More relationship advice please ladies and gents?

If I wanted to get rid of this guy sho seems to be still hung up on his daughters mothers relationship that ended over 10 years ago, how would I go about it sensitively as I do like him and do not want to be tempted to sleep with him but would still like to be his friend, although a cliche, I mean it, he is a good friend, but I really don't need to chance the heartache, and feel I deserve better. Any of youhad a similar experience, I'd like some sensible advice. See my last question for more clarity. Thanks.More relationship advice please ladies and gents?
Tell him you don't think his heart is really in the relationship, and it would be better for the pair of you be friends because you don't want to get too attached to him emotionally and get hurt. I wouldn't mention the ex, hopefully he'll be man enough to admit to himself that the problem lies with him. You are defo worth more than this.More relationship advice please ladies and gents?
I'd tell him what a good and valuable friend he is, how much you like his company and what fun he is. Then I'd refer to past relationships you've had which have ended and how sad that you can't forgive some of the people in the past. You wouldn't want this to happen to your valuable friendship and so you'd rather not risk it than have this break between you. But keep the bit about your friendship and how much it means to you and that he is like a BROTHER to you. Mention that a lot. If he pushes you for a relationship, tell him it would be like incest as you have a brother-sister thing going. That should work. I've used that a few times and it's always been effective.


Good luck