how do i get to the next level physically in a relationship. i am tryna take it slow but how to i convince her to take the next step after making out and stuff.I need some relationship advice?
You won't want to hear this as an answer, but don't convince her. If she's not ready, she's not ready and it would just be a jerk thing to do to trick her into thinking she's ready.
If you're not sure if she's ready, maybe just hint at things. Like slowly start putting your hand up her shirt (just on her belly or something) and ask her if that's ok with her. If she says yes, then you know she's comfortable with it.
Friday, January 8, 2010
Need help with relationship advice please?
We have been dating for 8 months and love eachother a lot and have talked about the future. What is a good time to wait to get engaged and how long would you wait? I need opnions. Thanks.Need help with relationship advice please?
if you know its right then go for it... there really isn't a time limit on love. But I strongly suggest being engaged for at least 6 months!Need help with relationship advice please?
Be engaged for a year. Once you get serious and start talking about the future odd things come up that you would never have thought of... I was engaged recently and we were engaged for 7 months then we were talking about some things in the future (kids, living location, religion etc.) and realized that we want two totally different things out of life and that we weren't meant for eachother even though we were sooooooo in love. Hope this helps and Congrats! Best of luck for you two!
Try reading this free e-book called 97 steps to a happy relationship. I've read it (a while ago) and I still think about the advice given in it.
if you know its right then go for it... there really isn't a time limit on love. But I strongly suggest being engaged for at least 6 months!Need help with relationship advice please?
Be engaged for a year. Once you get serious and start talking about the future odd things come up that you would never have thought of... I was engaged recently and we were engaged for 7 months then we were talking about some things in the future (kids, living location, religion etc.) and realized that we want two totally different things out of life and that we weren't meant for eachother even though we were sooooooo in love. Hope this helps and Congrats! Best of luck for you two!
Try reading this free e-book called 97 steps to a happy relationship. I've read it (a while ago) and I still think about the advice given in it.
Who gives better relationship advice?
Do women give better advice about how to get/keep a girlfriend or do men? Please...let's try to keep the man/woman bashing to a minimum. I was just wondering who you thought was more knowledgeable about relationships, and why.Who gives better relationship advice?
Both. At least in some aspects (like asking a guy about how to deal with guys). You wouldn't be qualified on how to give perform surgery if you weren't a surgeon. The same thing applies here: you're not qualified to give advice on guys unless you're a guy. (same thing for girls about girls)Who gives better relationship advice?
I think it's a tie really. Women are more perceptive in regard to the emotional aspects of relationships, while men tend to be more logical. I think both points of view should be considered when seeking advice.
Both. At least in some aspects (like asking a guy about how to deal with guys). You wouldn't be qualified on how to give perform surgery if you weren't a surgeon. The same thing applies here: you're not qualified to give advice on guys unless you're a guy. (same thing for girls about girls)Who gives better relationship advice?
I think it's a tie really. Women are more perceptive in regard to the emotional aspects of relationships, while men tend to be more logical. I think both points of view should be considered when seeking advice.
Relationship advice about my date... Can anyone help?
Okay, well I'm in love with my girlfriend, she does everything in the world for me and I don't know what I would do without her.
Lately though, with school, finances, and family issues, I've been not so happy around her and over-controlling. I don't mean to be like this. What should I do? I don't want to lose her, but feel I've messed up so bad already that maybe I should just walk away.
I appreciate any help.
Thanks,
ChrisRelationship advice about my date... Can anyone help?
well apparently you didn't mess up too bad or she woulda just walked away. so what do you do?
number 1. stop making excuses for you recent behavior. it is what it is, and if you dont want to make a habit of it, then you need to drop the excuses and work on it.
number 2 you need to figure out what is important, you said in your explanation that ';well I'm in love with my girlfriend, she does everything in the world for me and I don't know what I would do without her.'; to me(on the outside looking in) that implies that you love her because she does things for you... so you dont want her, you need her. Thats what i've drawn from your question... so decide what you really want/need. you dont want to be with someone just because that are handy to have around, you want someone to be a partner with you in this world!
GL to you, you've got a lot of thinking to do, and some decisions to makeRelationship advice about my date... Can anyone help?
Explain everything to her and say that you're really really sorry. Be nice and honest, and don't be too vague. Good luck.
Answer mine?
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20090516003557AAngvV1
talk to her, if you trust her then tel her whats happening in your life an i guarentee that she will understand an it will not only help your freidnship but it will help you with things too. good luck
Lately though, with school, finances, and family issues, I've been not so happy around her and over-controlling. I don't mean to be like this. What should I do? I don't want to lose her, but feel I've messed up so bad already that maybe I should just walk away.
I appreciate any help.
Thanks,
ChrisRelationship advice about my date... Can anyone help?
well apparently you didn't mess up too bad or she woulda just walked away. so what do you do?
number 1. stop making excuses for you recent behavior. it is what it is, and if you dont want to make a habit of it, then you need to drop the excuses and work on it.
number 2 you need to figure out what is important, you said in your explanation that ';well I'm in love with my girlfriend, she does everything in the world for me and I don't know what I would do without her.'; to me(on the outside looking in) that implies that you love her because she does things for you... so you dont want her, you need her. Thats what i've drawn from your question... so decide what you really want/need. you dont want to be with someone just because that are handy to have around, you want someone to be a partner with you in this world!
GL to you, you've got a lot of thinking to do, and some decisions to makeRelationship advice about my date... Can anyone help?
Explain everything to her and say that you're really really sorry. Be nice and honest, and don't be too vague. Good luck.
Answer mine?
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20090516003557AAngvV1
talk to her, if you trust her then tel her whats happening in your life an i guarentee that she will understand an it will not only help your freidnship but it will help you with things too. good luck
Whats your best relationship advice?
on how to make a good thing last?Whats your best relationship advice?
Remember it's a partnership and a good relationship requires both parties to contribute equally. Communication is important, and owning your emotions is key. In an argument or moments of frustration, use ';I'; rather than ';You make me mad!'; Ex. '; I become upset when I feel un-important when my thought or concerns are not taken seriously.';
Also, remember everyone makes mistakes, work through them as best. Do not harbor resentment and bring up the past. Address issues when they arise, then put them behind you.
Compliment your partner, remind them why they are important to you and traits you like about them.
Don't over-think, over analyze the small things.Whats your best relationship advice?
love them like theres no tomorrow. tell them everyday, because you never know when you wont get to say it again for a while.
treat them like gold and let them know that they are the most important and special person in your life.
drop some subtle hints every once in a while so you dont seem so overbearing.
If you feel things changing between you...try to remember what it was like when you were first dating and bring some of those things back.
Surprise each other once in a while.
Talk about all of your problems...but don't dwell on them.
Do your best to steer clear of any temptations...like other people that might interfere with your relationship.
Treat the other like a piece of glass, you can do exciting and dangerous things while holding onto it, but know the rough areas of where to stay away from, where it could break away from your hands.
COMPROMISE! A relationship is give and take. if you take too much, the other is unhappy. if you give too much, then you are unhappy. it has to work both ways.
go into a relationship with honesty and be open to listen to the other persons wants and needs. Verball communication is sooo important along with respect.
Keep thing fresh and don't do the same thing everyday and every year. People are strange so you always have to work at your relationship.
chill out!
like i find that with alot of my friends, relationships fail because they make a big deal out of really un-important things. Also dont over analyze everything your guy says or does, most of the time its nothing
this website...seriously...
http://www.relationship-institute.com/fr鈥?/a>
i've been with my guy for over two years thanks for this website.
J.D., I guess that with a recent screwed-up relationship on my hands, I'm the last person to advise you on this. I should just read all the other answers you get. Good luck, girl.
always be friends first, then the rest will fall into place. being a good friend means, trust, caring, and overlooking the annoying details. Always communicate.
Does it exsists in our generation? Seems like we are all doomed. Try to keep the fire lit and woman STOP trying to change your man. We WON'T so if you can handle it than move on.
well in this world if u want a good relationship u should have 4 things and u will be good
LOVE
TRUST
FORGIVNESS
AND
UNESTY
well take it slow, dont rush into things such as sex.
as the old saying goes
';a girl worth kissing, is not easily kissed';
=)
be sincere. do not expect too much and do not blame. keep on doing selfless service and love unconditionally..
trust, communication, honesty
be yourself!!!!!!!
Listen, learn, and for love's sake, be honest.
Treat your partner as you would like to be treated.
Trust, be honest to each other all the time.
communicate.
just talking with someone trust honesty being there when they are down making them feel better
lower your expectations
don't fake it!
Loyalty, Trust.
if you ask me just be yourself and trust! ohhh...and never let him think your too up tight.
Trust
by doing only good things
dont screwww up.
and listen.
put pressure on the base, and it will last longereye color
Remember it's a partnership and a good relationship requires both parties to contribute equally. Communication is important, and owning your emotions is key. In an argument or moments of frustration, use ';I'; rather than ';You make me mad!'; Ex. '; I become upset when I feel un-important when my thought or concerns are not taken seriously.';
Also, remember everyone makes mistakes, work through them as best. Do not harbor resentment and bring up the past. Address issues when they arise, then put them behind you.
Compliment your partner, remind them why they are important to you and traits you like about them.
Don't over-think, over analyze the small things.Whats your best relationship advice?
love them like theres no tomorrow. tell them everyday, because you never know when you wont get to say it again for a while.
treat them like gold and let them know that they are the most important and special person in your life.
drop some subtle hints every once in a while so you dont seem so overbearing.
If you feel things changing between you...try to remember what it was like when you were first dating and bring some of those things back.
Surprise each other once in a while.
Talk about all of your problems...but don't dwell on them.
Do your best to steer clear of any temptations...like other people that might interfere with your relationship.
Treat the other like a piece of glass, you can do exciting and dangerous things while holding onto it, but know the rough areas of where to stay away from, where it could break away from your hands.
COMPROMISE! A relationship is give and take. if you take too much, the other is unhappy. if you give too much, then you are unhappy. it has to work both ways.
go into a relationship with honesty and be open to listen to the other persons wants and needs. Verball communication is sooo important along with respect.
Keep thing fresh and don't do the same thing everyday and every year. People are strange so you always have to work at your relationship.
chill out!
like i find that with alot of my friends, relationships fail because they make a big deal out of really un-important things. Also dont over analyze everything your guy says or does, most of the time its nothing
this website...seriously...
http://www.relationship-institute.com/fr鈥?/a>
i've been with my guy for over two years thanks for this website.
J.D., I guess that with a recent screwed-up relationship on my hands, I'm the last person to advise you on this. I should just read all the other answers you get. Good luck, girl.
always be friends first, then the rest will fall into place. being a good friend means, trust, caring, and overlooking the annoying details. Always communicate.
Does it exsists in our generation? Seems like we are all doomed. Try to keep the fire lit and woman STOP trying to change your man. We WON'T so if you can handle it than move on.
well in this world if u want a good relationship u should have 4 things and u will be good
LOVE
TRUST
FORGIVNESS
AND
UNESTY
well take it slow, dont rush into things such as sex.
as the old saying goes
';a girl worth kissing, is not easily kissed';
=)
be sincere. do not expect too much and do not blame. keep on doing selfless service and love unconditionally..
trust, communication, honesty
be yourself!!!!!!!
Listen, learn, and for love's sake, be honest.
Treat your partner as you would like to be treated.
Trust, be honest to each other all the time.
communicate.
just talking with someone trust honesty being there when they are down making them feel better
lower your expectations
don't fake it!
Loyalty, Trust.
if you ask me just be yourself and trust! ohhh...and never let him think your too up tight.
Trust
by doing only good things
dont screwww up.
and listen.
put pressure on the base, and it will last longer
What is good relationship advice?
if you like this guy but he have a girlfriend and you have a boyfriend
what would you most likely do to try to win his heart overWhat is good relationship advice?
I'm kind of in the same situation. Except I don't have a girl friend (I'm a guy). I like this girl who has (or until recently had) a boyfriend. For you I would say loose your boyfriend first. If your dating and you found you like someone else then your current relationship is not working. You need to end it, it's only fair. he does not need to be lead on.
Next, there is not much you can do except wait it out. If you try to break them up neither will be too happy with you. I also suggest that you get an Idea of what their relationship is. Is it something that is going to last, or at least last longer than you plan on waiting. If so then move on, it will only hurt waiting for something to end that is only growing stronger, or has no apparent end in sight. No of this sounds prabably like what you want to hear, but it's reality.
I'm going through something simular, and it tears at the heart. I hope you can find a way to navigate through this so that you can find some happiness. Best of luck!
what would you most likely do to try to win his heart overWhat is good relationship advice?
I'm kind of in the same situation. Except I don't have a girl friend (I'm a guy). I like this girl who has (or until recently had) a boyfriend. For you I would say loose your boyfriend first. If your dating and you found you like someone else then your current relationship is not working. You need to end it, it's only fair. he does not need to be lead on.
Next, there is not much you can do except wait it out. If you try to break them up neither will be too happy with you. I also suggest that you get an Idea of what their relationship is. Is it something that is going to last, or at least last longer than you plan on waiting. If so then move on, it will only hurt waiting for something to end that is only growing stronger, or has no apparent end in sight. No of this sounds prabably like what you want to hear, but it's reality.
I'm going through something simular, and it tears at the heart. I hope you can find a way to navigate through this so that you can find some happiness. Best of luck!
Thursday, December 31, 2009
I need some relationship advice concerning my girlfriend?
im in need of some serious advice. i have been with my girlfriend for over a year and a half now and we have seemed to enter a fork in the road. shes a senior in high school and im 2 years older than her and falling into a job that im making some serious money at. we have had a serious communication break down due to both of us being busy. i see her once a week and talk to her on the phone for maybe 2 or 3 minutes the days i dont see her. honestly im not satisfied with this and have let it be know but she doesnt seem to show the same concerns that i do and i feel this is a major problem. i do care about her and love her deeply which makes this that much harder. another thing is shes going to school in la next fall and im settled in boston in a new apartment and with a good job so i really dont know what to do. any advice or suggestions would be greatly appreciatted.I need some relationship advice concerning my girlfriend?
I know it's sad but you have probably grown apart and she just doesn't know what to say to you, which means she does not mean to hurt you. I dated the same boy all four years of high school. I was a yr younger so he waited for me and then the weekend that I graduated, we left town and started at the same college. By that time I had already started detaching from him but it was just too difficult to own up to. We lasted two semesters then he wanted to go on to another college and I stayed back. Funny thing, a couple of months ago we ran into eachother in a shop and decided to stop for coffee and talk. Although he was having a hard time with a divorce, we could agree that everything happens for a reason. We all grow and grow apart... it's just part of the process. Good luck to you.I need some relationship advice concerning my girlfriend?
well,have you thought about marriage?i know she is going to school in la but it sounds like its not going to work if she isnt going to stay around you. so if she cant make a change 4 u then pick up and move on u cant stop your life to wait on someone who isnt as serious about you as you r them. rember she IS younger. good luck. .
talk to her on the day you see her and ask her if she's willing to make it work and continue. ask her if she wants to keep the relationship going while shes in la so then you know how far to keep your hopes up and knows what is going to happen. Straight up talk to her and dont beat around the bush since it will only make things worse. Hopefully, she'll answer you truthfully. Good luck! Hope I helped!
~SmS~
My advice to you is to stay in Boston in your new apartment and good job, let her go to LA, and move on with your lives. You are too young to settle down or make a lifelong committment, and it doesn't sound like you have much of a relationship anyway.
the communication thing sounds just like what my bf and i are doing now. I wouldn't fret that too much though. It's what makes that one day you all see each other during the week that more special. You have the remember, it's not like you two don't want to see each other. You really can't b/c you are both busy working on your goals trying make a living - nothing wrong with that.
What I would mull over is the fact that she is moving so far away? Do you both want to do a long distance relationship? If you can't handle seeing each other only once a week then maybe her being in l.a. and you in boston won't work out. That is your big issue you both need to decide. Once you decide that then everything else will fall into place.
ok look you really love her so you dont wanna let her go but then again you cant be selffish you have to look at it from her point of veiw to what if shes not talkin to you or seeing as much as you would like for a reason did you ever wonder if she likes someone more tell her how you feel and see how she reacts if shes going to LA and your stayin in Boston then maybe you should break it off cause you dont wanna be to far away from eachother and make it more harder on both of you so tell her how you feel and see where it goes from there
I know it's sad but you have probably grown apart and she just doesn't know what to say to you, which means she does not mean to hurt you. I dated the same boy all four years of high school. I was a yr younger so he waited for me and then the weekend that I graduated, we left town and started at the same college. By that time I had already started detaching from him but it was just too difficult to own up to. We lasted two semesters then he wanted to go on to another college and I stayed back. Funny thing, a couple of months ago we ran into eachother in a shop and decided to stop for coffee and talk. Although he was having a hard time with a divorce, we could agree that everything happens for a reason. We all grow and grow apart... it's just part of the process. Good luck to you.I need some relationship advice concerning my girlfriend?
well,have you thought about marriage?i know she is going to school in la but it sounds like its not going to work if she isnt going to stay around you. so if she cant make a change 4 u then pick up and move on u cant stop your life to wait on someone who isnt as serious about you as you r them. rember she IS younger. good luck. .
talk to her on the day you see her and ask her if she's willing to make it work and continue. ask her if she wants to keep the relationship going while shes in la so then you know how far to keep your hopes up and knows what is going to happen. Straight up talk to her and dont beat around the bush since it will only make things worse. Hopefully, she'll answer you truthfully. Good luck! Hope I helped!
~SmS~
My advice to you is to stay in Boston in your new apartment and good job, let her go to LA, and move on with your lives. You are too young to settle down or make a lifelong committment, and it doesn't sound like you have much of a relationship anyway.
the communication thing sounds just like what my bf and i are doing now. I wouldn't fret that too much though. It's what makes that one day you all see each other during the week that more special. You have the remember, it's not like you two don't want to see each other. You really can't b/c you are both busy working on your goals trying make a living - nothing wrong with that.
What I would mull over is the fact that she is moving so far away? Do you both want to do a long distance relationship? If you can't handle seeing each other only once a week then maybe her being in l.a. and you in boston won't work out. That is your big issue you both need to decide. Once you decide that then everything else will fall into place.
ok look you really love her so you dont wanna let her go but then again you cant be selffish you have to look at it from her point of veiw to what if shes not talkin to you or seeing as much as you would like for a reason did you ever wonder if she likes someone more tell her how you feel and see how she reacts if shes going to LA and your stayin in Boston then maybe you should break it off cause you dont wanna be to far away from eachother and make it more harder on both of you so tell her how you feel and see where it goes from there
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