the one hand you really care for him and you sound like you're happy together.
But on the other hand, you're 19 and have SO much life and living ahead of you - so many experiences you'll have and people you'll meet, and you have the rest of your life to be ';settled down.';
I think you honestly need to ask yourself if you want history over mystery, or vice versa. We live in a culture that values the 'bigger faster stronger better'; all the time. So often we feel like we have to get the new, when what we already have is pretty good. :-)
So my advice is, do some soul searching and ask yourself if you're ready to be this committed at 19. Make a list of the pros and cons, and be honest with yourself.
Good luck sweetie!
remember that old fable with the dog and the bone !
look fact is you have to ask your self are you in love with the guy that you are with and how much is worth to you
Make a boyfriend list and another guy list. Write down what you like about them and what you don't like about them. Compare and make a decision.
You aren't meant to do anything. Stop screwing around and make a decision. Stop being so emotional. Spare the guy you're dating if you aren't sure. With my wife and I,l we were sure. If you aren't sure you should end it, especially after so long.
Well you obviously wont feel happy in this relationship for any longer and this will affect you and your partner.
So go for the other dude.
dating for 5 years at 19 is too long get out and try new guys
How to get over past hurt in a relationship . . . my advice?
I have so many friends who are getting divorce / separated / breaking up . . . and I tell them to do this and it works. Just though I share it with you guys:
1) Immagine your ex as a cartoon character with a big head.
2) Figure out something that annoys you about the person
3) Then immagine the cartoon (with a big head) doing it amplified 100X. Like if he/she sleeps around, immagine him/her walking around with a big head and a big sign above him/her that says ';Walking STD';.
Or if he/she has an annoying mother (your ex mother-in-law) immagine them (with a big head) doing the anoying act.
Or if he likes to collect things (nascar stuff, etc.) imagine him (wit the big head) protecting his stuff.
Be imaginative. Do it everytime you see him/her, or when you feel the blues.
Let me know if it works for you too. And remember, there is so much stuff stored for you from God. He loves you, and the break up happens for a reason.
Take Care,
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Cr1sHow to get over past hurt in a relationship . . . my advice?
oh my...
i laughed when i read it...
unfortunatly...
i don't think it will work for my situation...
I totally love and respect my ex...
It was just a decision he made...religion wise...
so got anything for that?
i'll probably post a question later tonight....
and maybe you'll have some advice....How to get over past hurt in a relationship . . . my advice?
I cut my exboyfriend's head out of a picture and glued it on to the picture of someone wearing a pink tu-tu. I had to laugh everytime I looked at it.
YES
1) Immagine your ex as a cartoon character with a big head.
2) Figure out something that annoys you about the person
3) Then immagine the cartoon (with a big head) doing it amplified 100X. Like if he/she sleeps around, immagine him/her walking around with a big head and a big sign above him/her that says ';Walking STD';.
Or if he/she has an annoying mother (your ex mother-in-law) immagine them (with a big head) doing the anoying act.
Or if he likes to collect things (nascar stuff, etc.) imagine him (wit the big head) protecting his stuff.
Be imaginative. Do it everytime you see him/her, or when you feel the blues.
Let me know if it works for you too. And remember, there is so much stuff stored for you from God. He loves you, and the break up happens for a reason.
Take Care,
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Cr1sHow to get over past hurt in a relationship . . . my advice?
oh my...
i laughed when i read it...
unfortunatly...
i don't think it will work for my situation...
I totally love and respect my ex...
It was just a decision he made...religion wise...
so got anything for that?
i'll probably post a question later tonight....
and maybe you'll have some advice....How to get over past hurt in a relationship . . . my advice?
I cut my exboyfriend's head out of a picture and glued it on to the picture of someone wearing a pink tu-tu. I had to laugh everytime I looked at it.
YES
Its FRIDAY night, should any of us be giving relationship advice?
...Im sure you have a good reason why you are home, on a friday night, on the computer......Its FRIDAY night, should any of us be giving relationship advice?
It only takes 20 minutes or less to schlong someone. Anything longer is just wasting time needed for the computer.Its FRIDAY night, should any of us be giving relationship advice?
its Married
the action happens latter ;) (tonight)*wink wink*
what can I say, times are hard all over.
I'm just chillin out after a long stressful week! Vacation starts tomorrow into all next week... Looking into my future I see hot sandy beaches, some serious R %26amp; R, a few Margies.......Jealous? lol
you funny
My boyfriend is sitting right beside me on his laptop taking an online test for school. (He says hi.)
When he's done, we're gonna have our fun. :-)
hahaha! good point.
Okay you caught me! I am guilty of being lazy....
Ah, but it's Saturday morning in Australia... ;)
I'm married with a mortgage and two car payments so that explains why I'm home on a Friday night. I'm on the computer because the hubby fell asleep on the couch watching the Yankees game so I'm doing my own thing.
Good point. lol
its only 11pm where in from and im drinking im not giveing advice, im only giveing my ''thoughts'' hahhahaha
Hell no!!
You shouldn't ask for advice for the same reason.
its friday? lol i guess it is....
Umm, I am just giving some advise before all of my party guests get here........lol
no, we are all losers. I was going to ask this girl out this morning but my mom stayed home today, so I could not leave the house. I will try again on monday. so maybee next friday I will be out, not like a loser.
were losers, plain and simple.
IT REALLY DEPEND ON WHAT TIME IT IS WHERE YOU AT
WHAT GOING ON. ETC. THAT YOU ARE ON THE COMPUTER
ON A FRIDAY NIGHT.
It only takes 20 minutes or less to schlong someone. Anything longer is just wasting time needed for the computer.Its FRIDAY night, should any of us be giving relationship advice?
its Married
the action happens latter ;) (tonight)*wink wink*
what can I say, times are hard all over.
I'm just chillin out after a long stressful week! Vacation starts tomorrow into all next week... Looking into my future I see hot sandy beaches, some serious R %26amp; R, a few Margies.......Jealous? lol
you funny
My boyfriend is sitting right beside me on his laptop taking an online test for school. (He says hi.)
When he's done, we're gonna have our fun. :-)
hahaha! good point.
Okay you caught me! I am guilty of being lazy....
Ah, but it's Saturday morning in Australia... ;)
I'm married with a mortgage and two car payments so that explains why I'm home on a Friday night. I'm on the computer because the hubby fell asleep on the couch watching the Yankees game so I'm doing my own thing.
Good point. lol
its only 11pm where in from and im drinking im not giveing advice, im only giveing my ''thoughts'' hahhahaha
Hell no!!
You shouldn't ask for advice for the same reason.
its friday? lol i guess it is....
Umm, I am just giving some advise before all of my party guests get here........lol
no, we are all losers. I was going to ask this girl out this morning but my mom stayed home today, so I could not leave the house. I will try again on monday. so maybee next friday I will be out, not like a loser.
were losers, plain and simple.
IT REALLY DEPEND ON WHAT TIME IT IS WHERE YOU AT
WHAT GOING ON. ETC. THAT YOU ARE ON THE COMPUTER
ON A FRIDAY NIGHT.
I need relationship advice from some psychics?
i just got out of a bad relationship a couple months ago and i met someone i really like,we go out and everything but i keep wondering if i made a mistakeI need relationship advice from some psychics?
Take ur time getting to know this person. If u guys get along well, be glad that u have a new friend. What can a psychic tell you? Usually, if something bad happens, the signs are there long before. Just pay attention to the positive and to the negative aspects of ur relationship, and make sure that u r remaining communicative.I need relationship advice from some psychics?
Everyone wants to go back to the past because it feels comfortable and it seems like you can predict how things will go (but you can't really). It seems safer than a new relationship where everything is not quite as predictable...
A mistake with breaking up before, or a mistake with taking someone new so quickly, or a mistake with choosing that person?
If you really didnt like your ex, then you werent wrong to break up with her.
If you moved on so quickly, good for you. You made no mistake.
If you feel you made a mistake choosing a new person, then spend more time with that person and your feelings may change.
Or is it something else?
You're right, you do need a psychic, because I dont even undersatnd the question.
Oh yeah, if the relatioship was bad. Then don't get back into it. Why would you want to walk back into the same bad relationship that you just got out of?
It's not a mistake to get out of a bad relationship.
I know sometimes you think you could have/should have done more, but, in my experience, by the time most of us do leave a bad relationship there really is nothing more that could have been said or done.
No, you did not make a mistake at all.
time will tell
Dear Dubb:
Sorry I'm NOT a psychic~
But ........... try this:
';Check'; your past ';emotional baggage';
with the Sky-Cap! Pack a NEW FRESH
';SuitCase!';
Your past can NOT be UNDONE!
Have FUN %26amp; enjoy a new relationship!
Life is Magical sometimes!
Disappointments lead us to Brave
New Situations!
Past relationships guide us to a
Brighter FUTURE!
Sometimes ';Bad'; things lead to
Glorious new Pathways to Travel!
We all wonder if we made ';mistakes';!
It is all a part of the GRAND~
Human Experience of life!
Past experience gives us more insight!
It's called ';Emotional-Experience and
Intelligence';!
Good Luck!
Have FUN~ DUBB !
Date new people now!
Move on in life!
Be THE BEST YOU~
that you can possibly be!
OK?
If it was a bad relationship why would being out of it be a mistake? So you ahead and enjoy this new relationship
Take ur time getting to know this person. If u guys get along well, be glad that u have a new friend. What can a psychic tell you? Usually, if something bad happens, the signs are there long before. Just pay attention to the positive and to the negative aspects of ur relationship, and make sure that u r remaining communicative.I need relationship advice from some psychics?
Everyone wants to go back to the past because it feels comfortable and it seems like you can predict how things will go (but you can't really). It seems safer than a new relationship where everything is not quite as predictable...
A mistake with breaking up before, or a mistake with taking someone new so quickly, or a mistake with choosing that person?
If you really didnt like your ex, then you werent wrong to break up with her.
If you moved on so quickly, good for you. You made no mistake.
If you feel you made a mistake choosing a new person, then spend more time with that person and your feelings may change.
Or is it something else?
You're right, you do need a psychic, because I dont even undersatnd the question.
Oh yeah, if the relatioship was bad. Then don't get back into it. Why would you want to walk back into the same bad relationship that you just got out of?
It's not a mistake to get out of a bad relationship.
I know sometimes you think you could have/should have done more, but, in my experience, by the time most of us do leave a bad relationship there really is nothing more that could have been said or done.
No, you did not make a mistake at all.
time will tell
Dear Dubb:
Sorry I'm NOT a psychic~
But ........... try this:
';Check'; your past ';emotional baggage';
with the Sky-Cap! Pack a NEW FRESH
';SuitCase!';
Your past can NOT be UNDONE!
Have FUN %26amp; enjoy a new relationship!
Life is Magical sometimes!
Disappointments lead us to Brave
New Situations!
Past relationships guide us to a
Brighter FUTURE!
Sometimes ';Bad'; things lead to
Glorious new Pathways to Travel!
We all wonder if we made ';mistakes';!
It is all a part of the GRAND~
Human Experience of life!
Past experience gives us more insight!
It's called ';Emotional-Experience and
Intelligence';!
Good Luck!
Have FUN~ DUBB !
Date new people now!
Move on in life!
Be THE BEST YOU~
that you can possibly be!
OK?
If it was a bad relationship why would being out of it be a mistake? So you ahead and enjoy this new relationship
Where are people born on cusps supposed to get relationship advice??
i was born on the aquarius/pisces cusp, and i am just confused. do i go with pisces or aquarius??
no stupid answers like ';astrology is stupid and meaningless'; please...Where are people born on cusps supposed to get relationship advice??
The dates for the different signs don't overlap so I think you go with the one that your birthday falls in. However if you are close to the changing point then the other may influence you a bit but the one your birthday falls under is still the main one.Where are people born on cusps supposed to get relationship advice??
That is more complicated
because
Parts of you will go together easier than other parts
It's best to do a Relationship Chart
To get the best results
hey who ever you meet and a good thing happens you will now who cares cusps ???? try being you and your mateeye color
no stupid answers like ';astrology is stupid and meaningless'; please...Where are people born on cusps supposed to get relationship advice??
The dates for the different signs don't overlap so I think you go with the one that your birthday falls in. However if you are close to the changing point then the other may influence you a bit but the one your birthday falls under is still the main one.Where are people born on cusps supposed to get relationship advice??
That is more complicated
because
Parts of you will go together easier than other parts
It's best to do a Relationship Chart
To get the best results
hey who ever you meet and a good thing happens you will now who cares cusps ???? try being you and your mate
( GIRLS HELP ME) why do girls always ask their friends for advice in a relationship?
A girl i was with did this a lot and i wish she would have talked to me about what was on her mind rather then go tell her friends because i feel like she is leaving me in the dark. i think its really immature and i believe her friends were a big part of why we didn't last. I am a good guy but if u don't tell me what im doing wrong i can't correct it.( GIRLS HELP ME) why do girls always ask their friends for advice in a relationship?
Im not a girl but i understand the question a little.
Well girls go to other girls because they think they will be able to get the easiest answer. They look for the easiest way to get over something and they think their friends will know all the answers they need.
Girls are impossible to keep happy every single day. But they are so easy to love every day too.
So my advice would be next time you get a gf that you really love i would make sure she knows to ask you everything or tell you everything you wanna know and if she's mad to tell you what you did wrong so you can fix it.
Hope this helped.( GIRLS HELP ME) why do girls always ask their friends for advice in a relationship?
It's an interpretational issue, really, and one of insecurity. Most women are uncomfortable discussing such stuff with their significant males, cause they do not speak the same language, and they know it. Plus, her friends are more comfortable to poll on relationship issues.
Realistically, most of us don't like to face up to relationship issues with the person in question, too confrontational for most of us. Too much like picking on someone, no matter that you might not see it that way. Try just asking, if you worry about such a thing. But don't get all hurt if you think the response is unfair.
A hint: communication is the best way for a couple to stay, and grow, together.
When I was married, I always talked to my girlfriends first. At the time I felt like they were a good sounding board. They would tell me if I was overreacting and they would help me form my argument into boy-language. Sorry, but guys generally don't understand a woman's perspective like another woman does. On the other hand, now that I'm divorced I wonder if you're with the right person, you don't have to worry whether or not you're overreacting and you don't have to take the time to formulate a good argument. Maybe the right person will listen and understand you.
But please understand that girls need to talk about their feelings about 100 times more than boys do. And feel grateful that you are not hearing all that complaining. You're not missing anything. She'll bring the important stuff to you.
I know when I'm with a guy it's really hard to open up at first.
I don't want to scare him off or sound like I always need help.
We just like the security of our friends, they are always there for us and know what we are going through.
All girls you will ever date will talks to their friends for advice over you, at first anyways.
sometimes girls just draw a blank in their mind and they dont know what to do at the moment so they ask their friend(s) what to do because they might have gone through something like it before.
most girls find it easier to talk to their girl friends better than their bf because we can relate to each other and know that we won't be judged
but i bet if u just talk to her and telll her you can tell me anything she will be open to talk
Im not a girl but i understand the question a little.
Well girls go to other girls because they think they will be able to get the easiest answer. They look for the easiest way to get over something and they think their friends will know all the answers they need.
Girls are impossible to keep happy every single day. But they are so easy to love every day too.
So my advice would be next time you get a gf that you really love i would make sure she knows to ask you everything or tell you everything you wanna know and if she's mad to tell you what you did wrong so you can fix it.
Hope this helped.( GIRLS HELP ME) why do girls always ask their friends for advice in a relationship?
It's an interpretational issue, really, and one of insecurity. Most women are uncomfortable discussing such stuff with their significant males, cause they do not speak the same language, and they know it. Plus, her friends are more comfortable to poll on relationship issues.
Realistically, most of us don't like to face up to relationship issues with the person in question, too confrontational for most of us. Too much like picking on someone, no matter that you might not see it that way. Try just asking, if you worry about such a thing. But don't get all hurt if you think the response is unfair.
A hint: communication is the best way for a couple to stay, and grow, together.
When I was married, I always talked to my girlfriends first. At the time I felt like they were a good sounding board. They would tell me if I was overreacting and they would help me form my argument into boy-language. Sorry, but guys generally don't understand a woman's perspective like another woman does. On the other hand, now that I'm divorced I wonder if you're with the right person, you don't have to worry whether or not you're overreacting and you don't have to take the time to formulate a good argument. Maybe the right person will listen and understand you.
But please understand that girls need to talk about their feelings about 100 times more than boys do. And feel grateful that you are not hearing all that complaining. You're not missing anything. She'll bring the important stuff to you.
I know when I'm with a guy it's really hard to open up at first.
I don't want to scare him off or sound like I always need help.
We just like the security of our friends, they are always there for us and know what we are going through.
All girls you will ever date will talks to their friends for advice over you, at first anyways.
sometimes girls just draw a blank in their mind and they dont know what to do at the moment so they ask their friend(s) what to do because they might have gone through something like it before.
most girls find it easier to talk to their girl friends better than their bf because we can relate to each other and know that we won't be judged
but i bet if u just talk to her and telll her you can tell me anything she will be open to talk
I need some first time relationship advice?
I need some help - how do you know when your in love?
I have been going out with this guy for a couple of months and I really like him, I see him nearly every day and when I'm not with him I tend to think about him aswell. How do I know if I love him? and is it too early to say it - will I scare him off if I do?I need some first time relationship advice?
You should know by now if you were in love.
Please notice that a 'crush' feels just like love, but it just ends way earlier.I need some first time relationship advice?
yes its too early to love someone,love and affection are very confusing when first dating..
you will have feelings for him but this cant be mixed up with love...you need to know him alot longer and better before you realise thet you do love him....
dont rush into saying i love you to him,this could cause problems for you.
take each day as it comes and you will know when true love has blossomed for you.
Trust me you know exactly when your in love. It doesn't take a set time to fall in love. It's your own feelings that tell you. Deep down you will know. It's the best feeling in the world though.
It depends on your relationship with him. Are you together, like a couple, or are you just friends from his point of view? If you don't feel like he has feelings for you, then wait before saying anything because it could ruin a friendship.
Is there really any reason to hurry? Just enjoy your time together, and see what happens. Don't stress about it.
stay cool trust your heart, dont smother him keep it fresh make it exiting......
this worked for me i dont know about you but ...if the answer for the next questions is yes then you are in love with him .... 1.do you have any problem with sleeping alone anymore ... 2.do you wake up from bed and you want to call him so bad to hear his voice ...3.is sex is not taking a big part in your relationship ... 4.do you feel there is alot missing if you dont see him for one day 5.and last of all do you anyhow feel that you love him more than you are attracted to him
I would say probably if you are doubting that you are in love with him you probably aren't. In my small amount of experience, love is just something that you may wake up one day and you just know it.
It is always a risk of telling the other persont that you love them that it will scare them off, but quite often it is a risk worth taking. If they love you as well then all is spanky dory - however, if they don't, while it may hurt you in the short term, I always think it is better to know the truth than living a lie!
Hope this will help you!
It's really hard to tell if you're in love when you have no experience of similar emotions. When I was younger I got confused and I鈥檓 sure everyone has done at one point or another. It鈥檚 so easy to get caught up and move too quickly.
Honesty is always the best policy. If you really feel that you love your man, tell him so.
If you鈥檙e not sure, tell him how strongly you feel about him. This way:
1.You wont over commit and regret it.
2.He wont get freaked out if his feelings differ from yours
3.He鈥檒l almost certainly reciprocate in one way or another so you鈥檒l find out how he feels about you
My partner and I say those three little words to each other on an almost daily basis and we havn't frightened each other away yet. We're 28 years married in March. I don't know how you 'know' you're in love but I'm sure getting over being afraid tell your partner you love them is a good place to start
oops - sorry - I tripped over the mouse and gave you a thumbs down. Not intentional, sorry. Won't happen again, promise.
Are you in love? Yeah.
Is it too early to say? Yeah but no but yeah.
Will you scare him off? Possibly. That's life.
First time relationship? Won't be the last time. You're clearly young, given what you say. You may be deeply in love, but you haven't met the you of the future yet, and he may have no interest in this guy. But so what? Love only sees the present. Be careful, but don't be afraid to take a risk. Make sure someone (a good friend) has your back.
have fun, don't worry about it..............don't become a drama queen, if it works, it works
When you're in love, you'll know - you won't have to ask!
well if your heart says you love him than you do. otherwise you don't. ask your heart....................... heart will tell you everything you want to know.
If you are thinking about him all day that does not mean you are obsessed.
perhaps you have had sex for the first time or for some other reason.
if however, you are ovsessesd , then that is not love.
take it easy and just allow yourself to feel vulnerable but at the same time talk to a good friend who you trust,
I have been going out with this guy for a couple of months and I really like him, I see him nearly every day and when I'm not with him I tend to think about him aswell. How do I know if I love him? and is it too early to say it - will I scare him off if I do?I need some first time relationship advice?
You should know by now if you were in love.
Please notice that a 'crush' feels just like love, but it just ends way earlier.I need some first time relationship advice?
yes its too early to love someone,love and affection are very confusing when first dating..
you will have feelings for him but this cant be mixed up with love...you need to know him alot longer and better before you realise thet you do love him....
dont rush into saying i love you to him,this could cause problems for you.
take each day as it comes and you will know when true love has blossomed for you.
Trust me you know exactly when your in love. It doesn't take a set time to fall in love. It's your own feelings that tell you. Deep down you will know. It's the best feeling in the world though.
It depends on your relationship with him. Are you together, like a couple, or are you just friends from his point of view? If you don't feel like he has feelings for you, then wait before saying anything because it could ruin a friendship.
Is there really any reason to hurry? Just enjoy your time together, and see what happens. Don't stress about it.
stay cool trust your heart, dont smother him keep it fresh make it exiting......
this worked for me i dont know about you but ...if the answer for the next questions is yes then you are in love with him .... 1.do you have any problem with sleeping alone anymore ... 2.do you wake up from bed and you want to call him so bad to hear his voice ...3.is sex is not taking a big part in your relationship ... 4.do you feel there is alot missing if you dont see him for one day 5.and last of all do you anyhow feel that you love him more than you are attracted to him
I would say probably if you are doubting that you are in love with him you probably aren't. In my small amount of experience, love is just something that you may wake up one day and you just know it.
It is always a risk of telling the other persont that you love them that it will scare them off, but quite often it is a risk worth taking. If they love you as well then all is spanky dory - however, if they don't, while it may hurt you in the short term, I always think it is better to know the truth than living a lie!
Hope this will help you!
It's really hard to tell if you're in love when you have no experience of similar emotions. When I was younger I got confused and I鈥檓 sure everyone has done at one point or another. It鈥檚 so easy to get caught up and move too quickly.
Honesty is always the best policy. If you really feel that you love your man, tell him so.
If you鈥檙e not sure, tell him how strongly you feel about him. This way:
1.You wont over commit and regret it.
2.He wont get freaked out if his feelings differ from yours
3.He鈥檒l almost certainly reciprocate in one way or another so you鈥檒l find out how he feels about you
My partner and I say those three little words to each other on an almost daily basis and we havn't frightened each other away yet. We're 28 years married in March. I don't know how you 'know' you're in love but I'm sure getting over being afraid tell your partner you love them is a good place to start
oops - sorry - I tripped over the mouse and gave you a thumbs down. Not intentional, sorry. Won't happen again, promise.
Are you in love? Yeah.
Is it too early to say? Yeah but no but yeah.
Will you scare him off? Possibly. That's life.
First time relationship? Won't be the last time. You're clearly young, given what you say. You may be deeply in love, but you haven't met the you of the future yet, and he may have no interest in this guy. But so what? Love only sees the present. Be careful, but don't be afraid to take a risk. Make sure someone (a good friend) has your back.
have fun, don't worry about it..............don't become a drama queen, if it works, it works
When you're in love, you'll know - you won't have to ask!
well if your heart says you love him than you do. otherwise you don't. ask your heart....................... heart will tell you everything you want to know.
If you are thinking about him all day that does not mean you are obsessed.
perhaps you have had sex for the first time or for some other reason.
if however, you are ovsessesd , then that is not love.
take it easy and just allow yourself to feel vulnerable but at the same time talk to a good friend who you trust,
Should you give your ex relationship advice if he asks for it?
Sounds like he trusts you, why not help them learn from what you found to be difficult to get along with and help them do better this time around?Should you give your ex relationship advice if he asks for it?
If you still have feelings for him and it makes you jealous or if it makes you feel weird, then don't.Should you give your ex relationship advice if he asks for it?
YES WHY NOT DO WHAT UR HEART SAYS.
hell no
no
Yes obviously he cares about you opinion so that is why he is asking you so what if he is a ex that don't mean you can' t help him and that you two can;t be friends.
Yes. I think you should. There's nothing better like helping those in need (we sure need that more in this world.) If you guys are still friends, then you should help him out, maybe he can help you out with your relationship later. Who knows?
My ex husbands g/f asks me for advise...I give it to her...after all I was married to the man for years
Hey it's a great way to get back at him if he hurt you bad....
yea if it keeps him from bugging you or if you guys are just friends i mean why not help someone in need???? all your doing is trying to help them be happy
yes
That sounds like a contradiction.....why would you care since he is your ex??? Geeeesh!!!
Yes why not. I think that is nice to help him out that way. Especially if you guys split on good terms
up to you, if you are friends, then why not?
if he left u and you ended in bad terms I wouldnt
Sure why not.
Yeah tell em
';Why don't you have a few drinks and you know..... DRIVE HOME!!';
There's a reason they're an ex
Certainly, I've done it with my ex-husband.
yeah if you all are still friends.
Why not, I do it all the time. One of my ex's is my best guy friend and I even introduced him to his wife, eventhough they are split up. I set him up if I think he might like the person. It's better to forgive and forget than not to and live in misery thinking about what they did to you.
If you still have feelings for him and it makes you jealous or if it makes you feel weird, then don't.Should you give your ex relationship advice if he asks for it?
YES WHY NOT DO WHAT UR HEART SAYS.
hell no
no
Yes obviously he cares about you opinion so that is why he is asking you so what if he is a ex that don't mean you can' t help him and that you two can;t be friends.
Yes. I think you should. There's nothing better like helping those in need (we sure need that more in this world.) If you guys are still friends, then you should help him out, maybe he can help you out with your relationship later. Who knows?
My ex husbands g/f asks me for advise...I give it to her...after all I was married to the man for years
Hey it's a great way to get back at him if he hurt you bad....
yea if it keeps him from bugging you or if you guys are just friends i mean why not help someone in need???? all your doing is trying to help them be happy
yes
That sounds like a contradiction.....why would you care since he is your ex??? Geeeesh!!!
Yes why not. I think that is nice to help him out that way. Especially if you guys split on good terms
up to you, if you are friends, then why not?
if he left u and you ended in bad terms I wouldnt
Sure why not.
Yeah tell em
';Why don't you have a few drinks and you know..... DRIVE HOME!!';
There's a reason they're an ex
Certainly, I've done it with my ex-husband.
yeah if you all are still friends.
Why not, I do it all the time. One of my ex's is my best guy friend and I even introduced him to his wife, eventhough they are split up. I set him up if I think he might like the person. It's better to forgive and forget than not to and live in misery thinking about what they did to you.
Is it advisable to seek relationship advice here (and on internet generally)?
Isn't it dangerous to seek relationship advice from strangers on web forums (here included), because there's only so much information you can give in a few paragraphs, and the people who answer only hear one side of the story (and you've no idea what prejudices they have anyway)?Is it advisable to seek relationship advice here (and on internet generally)?
its more dangerous to seek an actual relationship online....getting advice is up to you, if thats how u feel then dont ask xIs it advisable to seek relationship advice here (and on internet generally)?
There are times it is easier as in being annonymous. Yjois applies if it is something you have held inside and been unable to talk about with anyone. I have looked through many questions and answers and pleased that in the main the answers are genuine and well meant. I agree tho with the person who said it is wise to think carefully what is best for you before following any advice. But, it does help to have input and different view points to mull over before reaching that decision.
Approached with maturity is or can be good.
Can be risky for the vulnrable because there are always bad apples out there looking for someone to groom. Let's hope not too many.
I think you have to keep an open mind.
I have had a mixture of responses some excellent and some upsetting and abusive.
Remember it is advice, you don't have to take it and sometimes even the upsetting responses bring you up short and make you see things from a different perspective.
If you have given kind advice in the past , eventually you will reap what you sow.
some times we feel depressed and we need any word just support us.some times we need to speak,or talk to people we don't know,it's the same as i did when i posted my later question 3 times but nobody answered me.people can be selfish some times
Well, any advice you get, from anyone, you need to weigh very carefully before applying - even if you talk for days with somebody, they cannot know it all, nor from both sides. Usually when a person asks for advice, they already know which way they should act, and just ask for confirmation (in which case it's safe).
There is also the remote, but real, possibility, that somebody is so empathic that they offer a new, valid solution to the problem, in which case it's not only safe, it's good to ask for advice here.
But, as with any advice, if you take it at face value, without carefully appraising it... no, that approach is not advisable, here, or anywhere else (including advice your parents gave you, come to think about it...)
Yes, if you get enough answers you can probably see a theme.
You need to phrase the question well and include all salient facts.
I'm a great believer in gathering as much as advice as possible from as many sources as possible, not just for relationships, but all sorts of things.
This forum is intended to allow others to voice their opinions, in the form of an answer, to questions asked... It is the responsibility of the person who has asked the question to use this information to develop their own opinion to answer the question on hand.
Well yes you will get some good %26amp; some bad
It`s up to you to sort the good from the bad
Whatever advice you do take I hope it works out for you,
its more dangerous to seek an actual relationship online....getting advice is up to you, if thats how u feel then dont ask xIs it advisable to seek relationship advice here (and on internet generally)?
There are times it is easier as in being annonymous. Yjois applies if it is something you have held inside and been unable to talk about with anyone. I have looked through many questions and answers and pleased that in the main the answers are genuine and well meant. I agree tho with the person who said it is wise to think carefully what is best for you before following any advice. But, it does help to have input and different view points to mull over before reaching that decision.
Approached with maturity is or can be good.
Can be risky for the vulnrable because there are always bad apples out there looking for someone to groom. Let's hope not too many.
I think you have to keep an open mind.
I have had a mixture of responses some excellent and some upsetting and abusive.
Remember it is advice, you don't have to take it and sometimes even the upsetting responses bring you up short and make you see things from a different perspective.
If you have given kind advice in the past , eventually you will reap what you sow.
some times we feel depressed and we need any word just support us.some times we need to speak,or talk to people we don't know,it's the same as i did when i posted my later question 3 times but nobody answered me.people can be selfish some times
Well, any advice you get, from anyone, you need to weigh very carefully before applying - even if you talk for days with somebody, they cannot know it all, nor from both sides. Usually when a person asks for advice, they already know which way they should act, and just ask for confirmation (in which case it's safe).
There is also the remote, but real, possibility, that somebody is so empathic that they offer a new, valid solution to the problem, in which case it's not only safe, it's good to ask for advice here.
But, as with any advice, if you take it at face value, without carefully appraising it... no, that approach is not advisable, here, or anywhere else (including advice your parents gave you, come to think about it...)
Yes, if you get enough answers you can probably see a theme.
You need to phrase the question well and include all salient facts.
I'm a great believer in gathering as much as advice as possible from as many sources as possible, not just for relationships, but all sorts of things.
This forum is intended to allow others to voice their opinions, in the form of an answer, to questions asked... It is the responsibility of the person who has asked the question to use this information to develop their own opinion to answer the question on hand.
Well yes you will get some good %26amp; some bad
It`s up to you to sort the good from the bad
Whatever advice you do take I hope it works out for you,
I need relationship advice. Does it mean he likes me if he says he is willing to........?
......clean my toilets on the first date?I need relationship advice. Does it mean he likes me if he says he is willing to........?
it means he is hard up and you are the first disease free specimen he has found and is ready and willing ....I need relationship advice. Does it mean he likes me if he says he is willing to........?
It may just mean you got some nasty azz toilets.
HE'S A KEEEEEEPER!!!!!!!!!
I think he is trying to let you know that he DOES enjoy your plumbing!
Ask him if he is bringing his snake too!
Peace:)
He is plumb..er, in love!
just.....wow...
I think it might just mean that.....but you better have beer and nacho's just in case.
I agree with Savage. This guy is ripe to be your toilet slave.
...ewwww....watch out for those kinky festish dudes....
it means he is hard up and you are the first disease free specimen he has found and is ready and willing ....I need relationship advice. Does it mean he likes me if he says he is willing to........?
It may just mean you got some nasty azz toilets.
HE'S A KEEEEEEPER!!!!!!!!!
I think he is trying to let you know that he DOES enjoy your plumbing!
Ask him if he is bringing his snake too!
Peace:)
He is plumb..er, in love!
just.....wow...
I think it might just mean that.....but you better have beer and nacho's just in case.
I agree with Savage. This guy is ripe to be your toilet slave.
...ewwww....watch out for those kinky festish dudes....
Need adult relationship advice?
I knew this lady since high school and we dated a bit, but broke up after I had moved. I just met her again and I really want to ask her out , but I had just found out she is related to my friend and now I am not sure if I want to ask her out or notNeed adult relationship advice?
I know why you're hesitant.. things could get awkward between you and your friend if your relationship with this girl goes haywire.
Still, I say go for it. If things end up getting serious with this girl, the relationship between you two and your friend could actually be really great and fun!
Before you make a move though, I'd suggest at least WARNING your friend about it beforehand. As long as you treat his relative respectfully, even if things don't quite work out with her, he shouldn't have a problem with it.Need adult relationship advice?
Does your friend have a history of genetic mental disease? Is your best friend related to you, making a relationship with this girl incest? I'm not understanding the issue. If you like the girl, ask her out. I have a wonderful girlfriend, and I plan on being with her forever. If I was single though, and a friend had a cousin or even a sister that I was really interested in, I wouldn't think twice about it.
and the adult response is what the dickens does her being a relative of a friend have to do with asking her out????? --- if you are interested ask her --- if not then dont
If you like her that's all there is too it. Nothing seems to be in the way. It doesn't matter if shes related to them since you guys have already gone out before.
first off you have to follow man code. and that means if the person you want to date is related to a friend you must get said friends ok to date. then if you have their ok ask her out if not forget her.
SO what if she is related to your friend, unless by friend you mean girlfriend. Ask her out.
Go ahead and ask her. Does it make any difference whether she's related to your friend or not?
REMEMBER...it's YOUR relationship. If you are a good person then your friend should be happy for his relative!!
Ask her out. Keep it among friends, no?
Just remember this, ';always do what your heart desires';..
Good luckeye color
I know why you're hesitant.. things could get awkward between you and your friend if your relationship with this girl goes haywire.
Still, I say go for it. If things end up getting serious with this girl, the relationship between you two and your friend could actually be really great and fun!
Before you make a move though, I'd suggest at least WARNING your friend about it beforehand. As long as you treat his relative respectfully, even if things don't quite work out with her, he shouldn't have a problem with it.Need adult relationship advice?
Does your friend have a history of genetic mental disease? Is your best friend related to you, making a relationship with this girl incest? I'm not understanding the issue. If you like the girl, ask her out. I have a wonderful girlfriend, and I plan on being with her forever. If I was single though, and a friend had a cousin or even a sister that I was really interested in, I wouldn't think twice about it.
and the adult response is what the dickens does her being a relative of a friend have to do with asking her out????? --- if you are interested ask her --- if not then dont
If you like her that's all there is too it. Nothing seems to be in the way. It doesn't matter if shes related to them since you guys have already gone out before.
first off you have to follow man code. and that means if the person you want to date is related to a friend you must get said friends ok to date. then if you have their ok ask her out if not forget her.
SO what if she is related to your friend, unless by friend you mean girlfriend. Ask her out.
Go ahead and ask her. Does it make any difference whether she's related to your friend or not?
REMEMBER...it's YOUR relationship. If you are a good person then your friend should be happy for his relative!!
Ask her out. Keep it among friends, no?
Just remember this, ';always do what your heart desires';..
Good luck
What is your best advice for someone entering a new relationship?
I have been out of the game for 4 years and have forgotton a lot! Help!What is your best advice for someone entering a new relationship?
take it slow. insist to your bf, that you want to go at your pace---not his pace in the relationship. make sure he respects you for who you are---and not as some sex toy, that he can use and then throw away. make sure he knows that you haven't been in a relationhship for 4 yrs---if he's good, he'll respect that, and be nice. make little things for him, or go out and get things for him. i get my bf ever so often 2 or even 3 cards; i always have a letter for him---we live 2 hrs away from each other; i'll go out and buy/make him something cheap (ex: his favorite candy---reese's, or get/make a bracelet); it doesn't have to be anything expensive, just something that says: ';i can't stop thinking about you';. don't go straight in on the kiss and make out first, or the take off of the clothes. start with cuddling, tickling with the clothes on. just take it at your pace, and if you're uncomfortable, then let him know. if he respects you, he won't push or pressure you. if he does, well, i recommend that you drop him. also, if he shows you any disrespect, drop him.What is your best advice for someone entering a new relationship?
A good book to read is SECRETS ABOUT MEN EVERYONE SHOULD KNOW by BARBARA DE ANGELIS or just do a web search. Good guidelines for all relationships Report Abuse
take your time enjoy communicate laugh have fun be honest at all times rather its good r bad good luck
Take things slow and get to know each other before making any serious or long term commitments. New relationships can be fun and exciting because, well, it's new and it's easy to get caught up.
Seek friendship first, and just be yourself. If it doesn't feel right then it may not be right, don't second guess yourself. Good luck and hope all goes well for you.
Never play your partner wrong cuz you would want for them to do you wrong just love and respect him for who he is.
Locate the emergency exit nearest you.
Number 1.......Relax, and enjoy it! Number 2.....Be yourself. Number 3......If you have sex, use protection. Number 4......Don't rush into a relationship!
be cautious but have a good time
don't take it too seriously
Be honest about everything and let any man you may become involved with that honesty is a must!!!
well communicate. That is the key. Talk about every thing. onesty be honest and you will get it back. Be loving careing thougtful. Just be you. But most def communicate is the big one. with out that you don;t have a solid relationship.
take it slow, don't spend 2 much time 2gether, it might b great in the begining but it's not healthy 4 u 2 spend every moment 2gether, b sure 2 have days 2 yourself, take it day by day, goodluck
be open minded but dont take **** from n e 1
Take things slow, but enjoy yourself. Give it some time before you really commit your whole heart to it.
stay away.
If the guy gives you signs that he really doesn't want a realation ship then do NOT wast your time on the boy. If he is in to the realation ship then stick with it.
Just start out slow and it should all come back to you
They have to appeal to you physically,and you need to take your time to get to know them .If they are impatient....they probably only want a casual fling....which is ok if that is what you want.and in that case jump in and enjoy yourself when your inner self tells you so...listen to your inner self always
Just let your gaurd down and be open minded. Just remember who you are and what you want. My best advice is to jump on and go for the ride. Who knows where it might take you.
take it slow. insist to your bf, that you want to go at your pace---not his pace in the relationship. make sure he respects you for who you are---and not as some sex toy, that he can use and then throw away. make sure he knows that you haven't been in a relationhship for 4 yrs---if he's good, he'll respect that, and be nice. make little things for him, or go out and get things for him. i get my bf ever so often 2 or even 3 cards; i always have a letter for him---we live 2 hrs away from each other; i'll go out and buy/make him something cheap (ex: his favorite candy---reese's, or get/make a bracelet); it doesn't have to be anything expensive, just something that says: ';i can't stop thinking about you';. don't go straight in on the kiss and make out first, or the take off of the clothes. start with cuddling, tickling with the clothes on. just take it at your pace, and if you're uncomfortable, then let him know. if he respects you, he won't push or pressure you. if he does, well, i recommend that you drop him. also, if he shows you any disrespect, drop him.What is your best advice for someone entering a new relationship?
A good book to read is SECRETS ABOUT MEN EVERYONE SHOULD KNOW by BARBARA DE ANGELIS or just do a web search. Good guidelines for all relationships Report Abuse
take your time enjoy communicate laugh have fun be honest at all times rather its good r bad good luck
Take things slow and get to know each other before making any serious or long term commitments. New relationships can be fun and exciting because, well, it's new and it's easy to get caught up.
Seek friendship first, and just be yourself. If it doesn't feel right then it may not be right, don't second guess yourself. Good luck and hope all goes well for you.
Never play your partner wrong cuz you would want for them to do you wrong just love and respect him for who he is.
Locate the emergency exit nearest you.
Number 1.......Relax, and enjoy it! Number 2.....Be yourself. Number 3......If you have sex, use protection. Number 4......Don't rush into a relationship!
be cautious but have a good time
don't take it too seriously
Be honest about everything and let any man you may become involved with that honesty is a must!!!
well communicate. That is the key. Talk about every thing. onesty be honest and you will get it back. Be loving careing thougtful. Just be you. But most def communicate is the big one. with out that you don;t have a solid relationship.
take it slow, don't spend 2 much time 2gether, it might b great in the begining but it's not healthy 4 u 2 spend every moment 2gether, b sure 2 have days 2 yourself, take it day by day, goodluck
be open minded but dont take **** from n e 1
Take things slow, but enjoy yourself. Give it some time before you really commit your whole heart to it.
stay away.
If the guy gives you signs that he really doesn't want a realation ship then do NOT wast your time on the boy. If he is in to the realation ship then stick with it.
Just start out slow and it should all come back to you
They have to appeal to you physically,and you need to take your time to get to know them .If they are impatient....they probably only want a casual fling....which is ok if that is what you want.and in that case jump in and enjoy yourself when your inner self tells you so...listen to your inner self always
Just let your gaurd down and be open minded. Just remember who you are and what you want. My best advice is to jump on and go for the ride. Who knows where it might take you.
Open for relationship advice?
Last saturday I asked my x not to contact me anymore b/c it has been VERY hard getting over him, i was serious, did not argue but just explained to him my reasons, but now after telling him this, I am fighting the urge to say hello...honestly I want to call him, but I am trying to be strong...my question is, would it be giving mixed signals if I said hello to him or does the fact that we would have been together for two years oct 1, and i still love and care for him make a difference in weather or not this is a good idea?Open for relationship advice?
i think you are doing the right thing. the quickest way to get over someone is to not have contact with him. i guess it would be alright to call every once in a while, like once a month on a sunday. but you will never lose your feelings for him if you are constantly in contact with each other.Open for relationship advice?
if the both doors are open for a new beggining why not do it.
but if you think be friends with him is all you wanted or if he is also well then its better if not.
b4 you do something think about it and do some reflection of it,and theirs the answere.
i hope it could help you,take care.
i think you should speak to him a little bit more...
do you think you are over him?? speak to him about how you are feeling... and try to make your self sound strong (as you are) just try to be just friends... and then you can maintain the closeness.. without being bf and gf anymore..
Hope this helps
xoxo Good luck!!
I think it would be sending him mixed signals. I know you miss him and would like to be friendly, but you should wait a while (a few months, maybe?) before becoming friends again.
i think you are doing the right thing. the quickest way to get over someone is to not have contact with him. i guess it would be alright to call every once in a while, like once a month on a sunday. but you will never lose your feelings for him if you are constantly in contact with each other.Open for relationship advice?
if the both doors are open for a new beggining why not do it.
but if you think be friends with him is all you wanted or if he is also well then its better if not.
b4 you do something think about it and do some reflection of it,and theirs the answere.
i hope it could help you,take care.
i think you should speak to him a little bit more...
do you think you are over him?? speak to him about how you are feeling... and try to make your self sound strong (as you are) just try to be just friends... and then you can maintain the closeness.. without being bf and gf anymore..
Hope this helps
xoxo Good luck!!
I think it would be sending him mixed signals. I know you miss him and would like to be friendly, but you should wait a while (a few months, maybe?) before becoming friends again.
Long distance relationship advice?
Recently this girl I am talking to are considering a relationship. She lives like across the country, but she's scared of long distance relationships. She said she needs to sort things out and everything, and what I want to know is that if things ever work out, is it possible that we can work on the relationship without seeing each other in person? My parents are extremely over protective and would be tripping balls if they knew I was going for a girl this far. Thats why I plan on college in Miami or Rhode Island, she lives in Jersey. I just want to know what you thinkLong distance relationship advice?
hmm well im in a long distance realtionship,hes across the world .. and let me tell you i miss him alot, its sometimes hard you might feel alone but the thing is if you really like her you will stay with her you know, i mean it can work out if you guys plan everything and when you guys actually see each other it will be more special, itll be cute!! i mean you can give it a try, goodluck!! i wish yu the best =)Long distance relationship advice?
I've been in one. It was only two hours but it worked. lasted a year
just use skype a lot, have phone dates.
my friend lives like, four states away and they'd watch the same movie (they'd rent it) and watch it together over the phone etc
just be creative and make sure you both care about each other. %26lt;3
long distance can work out very nicely. it gives you two space and makes your trust strong. but, a long distance relationship where you don't ever see eachother is a little sketchy. maybe you could consider dating once you get into a college closer. but until then just wait it out. maybe something better will come along.
when you say recently i am assuming that this has been less than six months, get to know her more first because right now she is scared and even though you would be moving closer there is your parents and would you want to make a big move for a girl you just recently met.
long distance relationships are kinda hard. you think now that it'll work out but eventually you'll get sick of being with someone you never see and will want a gf you can do stuff with. i say you try to move on. thats what i did.
Long distance relationships only work if you see one another all the time. It's not going to work if you dont see one another or she has over protective parents.
eventually one of u will have to move closer to each other because long distance relationships only work for so long
long distance relationships never workk outt
bow and say goodbye
hmm well im in a long distance realtionship,hes across the world .. and let me tell you i miss him alot, its sometimes hard you might feel alone but the thing is if you really like her you will stay with her you know, i mean it can work out if you guys plan everything and when you guys actually see each other it will be more special, itll be cute!! i mean you can give it a try, goodluck!! i wish yu the best =)Long distance relationship advice?
I've been in one. It was only two hours but it worked. lasted a year
just use skype a lot, have phone dates.
my friend lives like, four states away and they'd watch the same movie (they'd rent it) and watch it together over the phone etc
just be creative and make sure you both care about each other. %26lt;3
long distance can work out very nicely. it gives you two space and makes your trust strong. but, a long distance relationship where you don't ever see eachother is a little sketchy. maybe you could consider dating once you get into a college closer. but until then just wait it out. maybe something better will come along.
when you say recently i am assuming that this has been less than six months, get to know her more first because right now she is scared and even though you would be moving closer there is your parents and would you want to make a big move for a girl you just recently met.
long distance relationships are kinda hard. you think now that it'll work out but eventually you'll get sick of being with someone you never see and will want a gf you can do stuff with. i say you try to move on. thats what i did.
Long distance relationships only work if you see one another all the time. It's not going to work if you dont see one another or she has over protective parents.
eventually one of u will have to move closer to each other because long distance relationships only work for so long
long distance relationships never workk outt
bow and say goodbye
Who needs relationship advice, maybe I can help. So what do you need?
I just feel like giving people some help.Who needs relationship advice, maybe I can help. So what do you need?
How can you choose between two persons that are very close to you?
A ex-boyfriend.
You are fed up with all of his mistakes, trying to tell him the difference of what's right and what's wrong. But still he keeps on his habitually mistakes.
Then here's goes your former boyfriend, B, that you never had any real closure.
You and B broke up because of the some misunderstanding arises and eventually doubled because of A. You told B in your telephone conversation ';I had enough with you, We're done. I want a break up';
B give you all the time you needed and not knowing you mean what you said about the break up. And thoughjt that you just needed time to calm down. Couple of weeks pass, B's sister called you up and looking for B, you admittedly told her you have already broken up for weeks. B wants to win you back but all odds comes and you left (moved out), B barely know where you are.
After a month, A constantly courts you and finally you develop feelings for A. A and you been together for almost 4 years. And every now and then you and A quarrels and in the middle of the quarrel, coincidentally B had contacted you. More or less every 6 months after the first year of break up.
Now after almost of one year of break up with A.
B knew the break up, waits for some while and now wants to court you again. To have a new life with you.
Now the quarrel is.
You like B, because he never insisted on what he wants. but on want you wants. He patiently waited for you to look forward and be ready for a new relationship. Also, you and B never had any real closure before.
But A is remains input, even after the break up, never leave you and stays with you at all times. You talked to him and he's a good listener.
Who would you choose, A or B?Who needs relationship advice, maybe I can help. So what do you need?
how do i know if i should engage in premarital sex?
message me on yahoo..?
ok i have been dating this guy for almost two years and i really dont know if he means it when he says that he loves me.... would it be true..
you can get me back at big_pain821@yahoo.com or im me
if u have msn can u add to your contacts i will tell u
my msn is: christina_sirignano@hotmail.com
How can you choose between two persons that are very close to you?
A ex-boyfriend.
You are fed up with all of his mistakes, trying to tell him the difference of what's right and what's wrong. But still he keeps on his habitually mistakes.
Then here's goes your former boyfriend, B, that you never had any real closure.
You and B broke up because of the some misunderstanding arises and eventually doubled because of A. You told B in your telephone conversation ';I had enough with you, We're done. I want a break up';
B give you all the time you needed and not knowing you mean what you said about the break up. And thoughjt that you just needed time to calm down. Couple of weeks pass, B's sister called you up and looking for B, you admittedly told her you have already broken up for weeks. B wants to win you back but all odds comes and you left (moved out), B barely know where you are.
After a month, A constantly courts you and finally you develop feelings for A. A and you been together for almost 4 years. And every now and then you and A quarrels and in the middle of the quarrel, coincidentally B had contacted you. More or less every 6 months after the first year of break up.
Now after almost of one year of break up with A.
B knew the break up, waits for some while and now wants to court you again. To have a new life with you.
Now the quarrel is.
You like B, because he never insisted on what he wants. but on want you wants. He patiently waited for you to look forward and be ready for a new relationship. Also, you and B never had any real closure before.
But A is remains input, even after the break up, never leave you and stays with you at all times. You talked to him and he's a good listener.
Who would you choose, A or B?Who needs relationship advice, maybe I can help. So what do you need?
how do i know if i should engage in premarital sex?
message me on yahoo..?
ok i have been dating this guy for almost two years and i really dont know if he means it when he says that he loves me.... would it be true..
you can get me back at big_pain821@yahoo.com or im me
if u have msn can u add to your contacts i will tell u
my msn is: christina_sirignano@hotmail.com
I really need some advice on a relationship?
Okay well this is really messed up. Me and my girlfriend broke up for 3 months. Then we started going back out and she found out she is two months pregnant so she wants to be with the father. But there is a very good chance she wont carry it all the way. She said if she don't carry it all the way then she wants to be with me. I of course still love this girl. What should i do? Should i even keep her in my life or should i get rid of her for ever?I really need some advice on a relationship?
You're in a tough spot, I would tell her to go sort out her feelings and decide who she wants to spend her life with you or him, tell her to take her time and then let you know in a few months what she has decided. She is obviously confused and needs to sort it out. Give her that time then get on with your life, with or with out her.
Good Luck to you!
You're in a tough spot, I would tell her to go sort out her feelings and decide who she wants to spend her life with you or him, tell her to take her time and then let you know in a few months what she has decided. She is obviously confused and needs to sort it out. Give her that time then get on with your life, with or with out her.
Good Luck to you!
Relationship advice please guys advice too?
me and my boyfriend have been dating for 4 years and have been Living with each other for 3 years we just had a baby 5 months ago and ever since then its been really crazy between us really different always fighting it feels like we don't care anymore and i still love him and i know he loves me i just feel like it should be over to day he finally said to me that the spark it gone because we live together work together and have a baby that were always together what dose that mean how can we get the spark back? or should we call it quitsRelationship advice please guys advice too?
Did you consider he might be an alien or a vampire? Think about itRelationship advice please guys advice too?
take some time apart from each other, one day he could watch the baby while you can go hang with friends then you guys switch, you could watch the baby and he could go hang with friends.
Just my opinion: with what you have stated: it sounds like you two might need a little more time apart and maybe schedule a date once a month with each other. I would try to make it work, that requires him trying as well. Not sure if you are involved in a church, if you are you could schedule time together to meet with a councilor for free. You know communication is the key to making any relationship workeye color
Did you consider he might be an alien or a vampire? Think about itRelationship advice please guys advice too?
take some time apart from each other, one day he could watch the baby while you can go hang with friends then you guys switch, you could watch the baby and he could go hang with friends.
Just my opinion: with what you have stated: it sounds like you two might need a little more time apart and maybe schedule a date once a month with each other. I would try to make it work, that requires him trying as well. Not sure if you are involved in a church, if you are you could schedule time together to meet with a councilor for free. You know communication is the key to making any relationship work
Need some advice on my (sorta) relationship?
I met this guy on facebook and i ADORE him.But he lives on the other side of the country and my friends are telling me i shouldnt like him because of that.But im meeting him this summer.Should i follow my friends advice or not?(I %26lt;3 him)Need some advice on my (sorta) relationship?
your friends could be right cause this guy could be older than you think
your friends could be right cause this guy could be older than you think
I suppose it is just relationship advice really.?
right im going out with this boy yeah but i hardly see him and i always am making the effort to see him and then there is his friend, his friend likes m and i think i like him in the same way.
i don't know if i love my boyfriend any more which way is the best way of breaking up or sorting it out?I suppose it is just relationship advice really.?
The best thing to do would be to ask your boyfriend how he feels about you...and tell him how you feel. Its not good for you to feel your always making the effort, it takes 2 to make a realtionship work. You could try just saying to him you need a break from him to sort your head out and realise how you feel about him. Maybe your just getting yourself down about the fact you dont see him...and the fact someone else likes you is making you question your relationship..Forget about this other boy for a minute..and try work on your current realtionship..If you both decide its not working. Then give it a shot with the other boy. But dont put him first before your boyfriend...You dont want to regret anything..
good luck!
i don't know if i love my boyfriend any more which way is the best way of breaking up or sorting it out?I suppose it is just relationship advice really.?
The best thing to do would be to ask your boyfriend how he feels about you...and tell him how you feel. Its not good for you to feel your always making the effort, it takes 2 to make a realtionship work. You could try just saying to him you need a break from him to sort your head out and realise how you feel about him. Maybe your just getting yourself down about the fact you dont see him...and the fact someone else likes you is making you question your relationship..Forget about this other boy for a minute..and try work on your current realtionship..If you both decide its not working. Then give it a shot with the other boy. But dont put him first before your boyfriend...You dont want to regret anything..
good luck!
Relationship advice articles?
So we are all familiar with the vast amount of magazines that feature relationship advice from a psychologist who is an expert at relationships but what are your opinions on these articles?Relationship advice articles?
The writers of these articles make them up.
They wouldn't actually go to the bother of getting a real expert.
These people search google and put it into their own words.
All my best (:
E-mail me if you want to know anything else (:Relationship advice articles?
They are bulls***.
I saw a statistic somewhere saying DR';s had one of the highest divorce rates among professionals, so why would you take advice on someone that probably couldn't keep a relationship good themselves?
i do not think that you should relie on a advist columnist who you have never met for advice. you should ask friends and family..
The writers of these articles make them up.
They wouldn't actually go to the bother of getting a real expert.
These people search google and put it into their own words.
All my best (:
E-mail me if you want to know anything else (:Relationship advice articles?
They are bulls***.
I saw a statistic somewhere saying DR';s had one of the highest divorce rates among professionals, so why would you take advice on someone that probably couldn't keep a relationship good themselves?
i do not think that you should relie on a advist columnist who you have never met for advice. you should ask friends and family..
Relationship advice please?
ok, so this boy, a close friend of mine confessed he liked me, and i didn't really know what to say back, then later on i told him i liked him as a friend, and now he's not talking to me. is this normal? will he hate me now? cause i really like him as a friend....what should i do/say?Relationship advice please?
Well, you didn't lie; most people in your situation would've. He'll get over it soon, dear. Being stuck on someone your whole life just doesn't normally happen. He won't hate you, or think differently of you. For now, just give him some time to adjust to it. He must feel down about not getting the same reaction back, but I'm sure he wouldn't want to lose you as a friendd. (:
Well, you didn't lie; most people in your situation would've. He'll get over it soon, dear. Being stuck on someone your whole life just doesn't normally happen. He won't hate you, or think differently of you. For now, just give him some time to adjust to it. He must feel down about not getting the same reaction back, but I'm sure he wouldn't want to lose you as a friendd. (:
Relationship advice needed please help?
ok so im with this guy that ive been for about 3 years i went out with him when i was 14 im now 18 and hes 18 now and hes really violent and its kind of pushed me away and i started likeing this other guy who is 17 and hes really caring and kind and everything i could want but im not sure what to do cause i still love my boyfriend but i shouldn't be with someone who hits me and treats me like sh*t right?Relationship advice needed please help?
Girl you need to get as far away from him as possible O_O If everything you're saying is true, well he doesn't sound like a very nice person if he's physically abusing you and treating you like sh*t..
I've seen way too many girls get trampled on by their boyfriends and it's pretty sad. So you love him? There will be other loves and in the long run you'll be so much better off without himRelationship advice needed please help?
No. You ought to dump the violent guy after the first time he hit you.
Wtf is it with you girls? Why are you attracted to these btards in the first place?
But why do you keep going back for more?
They call it ';bad-boy syndrome'; but I prefer to call ';dumb-girl syndrome';!
Thats terrible, break up with him or atleast talk to him. Maybe somethings been making him do this? (Grand theft auto) LOL. Sorry, if hes giving you a hard time when you try to talk to him, break it up.
And for the other guy, start getting to know him.
Right, its not worth getting hit over when theres another guy whos willing to treat you better
You answered your own qu, you dont want to be someone violent - get with the new guy!
break up with him..and hook up with the new fellow..:)
Girl you need to get as far away from him as possible O_O If everything you're saying is true, well he doesn't sound like a very nice person if he's physically abusing you and treating you like sh*t..
I've seen way too many girls get trampled on by their boyfriends and it's pretty sad. So you love him? There will be other loves and in the long run you'll be so much better off without himRelationship advice needed please help?
No. You ought to dump the violent guy after the first time he hit you.
Wtf is it with you girls? Why are you attracted to these btards in the first place?
But why do you keep going back for more?
They call it ';bad-boy syndrome'; but I prefer to call ';dumb-girl syndrome';!
Thats terrible, break up with him or atleast talk to him. Maybe somethings been making him do this? (Grand theft auto) LOL. Sorry, if hes giving you a hard time when you try to talk to him, break it up.
And for the other guy, start getting to know him.
Right, its not worth getting hit over when theres another guy whos willing to treat you better
You answered your own qu, you dont want to be someone violent - get with the new guy!
break up with him..and hook up with the new fellow..:)
Relationship advice please bring?
Me and my girlfriend split up so we are exs but we still hang out but, she kisses me, acts like we're togeither, holds hands, will get intimate with me but she ';wont'; be with me as in a relationship, what is the deal with this? THIS is only when we are hanging out, when we arent, she hardly talks to me through text or phone or internet, what am I to do to get her to actually be with me again? besides what we have nowRelationship advice please bring?
forget about her. She's playing games and messing with yor head. I think she is just seeking attention and wanting you to want her.skin
forget about her. She's playing games and messing with yor head. I think she is just seeking attention and wanting you to want her.
Need your advice for a relationship book for guys and girls!?
What questions do you want answered in a book about guys/girls and relationships. I'll be taking statements from both girls and guys ... what do you want answered?
Examples.. why do guys ignore you, why do girls get so attached, how do I talk to the boy I like.Need your advice for a relationship book for guys and girls!?
he huggs me, tries to touch/hold my hand, ask 4 my # %26amp; then he thought of me as a friend. i really like him 2 %26amp; i kinda feel like his playin w/ my head... email me ur answer
Examples.. why do guys ignore you, why do girls get so attached, how do I talk to the boy I like.Need your advice for a relationship book for guys and girls!?
he huggs me, tries to touch/hold my hand, ask 4 my # %26amp; then he thought of me as a friend. i really like him 2 %26amp; i kinda feel like his playin w/ my head... email me ur answer
Relationship advice articles?
So we are all familiar with the vast amount of magazines that feature relationship advice from a psychologist who is an expert at relationships but what are your opinions on these articles?Relationship advice articles?
You have to filter them out. Many times people ask for advics without telling a psychologist everything. Noones know you relationship status as much as you do. Sometimes its impossible to say everything, even on a paper or a personal journal. For example. Say you and your man been together for 5 years and lately you been having fights. Fights is what you concentrate much in your question creating a perseption that you two only fight. But because you are seeking advice and you are desperate for an answer to justify your actions, you are not realizing that all the good moment with your man were ommited in the question to an advice expert. Sooooo, therefore negativity of your question can impact the response. And therfore you have to watch out what these so called professionals tell you or other people that are in similar situations. Hope it helps.@:)Relationship advice articles?
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You have to filter them out. Many times people ask for advics without telling a psychologist everything. Noones know you relationship status as much as you do. Sometimes its impossible to say everything, even on a paper or a personal journal. For example. Say you and your man been together for 5 years and lately you been having fights. Fights is what you concentrate much in your question creating a perseption that you two only fight. But because you are seeking advice and you are desperate for an answer to justify your actions, you are not realizing that all the good moment with your man were ommited in the question to an advice expert. Sooooo, therefore negativity of your question can impact the response. And therfore you have to watch out what these so called professionals tell you or other people that are in similar situations. Hope it helps.@:)Relationship advice articles?
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Relationship advice from anyone who has experience please!?
So I have been ';seeing'; this guy for about a month and he asked me to be his girlfriend on Friday. How soon after should I start telling my friends and family and change my relationship status? I don't want to get involved too quickly... but technically we are in a relationship right? Any advice is appreciated. ThanksRelationship advice from anyone who has experience please!?
Just tell everyone that you've just met someone and that the 2 of you are just seeing how everything works out. But, I wouldn't call it a relationship just yet, because you're still testing the waters.
Just tell everyone that you've just met someone and that the 2 of you are just seeing how everything works out. But, I wouldn't call it a relationship just yet, because you're still testing the waters.
Relationship Advice? What is okay and how far can it go?
So my boyfriend and I have been very happy together. He treats me better than anyone has and we are both very happy with the relationship. However, recently I have been a bit curious as to if he is telling me the truth about everything. I don't feel that he lies about things like cheating on me or anything to do with our relationship, however, he lies about pointless random things and even where he is from For example, I have always been under the idea that he is from California. However, last night before I went to meet his mom at dinner he asked me not to bring a few things up at dinner. One of those things was California. I haven't asked him about any of this, and I am not sure whether to make it a big deal or not. I really care a lot about it, I am just worried he has a problem with lying. How should I respond to all of this?Relationship Advice? What is okay and how far can it go?
Take it as flattery. honestly
I think he's just saying stupid little things to impress you...i mean a cali-boy, whats not to like? lol
It's not a big deal, so dont make it one, but once you're sure hes lying, about this or something else, just be like ';look, i know its not true that (whatever he lied about) and you dont need to say these things, i really like you, so you dont need lies to impress me';Relationship Advice? What is okay and how far can it go?
It appears that he has been lying. If he would lie about something as simple as where he is from I can imagine what else he would say. Trust and honesty is important in a relationship. This person cant be trusted.How can he treat you better than anyone but he lies to you? Do you think people who lie only lie about the small things?I would have asked his mom about a few of the small random things he said.When he told you before hand not to say certain things to his mom that should have sent a red flag up. I dont know how far the relationship can go if he lies for no reason.
HOOK HIM UP TO A LIE DETECTOR AND QUESTION HIM!
It sounds like you are having trouble trusting him and that is not good. Think twice about him, because he will never be trustworthy
if the 2 of you really are that happy, then all you have to do is ask him, communication is a huge thing in relationships
dont worry about where he is from. So everybody tells a little lie once and a while, Just tell him '; I want you to know that we have an open relationship, and I dont want you to lie to me.'; Or something similar to that. It will last.
talk to him about it and find out what he says. if he lies about one thing who knows what else he could be lieing about.
Take it as flattery. honestly
I think he's just saying stupid little things to impress you...i mean a cali-boy, whats not to like? lol
It's not a big deal, so dont make it one, but once you're sure hes lying, about this or something else, just be like ';look, i know its not true that (whatever he lied about) and you dont need to say these things, i really like you, so you dont need lies to impress me';Relationship Advice? What is okay and how far can it go?
It appears that he has been lying. If he would lie about something as simple as where he is from I can imagine what else he would say. Trust and honesty is important in a relationship. This person cant be trusted.How can he treat you better than anyone but he lies to you? Do you think people who lie only lie about the small things?I would have asked his mom about a few of the small random things he said.When he told you before hand not to say certain things to his mom that should have sent a red flag up. I dont know how far the relationship can go if he lies for no reason.
HOOK HIM UP TO A LIE DETECTOR AND QUESTION HIM!
It sounds like you are having trouble trusting him and that is not good. Think twice about him, because he will never be trustworthy
if the 2 of you really are that happy, then all you have to do is ask him, communication is a huge thing in relationships
dont worry about where he is from. So everybody tells a little lie once and a while, Just tell him '; I want you to know that we have an open relationship, and I dont want you to lie to me.'; Or something similar to that. It will last.
talk to him about it and find out what he says. if he lies about one thing who knows what else he could be lieing about.
Relationship aDvice please >>?
I am in a relationship where the woman rips me apart all the time. I am blamed for everything and she takes no responsibility. She has a knack for turning everything around on me and making me look lie the bad guy. She has killed my self esteem, and threatens me about leving all the time. SHe also says awful things to me and when I say awful things back I am the bad guy????Is this abuse?Relationship aDvice please %26gt;%26gt;?
This is an old trick used by manipulators who make you crazy with something they said or did then when you get upset they say you're the one who's crazy. They are really good at it, lots of practice. Don't fall for it the only way it's abuse is if you let her do it. You have a choice to take it or leave. She can't kill your self esteem unless you let her.Relationship aDvice please %26gt;%26gt;?
abuse. on ur part no if u bite your tongue until you can't help it anymore. on her part yes. virbal abuse can often be worse than physical. what you need to do is just scare her a couple times.... if you guys are fighting, then get in the car and take off for a while... don't answer your phone if its her or her friends. but make sure you take your house key. if shes as bad as you say she is, its very possible for her to lock you out of the house.. i wouldn't think that would be too much fun... but maybe after a couple hours she might loosen up and think to herself ';maybe he really isn't going to deal with me acting like this all the time'; you don't always have to break up like maybe some ppl are thinking... try scaring her. if that doesn't seem to work then maybe a break up would have to be your last choice. but you don't always have to make it the first... good luck!!! hope everything works out for you..
This is an old trick used by manipulators who make you crazy with something they said or did then when you get upset they say you're the one who's crazy. They are really good at it, lots of practice. Don't fall for it the only way it's abuse is if you let her do it. You have a choice to take it or leave. She can't kill your self esteem unless you let her.Relationship aDvice please %26gt;%26gt;?
abuse. on ur part no if u bite your tongue until you can't help it anymore. on her part yes. virbal abuse can often be worse than physical. what you need to do is just scare her a couple times.... if you guys are fighting, then get in the car and take off for a while... don't answer your phone if its her or her friends. but make sure you take your house key. if shes as bad as you say she is, its very possible for her to lock you out of the house.. i wouldn't think that would be too much fun... but maybe after a couple hours she might loosen up and think to herself ';maybe he really isn't going to deal with me acting like this all the time'; you don't always have to break up like maybe some ppl are thinking... try scaring her. if that doesn't seem to work then maybe a break up would have to be your last choice. but you don't always have to make it the first... good luck!!! hope everything works out for you..
Sunday, December 27, 2009
Relationship advice what do i do?
I am 19 turning 20 on the 24th this month, I am married 6 monthes.
I have been with my wife for about 4 1/2 to 5 years. I didnt have alot of friends when we started dating and about 1 year ago I started going to alot of parties and ended up cheating 3 times. We made up and got married anyways, everytime I tryed to leave her she wouldn't go.
Now I dont know what I should do I could stay with her and have a happy life or try to find another girl and leave her but then I would feel really bad about it not to mention the shame from my family and her family and my friends. Even my family would be ashamed.
Then I would also take the risk of never finding a women like her ever again.
I also have to say I dont know what I would do without her she puts direction in my life. I am afraid without her I would end up a bum on the street.Relationship advice what do i do?
Well then you need to go get some help. You say that she makes you happy and you dont want to leave her.. then why are you thinking about leaving her? Obviously shes not making you happy.Relationship advice what do i do?
People change. What you expect out of life and marriage changes a lot between 18 and 25.
The odds are not in your favor for a long marriage.
Make it a little easier and practice birth control.
Good luck I hope you can beat the odds.
I'd say you're a jerk.... Shouldn't have gotten married that young.. and you shouldn't have cheated! Poor girl, Divorce her, god you'de be doing her a favour, you're not a man, youre a little boy with a penis for a brain.
Grow up!
Personally I think you are way to young to be married. You only get to be young once and you should enjoy your youth as much as possible. However it sounds like you absolutly adore and love your wife. So if you are happy with her and are scared to lose her then theres no reason why you two shouldnt make it work. You can always find ways of enjoying your youth together with her. Remember life isnt about quantity its about QUALITY. So stay focused and have fun!!! All of the best!
um wow it sounds like you are way too dependent on your wife emotionally '; she puts direction in my life'; thats pathetic you are your own person and you need to take responsibility of your own life. ask yourself one question- are you happy? having cheated on her 3 times i highly doubt that you are satisfied with the relationship. cheating = no trust. no trust = no solid relationship. i think you made a major mistake being with her for 5 years then getting married. you are too young to be getting married and at your age you should be exploring other people (not just having sex) and living your life! you've basically been with her since you were a child! not good..i do believe that we are compatible with multiple people but must eventually choose one. im not saying you dont love her, but you are obviously lacking something if you cheated three times! she should have left you if she had any self esteem or dignity. you need to make that choice and end this relationship - who cares about the shame of your family. if they really love you eventually they'll see that breaking up was the best thing for you at that time. who knows - maybe you will end up together in the end. but how do you know if shes ';the one'; if you dont go out there and explore other relationships! you never know the right girl could be right in front of you or waiting for you out there somewhere!! ( that sounds incredibly cheesy lol) im 17 by the way ( i know right...words of wisdom from a 17 yr old ha ha)
You have to find the answer in yourself. I've been with my girl 3 years now and without her who knows where i'ld be. I now own a house, a nice car, and have paid off all my debts. Not to mention quit using drugs and smoking. And all of this because she wouldn't give up on me. So there isn't a person on this Earth who could make me cheat or leave this woman. And that's what you have to figure out. Is a little bit of something else worth giving up everything you have?????
Don't have kids yet!! You're both too damn young to be married. Let her know that too. She'll end up being the cheater years from now.
You are pretty young to be facing these decisions, but it happens.
Why don't you get with your wife and talk about your feelings. Maybe seek marriage counseling, before you make a decision.
Good luck.
Congratulations,You have answered your own question.You know what to do,now all you have to do is do it.You have a history with this woman,don't muck it up now.
I also got married at 19, and was divorced by 22, it's the old saying ';marry in haste, repent at leisure'; 19 is way too you speaking from personal experience. You have been with this girl a long time which is why you feel you don't know what you would do without her. But people change so much between the ages of 19 and 25, so you may want totally different things when you reach that age. You have 2 options, stay and stop moaning about it, put all your effort into making the relationship work, OR leave and take a chance on a different future, scary, but it could be good, or it could be bad.
You answered your own question.
Partying is fun but it will get old and you will be alone and lonely. You made the commitment, now make it work.
you must definitely read the posts here, what u should do...
Everyone is in search of some answer or the other. I have recently come across a beautiful blog and the author seems to be a very noble soul. Understand his philosophies and u will get all the answer. Here is what you must read.
http://www.achieverslounge.blogspot.com/
the 2 posts are:
trusting sombody may be hazardous to your well being
Infidelity: Victims and inflictors
Cheating is toxic to a relationship and is a huge indicator of what you want. If you truly loved your wife, your answer would be clear. You would have never cheated over and over again in the first place if you were happy with her and the relationship. Chances are you will not find many women like her; most women would have left you so fast the first time you cheated. The main thing you seem afraid of is being alone, but at this point it would be best for both parties if you went your seperate ways or made a huge change and went to couples therapy to sort your issues.
it almost sounds like you have your mind made up about your wife. you really started young and have yet to experience other people and things. i rather you go and spread your wings out there then to 'settle' for something because youre afraid of what people would say about you. it is really a tough choice. good luck!skin
I have been with my wife for about 4 1/2 to 5 years. I didnt have alot of friends when we started dating and about 1 year ago I started going to alot of parties and ended up cheating 3 times. We made up and got married anyways, everytime I tryed to leave her she wouldn't go.
Now I dont know what I should do I could stay with her and have a happy life or try to find another girl and leave her but then I would feel really bad about it not to mention the shame from my family and her family and my friends. Even my family would be ashamed.
Then I would also take the risk of never finding a women like her ever again.
I also have to say I dont know what I would do without her she puts direction in my life. I am afraid without her I would end up a bum on the street.Relationship advice what do i do?
Well then you need to go get some help. You say that she makes you happy and you dont want to leave her.. then why are you thinking about leaving her? Obviously shes not making you happy.Relationship advice what do i do?
People change. What you expect out of life and marriage changes a lot between 18 and 25.
The odds are not in your favor for a long marriage.
Make it a little easier and practice birth control.
Good luck I hope you can beat the odds.
I'd say you're a jerk.... Shouldn't have gotten married that young.. and you shouldn't have cheated! Poor girl, Divorce her, god you'de be doing her a favour, you're not a man, youre a little boy with a penis for a brain.
Grow up!
Personally I think you are way to young to be married. You only get to be young once and you should enjoy your youth as much as possible. However it sounds like you absolutly adore and love your wife. So if you are happy with her and are scared to lose her then theres no reason why you two shouldnt make it work. You can always find ways of enjoying your youth together with her. Remember life isnt about quantity its about QUALITY. So stay focused and have fun!!! All of the best!
um wow it sounds like you are way too dependent on your wife emotionally '; she puts direction in my life'; thats pathetic you are your own person and you need to take responsibility of your own life. ask yourself one question- are you happy? having cheated on her 3 times i highly doubt that you are satisfied with the relationship. cheating = no trust. no trust = no solid relationship. i think you made a major mistake being with her for 5 years then getting married. you are too young to be getting married and at your age you should be exploring other people (not just having sex) and living your life! you've basically been with her since you were a child! not good..i do believe that we are compatible with multiple people but must eventually choose one. im not saying you dont love her, but you are obviously lacking something if you cheated three times! she should have left you if she had any self esteem or dignity. you need to make that choice and end this relationship - who cares about the shame of your family. if they really love you eventually they'll see that breaking up was the best thing for you at that time. who knows - maybe you will end up together in the end. but how do you know if shes ';the one'; if you dont go out there and explore other relationships! you never know the right girl could be right in front of you or waiting for you out there somewhere!! ( that sounds incredibly cheesy lol) im 17 by the way ( i know right...words of wisdom from a 17 yr old ha ha)
You have to find the answer in yourself. I've been with my girl 3 years now and without her who knows where i'ld be. I now own a house, a nice car, and have paid off all my debts. Not to mention quit using drugs and smoking. And all of this because she wouldn't give up on me. So there isn't a person on this Earth who could make me cheat or leave this woman. And that's what you have to figure out. Is a little bit of something else worth giving up everything you have?????
Don't have kids yet!! You're both too damn young to be married. Let her know that too. She'll end up being the cheater years from now.
You are pretty young to be facing these decisions, but it happens.
Why don't you get with your wife and talk about your feelings. Maybe seek marriage counseling, before you make a decision.
Good luck.
Congratulations,You have answered your own question.You know what to do,now all you have to do is do it.You have a history with this woman,don't muck it up now.
I also got married at 19, and was divorced by 22, it's the old saying ';marry in haste, repent at leisure'; 19 is way too you speaking from personal experience. You have been with this girl a long time which is why you feel you don't know what you would do without her. But people change so much between the ages of 19 and 25, so you may want totally different things when you reach that age. You have 2 options, stay and stop moaning about it, put all your effort into making the relationship work, OR leave and take a chance on a different future, scary, but it could be good, or it could be bad.
You answered your own question.
Partying is fun but it will get old and you will be alone and lonely. You made the commitment, now make it work.
you must definitely read the posts here, what u should do...
Everyone is in search of some answer or the other. I have recently come across a beautiful blog and the author seems to be a very noble soul. Understand his philosophies and u will get all the answer. Here is what you must read.
http://www.achieverslounge.blogspot.com/
the 2 posts are:
trusting sombody may be hazardous to your well being
Infidelity: Victims and inflictors
Cheating is toxic to a relationship and is a huge indicator of what you want. If you truly loved your wife, your answer would be clear. You would have never cheated over and over again in the first place if you were happy with her and the relationship. Chances are you will not find many women like her; most women would have left you so fast the first time you cheated. The main thing you seem afraid of is being alone, but at this point it would be best for both parties if you went your seperate ways or made a huge change and went to couples therapy to sort your issues.
it almost sounds like you have your mind made up about your wife. you really started young and have yet to experience other people and things. i rather you go and spread your wings out there then to 'settle' for something because youre afraid of what people would say about you. it is really a tough choice. good luck!
I need advice on my relationship please someone help me outt?
Ok me and my bf have been dating for 5 and a half months and i actually love him so i told him that then he started picking fights with me and everything even checking out other girls and saying ';Damn that's nice and little remarks like that and now he wont come over to my place . Did i go to far and ruin the relationship or what does this mean?? %26amp; What should i say to him next ?? Someone help me pleaseI need advice on my relationship please someone help me outt?
Sounds like he isn't serious honey. If he would be so disrespectful to you to check out others in your presence and not care about you...you should consider your options and leave this dude in the dust.
YOU DID NOTHING WRONG...you love him. He is the jerk missing a sensitivity chip. He could have said...that is good...I am not there yet and be kind and sensitive...but no...he is hurtful and downright disrespectful.
I don't know what you should say to him next. I would be a bit furious that he is showing his true colors. He is not in a committed relationship with you....and that has to hurt.
I would not put up with it. he knows you love him now...and if you let him hurt you like this...then you are letting him use you.
I am not saying he has to say I love you back..just be a little sensitive and kind to someone who lost their heart to HIM. It should be an honor and not a problem... he is a child...immature and hurtful.I need advice on my relationship please someone help me outt?
umm ok.
im just gonna go ahead and be honost with u here.
well idk for what reason it is ,saying i love u isnt the problem i dont think it is atleast.
because 5 and a half months isnt too soon.
but i think that hes gunna break up with u.
theres 2 parts of a break up. the first is the build up and thats when the guy/girl start fights and just stop talkin to the other person , or just not talk as much and the second part is the acctual break up.
i think he might be building up for it.
iii am not sure if he does want to break up with u or not but...just ask him whats wrong next time u see him.
MSG me if u want more help or something.
im a guy nd ive experienced that same problem myself wen i get to that place wen a girl tells me that... look the thing to do ther is call him up nd tell him that your feelings for him are really strong nd that you mean it but he doesn't have to say it and neither will you until your both ready for love... because he might feel rushed nd uncomfortable with having to say he loves you to if he doesnt mean it... so maybe thats why hes acting like that...you didnt ruin it...but jst dont use that word...not till your both ready for it... because wen you are ready for it...he'll be the one to say it...just give it time...love is a strong word...maybe hes not ready for it...
He wasn't ready for it. And now he knows he has you under the thumb he thinks he's off the leash. He's testing the waters to see how much he can get away with. Start checking out other guys infront of him and see if he gets jealous. Garenteed he will. Then polietly smile and say i'm testing you out too. Or something along those lines so he knows you're not as under the thumb as he thought you were.
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Sounds like he isn't serious honey. If he would be so disrespectful to you to check out others in your presence and not care about you...you should consider your options and leave this dude in the dust.
YOU DID NOTHING WRONG...you love him. He is the jerk missing a sensitivity chip. He could have said...that is good...I am not there yet and be kind and sensitive...but no...he is hurtful and downright disrespectful.
I don't know what you should say to him next. I would be a bit furious that he is showing his true colors. He is not in a committed relationship with you....and that has to hurt.
I would not put up with it. he knows you love him now...and if you let him hurt you like this...then you are letting him use you.
I am not saying he has to say I love you back..just be a little sensitive and kind to someone who lost their heart to HIM. It should be an honor and not a problem... he is a child...immature and hurtful.I need advice on my relationship please someone help me outt?
umm ok.
im just gonna go ahead and be honost with u here.
well idk for what reason it is ,saying i love u isnt the problem i dont think it is atleast.
because 5 and a half months isnt too soon.
but i think that hes gunna break up with u.
theres 2 parts of a break up. the first is the build up and thats when the guy/girl start fights and just stop talkin to the other person , or just not talk as much and the second part is the acctual break up.
i think he might be building up for it.
iii am not sure if he does want to break up with u or not but...just ask him whats wrong next time u see him.
MSG me if u want more help or something.
im a guy nd ive experienced that same problem myself wen i get to that place wen a girl tells me that... look the thing to do ther is call him up nd tell him that your feelings for him are really strong nd that you mean it but he doesn't have to say it and neither will you until your both ready for love... because he might feel rushed nd uncomfortable with having to say he loves you to if he doesnt mean it... so maybe thats why hes acting like that...you didnt ruin it...but jst dont use that word...not till your both ready for it... because wen you are ready for it...he'll be the one to say it...just give it time...love is a strong word...maybe hes not ready for it...
He wasn't ready for it. And now he knows he has you under the thumb he thinks he's off the leash. He's testing the waters to see how much he can get away with. Start checking out other guys infront of him and see if he gets jealous. Garenteed he will. Then polietly smile and say i'm testing you out too. Or something along those lines so he knows you're not as under the thumb as he thought you were.
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Relationship advice! my friend's boyfriend gets jealous very easily?
she told me she needs advice and that he broke up with her then said sorry and got back together again in one night
all because he gets jealous when she hangs with boys
and that she is never allowed out with her friends
she 15/16 years
hes almost 19 i think
yeh help!Relationship advice! my friend's boyfriend gets jealous very easily?
O________________________O well this situation is just bleh. You cant exactly tell her ';hey you know what friend! You should break up witht his guy!'; because then she would get very defensive so all you can really do is be there for her when she needs it and drop hints here and there that you dont appreciate the way he treats her and nudge her slowly into the right direction until she herself says ';hey you know! My boyfriend isnt a very nice lad';. Goodluck to you! -hands four leaf clover-
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Tell her to tell him that she should be able to hang out with her friends whenever she likes, because Im sure she lets him hang out with his friends... and if he wont listen then she should get rid of him... she should know that you shouldnt put your boyfriend before friends
all because he gets jealous when she hangs with boys
and that she is never allowed out with her friends
she 15/16 years
hes almost 19 i think
yeh help!Relationship advice! my friend's boyfriend gets jealous very easily?
O________________________O well this situation is just bleh. You cant exactly tell her ';hey you know what friend! You should break up witht his guy!'; because then she would get very defensive so all you can really do is be there for her when she needs it and drop hints here and there that you dont appreciate the way he treats her and nudge her slowly into the right direction until she herself says ';hey you know! My boyfriend isnt a very nice lad';. Goodluck to you! -hands four leaf clover-
http://wea3.files.wordpress.com/2007/06/good-luck-clover-21.jpgRelationship advice! my friend's boyfriend gets jealous very easily?
Tell her to tell him that she should be able to hang out with her friends whenever she likes, because Im sure she lets him hang out with his friends... and if he wont listen then she should get rid of him... she should know that you shouldnt put your boyfriend before friends
Why does everyone ask for personal/family/relationship advice from total strangers on YA?
While there are some valid questions on here it still baffles me why anyone would take any advice from a total stranger when they ask a question like ';should I get a divorce?'; or whatever.Why does everyone ask for personal/family/relationship advice from total strangers on YA?
Because sometimes it's good to get an outsiders point of view and opinions. Someone who doesn't know the people involved on a personal level. Sometimes it helps to just get things off your chest and sometimes a person who answers may have an answer that the person asking had never even thought of before.Why does everyone ask for personal/family/relationship advice from total strangers on YA?
neutral 3rd parties sometimes have the best things to say in a given situation. advice is diff from info and opinion. ultimately, it's the asker's choice to follow the advice/info/opinion offered or not.
they would like to know the opnions of others, duh.
It's due to the fact that you do not know the person that is answering and they do not know you.
In other words I am unbiased outsider to a persons question.
For instance if you ask a question about a certain relationship that you are in. I can truelly answer you.
However if that person asks somebody they know; that person might not want to hurt them, have a hidden objective, just agree with them, might be biased towards his/her spouce, or might judge them.
Yes, I could easily judge them too, however I have forgotten all about them 5 minutes later.
In other words it is a lot easier to be judged by somebody you don't know then somebody you do.
How do you know they are ';taking'; the advice? Maybe they are simply exploring their options by seeking the opinions of unbiased people outside of their relationships. Sometimes it is difficult to talk to people you know, particularly if the situation is embarrassing.
coz pple here dont know you, so they give you a neutral answer friends will be very judgemental or might just tell you what you want to hear coz they know you.
Because it is an advice. From many sources, the person can choose a best answer.
Because they will get honest answers to questions rather than the friends who will have a biased judgment simply because they know you. This is bare bones answers that are nothing but what folks feel without any of the baggage that the asker knows about. We give them our feelings and the asker can weigh out what they want and make a decision based on a lot of different opinions rather than a limited few. It makes a good sounding board for those who need advice and help. Good question!!!
There r some situations where v feel unbalanced so a helping hand from some strangers may also help us in such situations to deal with d problem.
Afterall A STRANGER MAY ALSO B A FRIENDna.........who thinks of us better than us.
Because sometimes it's good to get an outsiders point of view and opinions. Someone who doesn't know the people involved on a personal level. Sometimes it helps to just get things off your chest and sometimes a person who answers may have an answer that the person asking had never even thought of before.Why does everyone ask for personal/family/relationship advice from total strangers on YA?
neutral 3rd parties sometimes have the best things to say in a given situation. advice is diff from info and opinion. ultimately, it's the asker's choice to follow the advice/info/opinion offered or not.
they would like to know the opnions of others, duh.
It's due to the fact that you do not know the person that is answering and they do not know you.
In other words I am unbiased outsider to a persons question.
For instance if you ask a question about a certain relationship that you are in. I can truelly answer you.
However if that person asks somebody they know; that person might not want to hurt them, have a hidden objective, just agree with them, might be biased towards his/her spouce, or might judge them.
Yes, I could easily judge them too, however I have forgotten all about them 5 minutes later.
In other words it is a lot easier to be judged by somebody you don't know then somebody you do.
How do you know they are ';taking'; the advice? Maybe they are simply exploring their options by seeking the opinions of unbiased people outside of their relationships. Sometimes it is difficult to talk to people you know, particularly if the situation is embarrassing.
coz pple here dont know you, so they give you a neutral answer friends will be very judgemental or might just tell you what you want to hear coz they know you.
Because it is an advice. From many sources, the person can choose a best answer.
Because they will get honest answers to questions rather than the friends who will have a biased judgment simply because they know you. This is bare bones answers that are nothing but what folks feel without any of the baggage that the asker knows about. We give them our feelings and the asker can weigh out what they want and make a decision based on a lot of different opinions rather than a limited few. It makes a good sounding board for those who need advice and help. Good question!!!
There r some situations where v feel unbalanced so a helping hand from some strangers may also help us in such situations to deal with d problem.
Afterall A STRANGER MAY ALSO B A FRIENDna.........who thinks of us better than us.
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