Relationship advice needed any suggestions welcome?

I don't think it's a unique problem at all but one of the major reasons why I'm unable to secure a permanent relationship with anyone. To describe it, I'm a very private person and don't enjoy socializing much as I like to restrict myself to just the people I know: I am member in all social networking sites such as Myspace, Orkut.





With women, I find that the singlemost problem that I face is a ';lack of desire'; to communicate with them. Most women I meet seem to be attention-seeking - they want you to communicate more, show active interest and use more verbal and non-verbal gestures an I'm too hard-wired to pay attention to minute details.





I went on a lunch with an old flame this Sunday and it turned out to be a dampener as I just seem to be cautious in approaching and tend to be very formal and non-personal with everybody;





At the end of the day - I am a workaholic and the feeling is that communicating with women in a ';dating'; manner gets me easily distracted so I avoid them!Relationship advice needed any suggestions welcome?
there is no man that has managed to understand women yet, and i don't think i understand men completely either, but that's the fun of it, you are just failing to grasp it. you are introverted, so i guess it's normal that's it's not easy for you to communicate woth women (or men, for that matter), but i also think you have some misconceptions. not all women are desperately ';attention-seeking'; and most that i know (including myself) find it perfectly natural that men won't notice a new dress or a new haircut, and that he has a need for time apart from me, which is good. when i am in a relationship, i also need time away from him, that is actually what makes the relationship work, finding the balance between loving and wanting that other person and still having your own time, your own interests, even secrets. but this is not an easy thing to accomplish, and it takes time, from both a man and a woman. i don't think you are a bad date, you just haven't figured out what it is exactly that you want, and how this balance could work for you. when you know that, you need to find the girl that has a similar balance, and work together to build a relationship. it's not easy, but who ever told you love was easy??? ok, I don't know if i have helped much, but still, the best of luck.Relationship advice needed any suggestions welcome?
Well, you're probably gonna get a fair few people taking the pi*s , but to be honest, I sorta know where your coming from. I recently split with my girlfriend because she was too much of an ';attention seeker'; as indeed many women are. I'm quite a introvert person, and I like time to myself (even though some people find that wierd - why? - what's wrong with enjoying your own company now and again?). Anyhow, I'm looking to meet someone who will have a similar outlook to myself, someone who enjoys her own company and wont want me to be there 100% of the time, doing 100% of everything with her. I'd say, there is definitely someone out there for you, but don't ignore any opportunities you get because the older you get, the less opportunities you have. Afterall, life is kind of pointless if you have nobody to share it with.





p.s. Don't try ';understanding'; women. You never will. Just accept one that meets most of your criteria! It's far far easier that way.
Interacting with women can be difficult - I am a mature lady and have found that I either hold onto my few friends and make aquaintances with others - you understand me there. However, you sound like and state that you prefer your own company to that of women who impose as such. Well that to me is acceptable because its just as I do. What I did was to join clubs with interest that were as close to my own as I could get. You may well then meet a few women who may be more on your level - so to speak and you can take it from there. Dont jump in with both feet though just for the sake of being with a woman (even from these groups), take time to get to know her etc., etc., I do not think it is you actually, its simply that you are meeting them in the wrong places and you are not connecting.


Plus you say you are a workaholic - take a weekend off and explore some of the places near to where you live - as in places of your interest, you just never know you may see what I am trying to point you in the direction of.....Good Luck to you.
Relationships need interaction, and they need feelings as much as reason. By your admission, it's not your way to give either. You would rather not. Actions have consequences, however, and the consequences of your social behavior is that relationships won't work out with most people, and you'll find yourself alone a lot. If this is what you prefer, then fine. If this bothers you, then you need to try a different approach with people. Such as showing an interest in them. Spending time with them. Sharing yourself with them, revealing some of who you are. This is how relationships form, no other way. If you don't want to do this, then you don't want to do what you have to do to establish relationships. It's your call.





Possibly you've connected with the wrong kind of women so far...there are all kinds out there! I encourage you to keep trying. Maybe you'll meet someone like you, and maybe it will work out. Personally, I think relationships are one of the most satisfying and wonderful things of life. But I also think they are terribly difficult to manage. I guess I feel it's worth the effort.
Women (I speak as one) like to feel special and loved by the man they are with, but there are those who marry for practicality. For yourself, you need to look for the latter type, one who marries because it ';makes sense'; not because they are ';in love.'; Look for a woman in business with numbers, one with a very analytical mind, and you may find the right one. I cannot guarantee you happiness with her, but you will likely find yourself in a mutually beneficial relationship.
Well Dictator - You are right when you say yours is not a 'unique' problem. Men will never work us out!! But


really, all we need is a bit of attention. Men are the same.


It just comes down to mutual respect. I think you have


been unfortunate with the woman that you have been with


and at the moment you are just not ready for committment.





Perhaps your only a workaholic cos you have nothing else


going on in your life (I could be wrong!) But it must be


worrying you to a certain degree. You need to separate your work life and your private life then perhaps you won't get


'easily' distracted. Make some rules for yourself. Be Happy.
Don't communicate in a ';Dating'; manner chat to people get to know them as friends don't think about it as in is this the next relationship scenario, when you do actually meet the ';One'; it will be so easy and so natural.





Women don't want compliments all the time as it just becomes a formality then but every now and then it is good to hear.





Not all women are attention seekers (those are just the worse stay well away!!!!)





I have been with my partner for 2 years now and it all started out as friends he is now my best friend and lover rolled into one :O)





Now stop worrying about being singleton enjoy yourself make friends and let the future unwind in front of you :O)