Are you good at relationship advice? Can you help me out?

I've been dating my best friend for 3 years, and have lived with him for 2. He has not proposed yet, although one minute we're looking for rings and the next minute he's saying he can't afford it. Our sex life is not good (he lasts for 2 minutes), and recently I have been meeting an old friend to fill in the sex department. I clean up after my bf and his dogs like I'm his maid, and his excuse is that he ';works';. He does not give me $ or pay for my living expenses, so I don't see that as an excuse. Needless to say, he doesn't make me feel ';special'; anymore either.





What would you do? I love him but I'm contemplating moving out. Is this just a rutt that some couples go through? I can't imagine breaking up with him because I do see him as a husband and the father of my kids. My family loves him and otherwise he's a nice guy.Are you good at relationship advice? Can you help me out?
I think if you are unhappy enough with the sex to sneak around on him, you are better off moving on. The ';little'; things like 2-minutes worth of stamina, slobbiness, laziness, etc will not go away just because he puts a ring on your finger.





Be honest and move on.Are you good at relationship advice? Can you help me out?
I suggest if you are unhappy, you should discuss it with him. Let him know how you feel. If you cannot come to a resolution , or things seem to continue downhill, i say it's time to move on, he might be taking the place of the right guy. Do what's best for you. I had to break up with someone after 3 yrs. Can you imagine? But , right after i did that , i met my husband and had i not dropped that zero, i probably wouldn't be married right now. I say if you're unhappy, do something about it.
Well kinda going in order - he loves you enough for you to live there and 'play' the role of the wife. He doesn't want to let a good thing go so he goes by the ring section every once in a while, to keep the thought in your head. I take it you don't work, well out of the house and he's getting free maid service. Go out and get a french maid uniform and tell him this is a job I do and you don't share your money so I'll have to start charging ya so I can have a life too.In a relationship people share their earnings, exp if the other one stays at home. and last but definitely not least 2 minute man. Is this what you want for your life to hide an affair with a man that pleases you so you can live with a man that seems to only want that built in maid service. I don't believe in cheating when their are so many freaky little fish in the sea that would treat you special. It's not a rut it's his way of life. Now what is yours? Peace
It is interesting how we can drop our standards and self-worth so low for men we love, at least we think we love them. Its only natural to think of the guy you are in love with as a husband and father of your children. Funny thing is, you'll get the same feeling for whoever you are in a relationship with! Try not to let that keep you from making an objective assesment of the whole situation. If you are really in love with him, why would you cheat on him? You cannot expect love, trust and honesty when you are unable to give it yourself! It doesn't matter how long he lasts, you both should have been able to talk about these things. Another mistake we make often is to do things for other people- more than necessary. No one asked you to clean up after him and he is giving just what you asked for. He is an adult so try not to mother him- don't be an enabler. Others won't respect you if you don't maintain your dignity yourself. You should be your own person and shouldn't have to depend on him for money/living expenses. If you have to, you both should have agreed on some sort of rules to live by. And all this doesn't change if you get married. You clearly seem unhappy with the whole situation. I suggest you talk to him about everything that bothers you. If he listens, good for you. If he doesn't, you might want to think again about waiting to get married to him...I mean would you like to spend all your life with a husband like that? And worse, have children with the man you love and still be unsatisfied and unhappy?


As for his not having proposed yet, I can't tell you why he hasn't 'cos no one can tell those things. But if he says he can't afford something, he might just mean that he cant afford it. It may not necessarily imply that he doesn't love you or doesn't want to get married to you. Since you are living together, you probably know his financial situation better. I hope this helps. Best.
why would u want to be with someone for the rest of your life who doesn't even want to try and make u happy every man workers and still has time for their wives. he's suppose to see u as a diamond not a maid. talk to him and if hes not willing to change then i suggest you leave him your gonna find someone who does appreciate you. Your not in love with this guy your in love with the guy who he used to be when you guys started dating.
if you are unhappy, u gotta talk about it with him. you probably feel like a maid to him, because you guys move in with each other too quick in your relationship. probably need to not be with each other all the time. try it out and see how it is. you love him and see him as a husband and the father to your kids so find ways that would help you guys work things out. all couples have their good and bad times. don't give up so easily...love isn't easy to find.
first of all you went the wrong direction by getting your love from another man. i believe in honesty even if it hurts because not telling someone you love the most important feelings or thoughts just stresses you out. i think he is just comfortable with you assuming the role of the wife without the actual title. you guys need to talk and if no acceptable agreement is reached you need to decide what your going to do. and yes it can be a rutt in a relationship if you let it try something new and rekindle the gf/bf fun that you usually get to have when you first get together.