Keep up the good relationship with husband :please advice?

It has been 8 months since i got married. Me and my husband share a good relationship like friends we share each others problems , advice etc. But my husband prefers masturbating himself over sex. He is not interested in starting a family (Kids).





I am worried that if this continues i may not have kids . Also i have heard that masturbating will minimize the sperm count and no kids can be born.





Can anyone advice how to solve this problem. I dont want to leave my husband as i love him a lot and he too loves me.Keep up the good relationship with husband :please advice?
this may sound harsh but its not meant to be and no offence intended but,and I'm not saying that you are one of these people who would do this but, maybe the problem with your husband is trust he doesn't want children yet and maybe sun consciously he things if he has sex with you you will try to get pregnant with out him knowing about it, tell him you are on the pill use condoms or any other protection that is available and let him see you will not get pregnant until you both want to have children, it is Only an opinion but it is the only one I can really think of with more or less newly weds who don't have sex, I hope this helps I really do and good luck with your relationship.





EDIT: And talk to him about it





EDIT EDIT: Oh and to answer your other about the sperm count I did masturbate a bit in my younger days but I still have four kids three boys and a girl so I don't think that will really cause to much trouble.Keep up the good relationship with husband :please advice?
If you have this problem already at 8 months, it won't change. I was in a relationship like this for 7 years. He didn't tell me until the end that he actually preferred his hand. No ammount of dressing sexy will help matters. I tried everything I could think of before I left. This man is too self absorbed to have kids, you would be better off to move on and find someone else you can have kids with.
Masturbation won't hurt anything except your feelings. It is odd though if he prefers it over sex with you. You need to talk to him and let him know that you need sex more than you are getting. As for children, it is not good to bring children into the world if both parents don't want them. In time, he will probably come around, but right now you are still newlyweds. Give it a few years. Be a happy husband and wife for several years before considering children. Happy married people make better parents.
A book all women must know to get is called,203 ways To Drive A Man Wild In bed by:Olivia St.Claire, has made any man that I knew that loved masturbating over sex prior to me give up wanting to masturbate.Trust me, it will dramatically change your sex life. As far as havingg kids, it's only been 8 months,maybe he wants to be more financially secure when he has kids and enjoy the honeymoon phase first. Good Luck!
Its a scary situation. I sincerely have doubts that he loves you..though you say so. If he had any love for you, any attraction for you, he would not masturbate selfishly.


either he is gay, or wants you to leave him, that is why he is doing all this.


Anyways masturbation would not reduce his sperm count if he has any.
i think he's gay . but i don't know , maybe you should tell to your husband that you want sex , and make him horny *sorry if i become rude





or you can talk to your husband that kids can make your relationship better than ever . you've been know each other for 8 months , i'm sure he will understand ..





hope you can have cute child :)
Provoke him to do sex with you then to masturbate. Tell him that you too need sexual satisfaction which you get my doing sex with him so he should do sex with you as that is your right as his wife.
8 months and no sex??? did you have sex before marriage??? or is it an arranged marriage???





self-love is fun... and can cause issues...
sounds like he's gay
Firstly, masterbating will not lower the sperm count at all so there is no need to worry about that.


If I were you I would go on the pill, respect that your husband is not yet ready to have kids and remove the risk of falling pregnant. If you were to have a baby before you are both ready it would cause resentment for sure.


Try performing oral sex on your husband - get involved in his sexual pleasure, even if he doesn't have full sex with you, you will feel better for the fact that it is you who is pleasing him. This will probably make your husband apprieciate you sexually more and things may progress from there. If he is seeing that you want to please him he will want to do the same for you. Don't push him to have sex with you because you want a baby. Let him know you want to have sex because you want HIM, If he knows that and he loves you - how can he resist?


Good luck xx