A Guy was making love to his girl and she started crying. I was seeing and said, “Are you going to hate yourself in the morning?” She said. “No. I hate myself now.”
Have a nice day and nice dreamSexless relationship, advice?
You need to make your girlfriend feel confident in her sexuality. Get away from physical sex for a while and concentrate on her mind. Heighten your intimacy with her through verbal expression and affectionate but non sexual touching. Tell her what she does to you and kiss her frequently and passionately but without the expectation of the sex she dreads. Talk about your body and her body until she feels comfortable with both and when you know each other intimately and she is sure of your committed love she will enjoy. It's all just a state of mind.
Sounds like she has some serious issues that need to be confronted, this could mean anything. Don't want to be an alarmist, but this relationship 'aint healthy pal. This could be in the shape of some form of abuse, if so my heart goes out to her, and you for putting up with it for so long. At some point she is gonna have to confront these demons and tackle them head on if she is going to embark on normal relationships, this will obviously mean counseling or something.
In the meantime, let me suggest that you need to excercise tact and empathy. Don't just sit there getting all frustrated and hexed up about it, try and get her to be open about why she hates sex. Be nice!
But, remember, you have the right to embark on a relationship that entails a normal sex life, and you can't be doing this for ever. Myself, after so long I would do my best to try and help her get over her fears and such, but if after all that the situation remained the same I'd break up with her.
Takes two to tango.
Has she suddenly decided this or has sex always been a problem for her?
If it has always been a problem for her she should seek counselling about it. It might be that she was brought up to think it was wrong to have sex. It's not like you are a one night stand you are here very long term girlfriend.
Talk to her.
sounds like a bummer.
But on the real..
That is some issues that that prolly started with her
from a young age.
Maybe someone taught her that... so she thinks that way.
Try to be loving as you can ...
I don't know.
I wish I had a solution for you.
Good luck to you both..
Hi dear i can totally understand your girlfriend...im 22 and im an asexual and i was so upset and thought that there was something wrong with me but my partner was around and helped...maybe your gf is asexual which means that human dont turn her on...but maybe cartoons, flowers might help...
She's definitely right on the dirty front. Maybe not the other though.
Sounds like a puritanical upbringing. Difficult to break childhood conditioning.
A relationship between two people with different sex drives rarely lasts. I'm amazed you've been together ten years.
Perhaps she was abused as a child. If so she needs counseling and compassion.
10 years? And you are only NOW realizing ';there MAY be a problem';?!!!
Sounds like B/S to me.
Marry her and she might not find it to be so dirty.
Get out. She's only a gf, and after 10 years if it;s this bad just move on.
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