What are your top pieces of advice on getting over a relationship?

i.e things to do, ways of getting over the ego bruising, way to be with your ex.





My GF broke up with me over the weekend and its a bit hard because we have been together for nearly two years and had even talked about getting married in the future and stuff, so was just looking for general advice on dealing with this type of situation and getting through it as quickly as possible.





Thanks.What are your top pieces of advice on getting over a relationship?
I know it's going to be painful for you for a while, two years is a long time. You are not going to get over it in 2 minutes. I would definitely not call her. She has got your number and should she wish to contact you, then let her do so. Only time will help in this situation. It will get better, believe me. In the meantime, don't dwell on the situation. Get yourself out with your mates. Better to find out now that the relationship wasn't for you, than further on down the line. Best of luck.What are your top pieces of advice on getting over a relationship?
There's no quick, permanant way to get over a relationship. The best thing to do is to cut contact and give up any hope of getting back together- prepare for the worst, and if by some chance you get back together- that's gravy. It's going to take time, esepecailly with a long relationship like that. The short term stuff- getting drunk, going out and F**ing women, whatever- they're temporary, will make you forget for a little bit.. but you'll have your ex in the back of your head for a while. I'm just now getting over my ex-wife after 4 years of marrage, and 6 years together overall- and it's been almost a year and a half! Keep your head up, there's plenty of women out there
It's very early days, and of course you're hurting like hell. Give yourself time to 'grieve' for the lost relationship, but in the meantime, keep as busy as possible, but know that with TIME, you'll begin to feel better.
I'd say:





1. Keep your distance, otherwise your feelings get messed up and you never really break off and;





2. Keep occupied, you need another distraction, make yourself busy and get your mind off her and onto other things.
Go out with your friends, have a good time, do all that boys stuff you had to give up while you had a girl friend.





I know its gona be hard but try to put her to the back of your mind. Concentrate on other things for a while until you are able to think of her and the good times you had instead of the hurt you feeling now.





Good luck.
Yes, cut all ties. She broke up with you for a reason, otherwise you'd still be together. The tough thing is that while her feelings have changed yours haven't and that is where your problem lies.





Don't make the mistake of regretting the time you had, it's not been wasted. Don't expect her to return and remember that you will need time to heal. Also there is a certain amount of habit in being with someone - you will need to ocupy yourself with something else to break those habits. Avoid the places you always went together for a while.





You may eventually see her with another guy. Ignore them both otherwise you can't move on. Know that you weren't right for her but you will meet someone far better for you when the time comes.





Above all breaking up is a bit like a bereavement, there's a certain amount of grief associated with it, especially if you were not the one who ended it. Give yourself time to work through your feelings. Soon enough you'll be okay again.
just get back on the horse and go after another female.
Go out and have fun. The best thing is distraction! But beware of drunken dialling/texting. If at all possible then let someone else be in charge of your phone!
There must be reasons why she decided to broke up with you, whatever it is , just give her time to think. You can send her cards showing your concern and how much she mean to you. Someone has to make the first move. Sometimes in a relationship when there is doubt and there is so much pride it's hard to make a relationship lasting. Observe and listen so that you will learn , the reasons for the break up. It's not really that bad to learn and experienced the pain when a relationship ends. There is always someone meant for somebody, who knows when your two paths meet, it will be the end of it and the start of a new relationship. Meanwhile, give her a little time, then you make your first move, so you can talk with each other. By doing so, you will know the bigger picture or the reasons why she decided to break up with you or that there is still another chance that you will reconcile and renew whatever vows you have like getting married...... but that remains to be seen. Do something about it.
well calling her will not make her miss you because girls, especially after breaking up find it annoying. they would just think that you're a try hard stalker. if you call her, you will be the one to hurt cause look at u right now, you totally miss her how much more if you call her and miss your conversations. just give her a month then settle things for better. u can be friends, that way there's a chance that your relationship will come back. well i'm more concerned about you, go online gaming, walking at the mall or park, hang out with you friends to ease the pain but it's only temporary easiness...love really hurts that way, just God bless wish you the best boy..


love lots,


hao =)
With regards to your 2nd point, no, you don't have to cut her off completely, but act like you are fine and getting on with life. IF there was a chance she could want you back, it won't happen if you are needy or clingy...not attractive! It may be that things have gotten too serious too soon for her and she needs time to realize she does love you but needs to take it more slowly. But please do not hang on hoping that this is the case. You must get on with your life. 1, because she might not want you back at all, and 2 because you would appear more attractive if you did!





As for getting over it... do things that will improve your self-esteem. I don't mean going out and picking up another girl, but things like going to the gym. This will release stress and give you a focus. Take a vacation to get some perspective on things. Maybe, after thinking about it, you will realize the relationship wasn't that great after all. Get a new hair style, call those old friends you haven't seen in a while and catch up.





It's all about taking your time and taking care of yourself :-)
Surround yourself with friends. Go out whenever possible. Change your appearance. Workout. Dye your hair just leave your old self with her and move on. Turn to music. Let others who have been through the same talk you through it with their songs. Cut contact. It will get better. Slowly but surly. Its for the best. Here this will save you some pain. http://www.myspace.com/doubleoverjack
Sometimes I welcome it. It makes it OK to wage war.
i think you should cry your heart out. it helps in managing the pain...


and cut off all contact not because you want her back... but its for your own good if you want to move on...





if you really want her back... find out what went wrong in the relationship and work from there.





good luck.
just dont talk to her or anything. At least for a while. Thats what im doing with my ex. Was with him for 9 month. Broke up with me a week ago because he wanted someone else. Ye it hurts lol. But if you just go out with friends and keep yourself busy it isnt as hard to get over. You will meet someone else. So will I :)
Do what you gotta do,basically. Everyone deals with grief differently,especially with this kind of magnitude. If you do better being by yourself for a good week or two,go with it,just don't become a shut-in/asshole. If you find comfort with hanging with friends,by all means. I would go with the latter just so you don't become too isolated. It's no easy thing to go through,but friends/family do make the blow a little softer.
Cut the contact in case she doesn't come back to you. Get together with friends,go out with friends. Hang out with positive people that understand what you have been through.. But,no contact...I know easier said than done. It does get easier....
drugs and alcohol.