As an ex-single mom, I can tell you this, you both MUST put the child first. If the child's mother is a pain, it will make things more difficult, but you have to remember that this is the child's biological mother and (in most cases) she will ALWAYS be in the child's and your boyfriend's life so you must get used to her talking to both the child and him. If your living together, you have to make sure that the child knows that you are not there to take the place of the mother nor are you there to get in between the child and the father. You are not a threat and you care for the child also. Spend time together as a ';family';, also, once the child is comfortable with you, spend time with them alone, doing things together. Make sure you and your boyfriend come up with a fair, but firm disciplinary system that you both MUST stick to. You cannot be wishy washy or else the child will take advantage of the differences in opinion. Above all else, make sure the child knows you care for them so a bond is created.Any advice on being in a relationship with a man who has a young child?
Only YOU can decide if you want to share your life with the ex. Because of the child, she will ALWAYS be there. It's unfair to the child to expect anything less.
It's not problem as long as you tell him that you don't want any parts of the baby momma drama.... That is their business and it doesn't have anything to do with you.. If your happy with him why leave him.. Just remember your place when it comes to the baby momma drama... (FAR AWAY) I've been their done all of that and as long as you keep the child happy and let them know what is really good then you should be fine but don't mess you anything that is good
Maybe back off. if this man has a young child with someone else, that family needs all the help it can get in trying to re-unite. I'm sure you're a lovely person but try finding someone with less baggage you'll be happier in the long run.
Well if your boyfriend and his ex are on good terms there shouldn't be a problem..Don't go with him to pick up the child or drop it off..Don't; be a disciplinarian..Let him do it. Be the child's friend. If you meet the ex be polite even if she isn't. don't be confrontational ..Good luck
depends on your level of maturity and how their relationship is currently - if they are civil to each other and you are decent person it can work out very well...
if they are fighting, using kids as pawns, or bribing the kids so they are the ';favorite'; parent and not disaplining kids... then its hell in the making...
you must discuss it all with him before hand... sort things out now... or leave
If you like him than who cares? watch because i said so with mandy moore, diane keaton, and lauren graham. lol
Been there done that!!! The kids were 5 and 7. Run the other way as fast as you can!!! He didn't discipline so they were brats and she called for the stupidest things. He would go running. Good luck!!
Yea, LEAVE! You don't need all the drama.
If you can accept and know for sure that you are ok with the fact that some women that he used to be deeply involved with and at one point care for very much will always be in his life due to the kid, then there is no reason not to go for it. But if you go into this relationship knowing that you really can't decide later that it makes you jealous when he talks to her to has to meet her or those sort of things because you entered the relationship knowing this. Also keep in mind that if he is a good father who really loves his kid there is the chance that you may begin to realize that he may never love you as much as he loves his son/daughter. Even though there is nothing wrong with that it is still hard when he means everything to you and you feel like you always take second place. Just things to think about before you get to involved.
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